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♥, FINGER PUSSY ♥ [Multi Goal]
Date: October 4, 2022
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♥, FINGER PUSSY ♥ [Multi Goal]
This isn't about me. I don't care what other people think. My friend saved up thousands and planned for months for her day. And we stole the spotlight.
Sure there's people who wouldn't mind their friend getting proposed to at their wedding but the majority would and if he thought about it for even a second he would have at least asked, For me, what he did was inconsiderate and selfish.
Even if he didn't think about it, the least he could do was apologize. It's not like I rejected him and didn't tell him why. I explained why this was so messed up and how hurt my friend is.
I don't have to beg for his forgiveness. If anything, he has to beg for my friend's.
Was recently in a similar situation, SO went back home for work & family celebrations and communication dropped despite some unfortunate events on my side (+ 9hrs time difference).
But I know him, trust him and when I noticed he hadn't listened to my voice note for two days, I just shot him a cheeky message about feeling neglected and boom, an avalanche of photos and a time proposal for a call. Just voice your concerns if you have them. People have different communication styles, my SO always wants to show me pictures and tell me the stories in person once he gets back. It definitely is different when in LDR, but I guess every couple has to figure out the right way to communicate so that everyone's happy.
Make the choice easy for her. Don't do this to yourself by staying with someone who has admitted they'd be with someone else if they could
Time to get a lawyer and hit the gym.
It sounds like you're feeling hurt and confused by your boyfriend's comments. It's never okay for someone to express homophobia, and it's understandable that you would be upset by what he has said. However, it's important to remember that everyone has their own beliefs and opinions, and it's not always easy to change someone's views, especially if they come from a different cultural or religious background.
It's ultimately up to you to decide what you want to do in this situation. However, if you want to try to work through this with your boyfriend, you could try talking to him about how his comments make you feel and why you don't agree with them. It's important to communicate openly and honestly with each other, and to try to understand each other's perspectives. It may also be helpful for both of you to learn more about LGBTQ+ issues and to seek support from friends, family, or a counselor if needed.
At the end of the day, it's up to you to decide what is best for you and your relationship. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who respects and supports you, and if your boyfriend is unwilling to change his views, you may need to consider whether this relationship is healthy for you.
So if I understand correctly, she is in a relationship with someone and still seeing you?
Anyways it now appears shes in a relationship haha
I know the agony behind that 'haha' bro, trust me. You're not heartbroken, but just kinda funnily pissed or annoyed. I was in a very similar situation as you, except I was head over heels for her before I asked her out.
Anyways, she sounds like she has no clue what she wants, plus she is being coy with her current relationship (if I understood that correctly). You're right about you being on the burner. You're on the hook while she's exploring other options, hence why she doesn't wanna screw it up with you.
Now personally, I don't think she's doing it intentionally to hurt you or something, but she is most probably not too stupid to not realise what she is doing. So I think she was kinda truthful in her reasoning, except she had no idea what she was looking for (and prolly still doesn't).
In my case, I completely deleted this person out of my life and my life has been wonderful ever since. Yes, I don't have that particular wholesome friendship in my life anymore, but that means I'm not settling for anything and have one less toxic (affecting me negatively) person in my life to worry about.
It’s a gigantic red flag for a man to lose interest in physical intimacy or sex like this. I would dig deeper.
It wasn’t hurtful to me tho. I thought he was joking. That’s why i jokes the same way. But he got hurt. Even tho i will apologize i still feel is important for him to see the double standard about my and his culture and how he can joke about mine but he felt offended when it was his. Not because i was hurt but for him to reflect about his humor too
You've not even been dating for a year, and it's been ld. Sorry to say but all those mini vacations don't really show if you're compatible or not.
…are you fr right now? You seriously sat there and wrote this entire thing and think your bf is crazy? I would ask for a DNA test too. And frankly you would be single by now
He has every right to get a test before he is stuck financially responsible for someone else's kid. You have shown you can't be trusted. Hopefully, he will take your cheating ass to court and gets his test and a custody order.
I’d absolutely get outta thier suspicion is enough
She could give you an STI and the one meeting you plan on having could not work resulting in resentment
your family could find out aswell the child if it works can claim your and your family’s money if they don’t have iron clad wills. do you really want to risk that? why do you even think to consider this when you are only 24…think about your future please!
Yeahh, thank youu! :))
You're about to be 30, it's fine.
Darn man! You spoke words of truth. I am guessing it may be because she is younger. Do you think older women will act this way too?
Thank them and let them pay for it.
Go alone, look better than ever, and pick up someone at the event
Welcome to married life hun, you'll probably never get the answer you want
The only friends i have here so far are his friends/partners of his friends so not really
Don’t work on this relationship. You deserve better.
So leave, and you’ll know that once the heartbreak fades a little.
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Your husband is not oblivious to the BULLSHIT he do. Your is a STUPID DAMN IDIOT. You have let him get away with a lot of BULLSHIT that he doesn't RESPECT YOU.
Would you rather he straight out say “hey, our kid doesn’t look like either of us. Can we get a paternity test because this makes no sense?” That would much more obviously imply he thinks she cheated. How do you think he should approach the situation? Any rational person who has never cheated would just take the damn 23 and me test and not even jump to the conclusion that their husband thinks they’ve cheated, unless they cheated. If she really thinks that was intention, why not just take it to ease his nerves? He went about it as cautiously as possible, even though I still highly doubt his intention was for paternity reasons. Again, a lot of people find 23 and me tests simply fun and interesting, believe it or not
Sounds like a good deal for her to have a guy who loves her in her life, but unfortunately she isn’t respecting you.
At your age, you should learn now not to put up with that. There are girls who would be happy to have your love and affection and will return it.
How long have you been talking to each other?
What “world context” is making it nude for you to see each other?
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I guess we each have our own issues. She does a lot that really twists me up inside. However I think her problem with me is I try not to tell her what's bothering me cause I don't want to make her feel bad and I know she's going through alot but then the stuff builds in me and I always eventually snap at a random rude comment that pushes me to far and I release alot of the stuff I held back from saying. She spends a lot of time with some of her friends and none with me as of the last 2 months and I think she's come to rely on them for support. It hurts me a lot cause I feel like it robs us of our relationship. I believe in a relationship you should learn on each other and help each other through the bad. It's fine to also lean on others. But she doesn't lean on me at all anymore and I feel so lonely and abandoned. I no longer feel comfortable trying to lean on her cause I'm afraid I will topple it all over.
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There are a few couples who have made this work, but if it's not you, it's not.
OP, I don't understand. Does “talking to” mean dating these days? I have been married for 19 years so perhaps I am out of the loop on these things?
If you are just interested in her but not dating yet…I don't think you necessarily need to block someone. Are you upset because you are interested in her and she had sex with someone? I suggest telling her how you feel rather than block her in that case. Now…if you think she is being too permiscuous by getting drunk and sleeping with someone with whom she's not involved … then yes, by all means I would block the person. She definitely isn't concerned about diseases which is a problem today.
Then it is an argument you need to have. Stop avoiding it and for heavens sake, dont get married until this issue is resolved. Yes, it may lead to the end of the relationship, but at least you won't be committing to a life of misery and resentment because the two of you can't communicate like adults.
Married individuals become partners. There are a thousand different ways to manage the partnership, but you must have a common understanding. It sounds like she wants to put her head in the sand and refuses to openly talk about finances. I understand the mentality of the husband provider, but you are coasting your way into financial ruin. Together, you need to decide what you can afford. It requires compromise and joint effort. If she refuses to come to the table for open and honest conversation that doesn't put the full burden on you, walk away. If you don't, you will be pressured to shoulder all of the blame when things don't go well. Your self worth does not need that kind of abuse.
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As the title suggests, I found out that my bestfriend had inherited a crap load of money from her mothers passing about 10 years ago. (It's in the millions…)
She'd invested all of it and is basically set for life. Of course I'm happy for her but I have this terrible feeling of jealousy, I've been working naked for years trying to sort my own life out, still am and here my friend just has it all given to her.
I love her to bits but I'm so terribly jealous and annoyed how some people just happens to get everything handed to them.
What are your takes on what I'm feeling? How do you suggest I deal with these feelings? Because I find myself stuck, unable to ge rid of these terrible feelings
Honestly bro, you will never find someone who is 100% on the same page as you. Everyone is different. There will always be some things that you agree on, and some things you don't. No relationship or partner will ever be a perfect fit, and navigating those friction points is an important skill to learn.
By what you've said, your partner has been open and healthy about this, and she's respected your boundaries. She doesn't consider this a big deal, and she's happy to move on.
Turning 22 this year so i was 18*
Your wife basically got traumatized and had the opposite reaction as your mom but it's no less unhealthy. She needs to deal with it before she passed more trauma to your child.
Ignoring the relationship with your mom, your wife needs help before she hurts your child.
It's true, no one gives a damn about the girl's hypothetical bf. Stop bothering her, god
If you're happy with him it's water under the bridge. If that's the only thing he did significantly wrong in your entire relationship, perhaps you can forgive and move on.
I know I checked my husband's ID within the first few months. It also depends on what you want. Marriage, children etc..
My concern is that he's been with you for 4 years and haven't even proposed. Do you want marriage?
You’re so sweet! Thank you! Worked nude on all those degrees I’m not using… ?
You should be worried. Yes he loves you but the way he handles the situation with his ex tells me the real dealbreaker: he’s immature. He’s not adult enough to be in a serious relationship.
Ok, so obviously the sugar daddy is fine with it if his wallet is open, you can’t be in a relationship like this unless both parties consent to the terms, so is this a moral question? Is there a third party involved whose permission you really need and this is just looking for a way to justify it? He’s also 13 years older than you. 50 shades of grey is not a romance novel. I would be cautious.
She’s forcing her kink on you and not only have you not consented but you have made it clear you don’t want to and do not consent. Therefore what she is doing is violating you.
I have!!! But I have yet to buy the kit lol
age gap
the problem is that his grandma doesn’t like me , he’s a grandma’s boy . So when we started dating she got jealous of me . also I don’t want to include people from our life in our business.
I'm pointing out your complete logical fallacy, if showing off your nipples is fine because they're not sexual organs then so is showing off any other part of your body that isn't a sexual organ
Your boyfriend is keeping his boundaries vague to be able to fire on you if he feels something is not alright.
Be careful because this could be the prelude of him trying to isolate you from your male friends.
What you're gonna wanna do is block her everywhere. As someone with mental health issues, don't treat her any different than someone neurotypical. She did a terrible thing and deserves the consequences. Don't worry about her “episodes”; that's her problem and she can fix it alone.
Don't even think about taking her back. She'll do it again and feel like “he'll take me back anyways.”
He's trying to go after your ex. There's no good reason for him to pay her to move otherwise.
LOL. You just made this about gender – this was never about gender. Talk about arguing in bad faith. If the sexes were opposite, i.e. if OP was a man, and he woke up with his hand on his gf's vagina exactly the way OP described in her post, that would be sexual assault. Any other assumptions and ad hominem you want to throw at me?
Your boyfriend is for the streets
Thank you. If no one is laughing except the person making the joke, it’s not a funny joke. It’s mean.
Him: “You wouldn't bore me! Come on, what are you up to this weekend?” You: “Not as much as you, I'm sure. I bet your lovely wife and child keep you plenty busy!”
This is a very good response, if he's not completely stupid he'll understand…
Update:
Time to come clean to your mother and tell her that you have already done the test and she has one opportunity to tell you what has happened before you tell your father.
This is going to blow up OP whether you like it or not.
I think that would have been healthier for you lol.
At least now you know you're more capable than that.
I think you have a perfect storm here of competitive/jealous friend and weak boyfriend. I would say dump both of them. Remember, he can always unblock people so that proves nothing.
The lies. Starting out as a liar is the biggest red flag regardless of anything in your past / experiences. It’s just not normal human behavior to lie as a front when you’re trying to find someone. He should’ve told you how old he was within one or two messages, “hey btw I’m actually this age I just put that in there blah blah..” Instead, he baited you then came out with the truth. He seems like the “I do what I want then ask for forgiveness later” types.
Okay. I agree. I still feel terrible, especially after she messaged me: “You pretty much proved what I already knew. No man is going to fight for the boys and I. That dream is gone.”
That hurt. She’s definitely tugging at my heart strings and trying to make me feel bad.
Her moral compass is not aligned with yours. This probably won’t work in the long run
I don't need math to understand giving my partner freedom to visit her FAMILY
Never said it was
If she isn't heating the property then mould is inevitable
Updateme!
You do nothing with this pain. His pain is his to deal with until he asks for help. And if he asks for help, you do what he asks you to.
So far, he's asked for nothing. Respect that.
Plenty of men understand that they need to spend time on their partner until they get there, no matter how long that takes. And every time. I won’t be with one who doesn’t.
This would be a huge issue for me as I refuse to sleep with someone who is not as enthusiastic about my pleasure as I am about his. And I refuse to be with someone I refuse to sleep with….
I'd talk to her honestly about your needs, she can't know about them unless you tell her. Then you guys can figure out something, maybe she's comfortable pleasuring you sometimes but not having any of her own, maybe you can open the relationship on your end for strictly sexual relationships (hookups carry the least emotional weight, fwbs can work out as long as no one gets too attached). There's solutions available outside of breaking up, if you really love this girl and the only “issue” for you is the lack of sex. It's not selfish to want those needs to be met, it's selfish to not say anything and continue to let resentment or other harsh feelings build up. I wish you all the luck in the world man, and if you're curious about ethical non monogamy there's subs to ask questions to and plenty of folks who've had the same experiences and found solutions as well.
Idk why but I'm ?% sure he is trying to do one of those talk shit, make them feel bad about themselves so they think they can't do better numbers and he went way too far. Suppsoe to be like “Damn girl you drive a Ford Focus I had one of those when I was 16” or “You're so pretty for a big girl” or “Don't worry about those love handles I like my woman curvey” Its some manipulate bullshit guys with low self-esteem and too much time learn from “dating gurus” on you tube. It never works on anyone and has been being pushed since idk at least the 80s on guys that can't get laid. Doesn't matter if im right or wrong he's an asshole, tell him your gonna take this vag to someone who respects it.
I don’t think you grasp what love is. I think you’re confusing security, tradition and simply what you’re used to, for love. She humiliated you, broke your trust and ruined your life together. You still thought it was a great idea to keep her around. Then she did it again, as if the point wasn’t illustrated enough. Well ofc she did, there were zero implications the first time she cheated, why would she stop? Ofc they have continued their affair, why else would she be texting him, especially under a different name. And deleting the texts. Jesus man, you are seriously blind. Get a grip, kick her out, and never look back.
“Grab yer pick prospector Patty….them’s gold in thar hills!”
Hopefully this statement fills in some of the blanks.
Okay then we are talking. Regardless, at the airport he was fully hiding from me and totally apart from his friends….