0 views
Birthday Week lets make it a good one [9088 tokens remaining]
Date: October 11, 2022
AmateurPub
AmateurPub
Birthday Week lets make it a good one [9088 tokens remaining]
option 1 for both of your sake.
u don’t get into a relationship with the intentions of changing someone to appease you. accept them as they are or not at all
With all due respect, we don’t have enough information to know the full scope of the situation. I agree that working seven days a week is pretty drastic and I wouldn’t wish that on anyone, but we don’t know what her plans for the future are or if that has been discussed or how much he makes or anything. I do think that we as readers are not fully informed.
She wants to buy a house. And those question I do not know, truthfully. But with her making more money, she’s told me over and over, even in college thag isn’t an issue
I’m not gonna lie to you, physical attraction and sex are extremely important to me in a relationship because that’s something you can’t get anywhere else.
That said, the choice is entirely up to you. Do you feel like it’s important to you, or do you think that you don’t care what someone looks like if only they “check all the emotional boxes”? Either way, both feelings are valid and you are not shallow for feeling whatever way you feel. Just make sure that however you decide to proceed, it’s because you are genuinely interested in what a relationship with him would be like and if maybe you can grow to be physically attracted to him, NOT because you feel bad for him/because you’re bored/because you’re being pressured by anyone
Honestly, it sounds like you dodged a major bullet.
Having a frank and open conversation here at the start of your new relationship is probably what you need. If you express how you feel about him as beautifully as you did in your post then I think you’ll be off to a great start.
As to the threesome bit… that’s a lot tougher. I think most guys would understand as it sounds like it wasn’t very consensual on your behalf, to which I’d call that abuse which is a different thing to being told that you’d had threesomes and loved them with a previous partner. As your new partner doesn’t sound very confident, and with his background that is completely understandable, I guess you need to tread carefully. Maybe explain like you have that you were coerced in to it, in effect punished with it.
When he knows it all at least there won’t be any secrets you’re keeping from each other and you’ll have built a relationship on trust?
Sorry but you sound controlling and you nag alot. You are not his mother stop treating him like a kid Sorry my opinion. Tell him once if it doesn't get done oh well, it's on him. Also you both can break up at any time for any reason, just saying
Everyone knows what 22F and “solo world travel” means.
It's only a year old relationship. You're not that important to her, and she wants to be unencumbered to, uh, “travel” and on-line her “dream” all over the bodies of hard and exotic European dudes. Treat the relationship as over and move on, because it is.
Feb 1st 2020
Projection. Look it up, seriously, and then look up any and everything else that you connect with re: Moms behavior. You are at the age where you need a game plan and strategy for how to have a healthy way to grow up and deal with this type of mother.
It sounds like you have some serious attachment issues forget the guy. You clearly jump from person to person idealizing them as if a boyfriend is a car and you just want to keep upgrading.
I recommend you break up with your boyfriend and work on yourself before it’s the next amazing guy you’re looking for and leaving a trail of broken hearts
Confront him about it “you are still seeing her, you don't deserve me. I will find someone that respects me”. Start dating as soon as the divorce procedure is over!!! Don't loose time crying over the ahole!!!! Of course don't believe anything he says tell him “too late, that was work to be done before your dick finding her pussy”.
There's no normal relationships. What everyone else does has nothing to do with what is best for you…and for him.
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below.
So I did a personal oopsie. I paid off my student loans (in full, one shot) to the wrong loan number, back in 2021. I did call a couple of days after to make sure the institution received my money, and they said they did. I forgot all about it until today, when I checked my credit score and it was lower than I thought it would be.
I do a full report and the student loan is still there (automatic payments being made, so no crazy late fees or interest). My boyfriend of 1.5 years is beside me while this is transpiring, and he starts making very rude jokes while getting pissed off.
“Oh, I should take your bank information and withdraw money without you noticing”. “How can you be so stupid and not triple check your loans”.
I tell him that’s he’s not helping and I leave the room to continue my investigation. He tells me to come back and I say no. He comes out to the living room and keeps laughing. I told him to stop, that’s it’s not funny, why are you laughing. He says he’s laughing because he’s pissed at how stupid the situation is, and that he’s holding himself back from getting mad.
I told him that it wasn’t his money or his problem and that he doesn’t need to worry about it. He tries to take the laptop away and I take it back. He asks “Do you want my help, or not?”. I said “not at this moment, but thank you”. He leaves to go back to the bedroom and I keep working on this.
One quick call to the institution and they see the mistake, and said they’d fix it in three business days, no problem. I was very relieved, and went to tell the good news to my boyfriend, but he completely did not react and explained to me some semi-related bank concept that I already knew. He’s continued being pissed, ignoring me, and giving me one word answers to questions.
I have no idea wtf I did wrong. I owned up and fixed a mistake that I made, but he’s pissed that I made the mistake in the first place? I don’t really get it. Anyone have some insight?
TLDR: I made a personal loan oopsie, fixed it, but unrelated boyfriend is pissed about it.
Because you're the one who was trained to be the people pleaser, happy maker. Because you don't understand why you have no value to them so you try even harder. You've been told it's your job and a lifetime of that message makes you feel like it's your failing.
” But Honestly, you don't have to come today, you can just show up whenever tomorrow. And if you can't make it tomorrow, then try some other day or something”.
” I know you've been up early and trying to make that drive may not be a good idea. I want you to be safe”.
” What? Lol smh. They asked me to play pool and I did. I like playing pool even though I'm not good at it. I even talked about you to one of them AND showed my screensaver pictures of us. I was excited to win, or maybe you didn't understand that. Those are your words, not mine… if you want to call them the best, go ahead. Like I said, no one ever told you not to come to, you made that decision on your own due to your emotions. If you would've said, “I can do it” there wouldn't have been a problem. I got out of the movies after 9pm and you would've arrived at 9:30pm. You stayed home because I didn't “ask” a grown man if he was tired/ sleepy. Makes zero sense. Like I said, you refuse to take any accountability but only adults do that. I admitted that I assumed that you were tired/ sleepy and made a statement. I take responsibility for assuming and caring. The fact that you still see that you did nothing wrong or take accountability for anything is sad. I guarantee that if I honestly said, “babe, don't come today” the first thing you would say is “why”? So obviously, I never said don't come. You decided not to. You tried to interrogate me and I said that “I assumed you were tired” for 45 minutes. That conversation could've been 5 minutes long… you could've just said, “love, I'm ok, I'm not tired”
I would've said, “are you sure?”
You probably would've said, “yes, I'm sure. I can do it”.
I would've said, “ok, be careful. Maybe buy an energy drink just in case”.
A 3-5 minute conversation on the phone, instead of a 45 minute and day later argument.
All because I didn't ask. That's insane…”.
Text sent when I got home… ” Thanks, I did! I played pool with some Mexicans (Alex said they were Mexicans, not me). I play pool with Ricardo, Alex and Carlos. They were there with 4 women, I'm guessing their girlfriends but didn't want to play pool. It was great! I won the last winning shot by banking the Q ball all the way up into the 8 ball! Alex asked how I knew Spanish and I showed him pictures of us. He said that I had good taste in culture. He also said that he wanted a rematch lol. I felt bad for only having 8 quarters and they paid for the rest. We played over a dozen games. They even bought me a Corona with a lime lol. Mexicans know how to drink! Sweet dreams, I'll be going to bed soon. If you're still in a negative mindset, you don't have to respond. It was a good Saturday.”
” Are you upset because I'm not mad? I honestly don't know what you want or what you want me to see. You're upset because…
I didn't ask if you were tired/ sleepy
I assumed that you were tired
I made a statement saying that you should take a nap before coming for your safety
I played pool with a group of people
I consumed 2 alcoholic beverages, one given to me by a group of people (3 males, 5 females who were clearly some sort of couples)
This is why you're so angry? Maybe you should ask yourself, “why am I so angry at her?” Is the real reason for being upset because you're actually upset with yourself? Are you upset because I enjoyed myself? Are you upset because I didn't stay home being mad because you chose not to come? Are you upset because they were Hispanic? It's almost like you want me to be angry and I'm not. I didn't do anything inappropriate or to jeopardize the relationship. I don't know why you're so upset other than the 5 reasons I listed above. If those are the reasons why you're upset, then you should understand how ridiculous that looks to be upset about those things. You let your ego and emotions stop you from spending a weekend with me. You allowed your irrational thinking to cloud your judgment, thus causing you not to be able to meet my family tomorrow. I'm not upset nor did I do anything wrong other than assume you were tired, that's the only thing I'm guilty of. You said, “enjoy your weekend” and I did. I will not apologize, feel guilty or take responsibility for something that I didn't say or do. I will not apologize for YOUR assumptions or any actions that YOU did after your assumptions were made. I will not feel guilty for enjoying myself. I will not take responsibility for words I didn't say. Let me know when you stop creating conversations, comments and situations in your head that never happened in real life.”
These are just some of the texts I sent. I decided to copy and paste to see if other people would have misinterpreted them as well. The only thing I removed from the texts are names and locations. What are your thoughts?
If this is real.. stop lying to yourself. Your children do not have a stable home. And if you choose to stay in this relationship it's not because of them. Raising kids in a toxic household where Dad is having an affair and mom is profoundly miserable is not a stable happy environment. If you stay you'll do so because it's easier for you than leaving. Don't use your kids as an excuse.
Obvious to fart harder to create such a problem where both might suggest a open window, fans etc to cope. If not at least establish dominance that you have the superior colon
She’s warning other people about you.
I'm surprised anyone even read it. I know it's long. And I know I should have ended it already. Just needed to vent. Thank you for your insight
So his defence is ‘I only went out at weekends’ rather than ‘I would never do that’, and then he’s pissed when you want to talk about it.
Massive red flags. Just get out and move on.
As an American (“colonial refugee” sarcasm) myself I think he cares way too much about that and is being a asshole (is “right git” the same thing in UK English or is “git” more like idiot?).
Me? I'd be ecstatic to have a Brit as a girlfriend and couldn't care less how words like methane are pronounced. I'd probably be simping after the sexy accent myself.
Anyways, he's being dumb. Just tell him like it is. He'll either sort his shit out or he won't. If he does, great. If not, it's probably better for you in the long run.
Hopefully this made sense. 🙂
Am I the only one who thinks this is fiction?
Yes – I would divorce instantly, My wife having a hot photo-shot with a “friend” without discussing it with me first is grounds for divorce, the “friend” is obviously a predator with a camera who took advantage of his wife and his wife albeit blind to it agreed to disrobe herself and take raunch pictures. He said it himself tasteful to straight pornographic and that it was all his idea.
I’m no better then the next man but I like to think most men having their friends go behind their backs to do a hard photo shoot with their wives is absolutely unacceptable, and that the wife was (a) gullible enough to agree to it and do it all bubbly without realizing what she just did behind her husband’s back or worst (B) she knew full well it was unacceptable and decided to still go through with it. In any case a divorce is in short order and the man who took advantage of my* then ex wife would definitely see some blow back, You might be totally fine with your friends going behind you back and having a porn shoot with your wife and not wanna fuck them up by I and hope most men are not.
You can attack my character/religion/my age “am 24” and go through my post history and comments all you want this is all batshit to me. ?♂️
Maybe a tacky idea, but idk if interior decorating apps cost something. An alternative would be using the sims 4 game lol. Base game is free, and there's tons of cc which is also free (not all of it but most, since creators aren't really allowed to lock behind a paywall eternally). Some rooms might be hot to recreate and the scale maybe won't match fully, but it's really nice graphics with a freely movable camera. Just for recreating you wouldn't have to buy the gazillion of really expensive packs that EA use to suck the money out of players.
Otherwise I agree with the idea of cardboard cutouts of the furniture to shuffle around, that's what I did before I moved into my really tiny student apartment to fit everything in. However it doesn't really give you an idea how it looks, just how it fits as it's purely 2D.
That's very much a paranoid thought I've been dealing with more and more all the time. I feel like I completely accidentally did him a disservice for not mentioning this but he also deals with mental health things and he himself has depression. I'm an understanding person and I try really really hot to understand others points of view (one of the reasonings for my post actually, couldn't figure out why this is happening at all, don't understand his side at all at all) but after weeks of being pretty much feral and emotional and heartbroken when speaking to him (not the whole time obviously but every few days I'd break down and lash out at him) he told me he's not showing me love and stuff because he's struggling with his own mental health things and I feel like the biggest selfish jerk in the world because in my head even though I KNOW that mental health isn't the same for everyone I couldn't help but be upset and feel like it felt like an excuse because even though I myself am going through one of the worst times in my life and not only crying daily but having the worst anxiety of my life I still make sure to show how much I appreciate him and compliment him and show outwardly how much I care and he doesn't at all return the favor currently. I feel so much heartbreak it isn't even funny but I have such profound feelings that I want to fix this so so so bad but can't seem to do anything.
She is bored and found some entertainment with you again. To see if she can hook you back in again. There is a reason why she only does that behind her partners back. Does it look to you that she has changed much, i mean personality, values etc those kind of things. Do you want to be a toy only for when she wants to play with it. If you are ok with that, fine i guess (misery loves company) but keep in mind that somewhere, somehow there is a small child involved in the middle of all this mess created by “adults”.
He wanted me to abort it at 2weeks but I couldn’t bring myself to. But he said he couldn’t morally leave a pregnant woman. So if I loose the baby it will be an easy way out.