This will get worse. Leave him. Then block him everywhere. He will try to guilt you back by saying stuff like “but don't you miss my family?”
I went through this with my first sons bio dad. He did just what your bf did. I stayed. Then he REALLY started hitting me. I left after he hut me when I was pregnant and I realized he would hit my kid too. No way I was having that.
You deserve so much better. Please leave your bf. Have family help or call someone at a womens shelter to help if you are scared. No one should ever, ever touch you unless it is with your full, enthusiastic consent.
A lot of people don’t really care for all that mess. I’ll be sellin my house soon enough and buying 20 acres of woods, build a house in the center and start a small farm like I was raised on. Public can fuck off. Just waiting for most of the 4 kids we have to move out.
She has never been on birth control. Which is why I am wondering if she just got confused about it all since she has never taken it.
I don’t want there to be something fishy going on but these responses and now thinking about what I walked in on more… idk it’s not good. And it sucks because we have had an AMAZING relationship for two and a half years and I love her so much.
You can tell him that you do not appreciate it when people mock or joke around your beliefs.
You respect others for who they are, and what they believe in (or don't), instead of judging them for it or making harmful jokes.
For a 40 year old man, it is kind of immature. And when you tell him about this and if he cannot be more understanding towards you and keeps doing that, perhaps this isn't worth that shot.
How can he be not ready if he already leads a relationship with you? Like you can't hang out or be anymore close with each other, so just put a fucking label on it and tell him to unclench his asshole.
My sister was my best friend for 30 years, this sort of thing started happening when we were in our mid-20s. By the time I was 40, I realized the wasn’t ever going to grow up. It’s so sad. Love your sentence, “We ARE the company we keep.”
If you’re in therapy, and you take medication, there’s something about them that’s not working. Are you practicing coping strategies for dealing with your anxiety?
No it doesn't. It does mean that he does have weird roommates with unstable behaviors.
Imagine you were a single woman in your own home and you hear noises. Think about that! The roommate thought there was at least one intruder. She corners OP and gets her identity confirmed by the bf and then lets her go. The bf majorly fucked up my not texting his roommates to tell them that a complete stranger was in their house. OP isnlucky she was not killed!
But I bet there is a lot of other weird shit going on.
thank you for taking the time to respond. i really appreciate it!!
i did sort of realise that he didn’t want to continue anymore which was why i wanted to talk to him about it but he was always telling me he wasnt in the mood. prior to that, he told me that he was mentally down bad so i assumed thats related and didnt want to stress him out further.
even on the night we last met, the night he had a breakdown, i was there to talk to him in person. but after seeing him like that, i just couldnt bring myself to talk about it. he also said some worrying things and i just didnt want to let him go through it alone.
but i do genuinely want to know why you think that the breakdown is bullshit. i have never seen anything like that (also because i have never been in an official relationship before). do some people really go to that extend just to break up with someone? isnt it just easier to just say that we’re not the right fit and i wouldve just moved on
You broke his trust but more importantly…do you love him? It sounds like you feel tied to him but you cheated just a few months in. Take that as a sign this was not meant to be.
This will get worse. Leave him. Then block him everywhere. He will try to guilt you back by saying stuff like “but don't you miss my family?”
I went through this with my first sons bio dad. He did just what your bf did. I stayed. Then he REALLY started hitting me. I left after he hut me when I was pregnant and I realized he would hit my kid too. No way I was having that.
You deserve so much better. Please leave your bf. Have family help or call someone at a womens shelter to help if you are scared. No one should ever, ever touch you unless it is with your full, enthusiastic consent.
You do not. You messed up on this one. Treat the next one better. Live! and learn.
A lot of people don’t really care for all that mess. I’ll be sellin my house soon enough and buying 20 acres of woods, build a house in the center and start a small farm like I was raised on. Public can fuck off. Just waiting for most of the 4 kids we have to move out.
She has never been on birth control. Which is why I am wondering if she just got confused about it all since she has never taken it.
I don’t want there to be something fishy going on but these responses and now thinking about what I walked in on more… idk it’s not good. And it sucks because we have had an AMAZING relationship for two and a half years and I love her so much.
You can tell him that you do not appreciate it when people mock or joke around your beliefs.
You respect others for who they are, and what they believe in (or don't), instead of judging them for it or making harmful jokes.
For a 40 year old man, it is kind of immature. And when you tell him about this and if he cannot be more understanding towards you and keeps doing that, perhaps this isn't worth that shot.
You deserve respect.
This is so, so gross. I’m just glad OP hasn’t driven them into a lake yet, or locked them in her in laws attic to make paper flowers.
6 months is about right.
How can he be not ready if he already leads a relationship with you? Like you can't hang out or be anymore close with each other, so just put a fucking label on it and tell him to unclench his asshole.
Kinda silly ngl.
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My sister was my best friend for 30 years, this sort of thing started happening when we were in our mid-20s. By the time I was 40, I realized the wasn’t ever going to grow up. It’s so sad. Love your sentence, “We ARE the company we keep.”
Ok thank you.
If you’re in therapy, and you take medication, there’s something about them that’s not working. Are you practicing coping strategies for dealing with your anxiety?
ADD, ADHD, OCD, and Bipolar when he was younger
ADD is ADHD…. he wouldn't have been diagnosed with both. ADD isn't even a medical diagnosis anymore. It's an outdated term used for Innattentive ADHD.
No it doesn't. It does mean that he does have weird roommates with unstable behaviors.
Imagine you were a single woman in your own home and you hear noises. Think about that! The roommate thought there was at least one intruder. She corners OP and gets her identity confirmed by the bf and then lets her go. The bf majorly fucked up my not texting his roommates to tell them that a complete stranger was in their house. OP isnlucky she was not killed!
But I bet there is a lot of other weird shit going on.
She's not your BFF. You are the CONVINIENT friend she calls for a back up scenario.
I say start branching out and meet women who genuinely appreciate your love and support.
thank you for taking the time to respond. i really appreciate it!!
i did sort of realise that he didn’t want to continue anymore which was why i wanted to talk to him about it but he was always telling me he wasnt in the mood. prior to that, he told me that he was mentally down bad so i assumed thats related and didnt want to stress him out further.
even on the night we last met, the night he had a breakdown, i was there to talk to him in person. but after seeing him like that, i just couldnt bring myself to talk about it. he also said some worrying things and i just didnt want to let him go through it alone.
but i do genuinely want to know why you think that the breakdown is bullshit. i have never seen anything like that (also because i have never been in an official relationship before). do some people really go to that extend just to break up with someone? isnt it just easier to just say that we’re not the right fit and i wouldve just moved on
You broke his trust but more importantly…do you love him? It sounds like you feel tied to him but you cheated just a few months in. Take that as a sign this was not meant to be.