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Be my king||| [265 tokens remaining]
Date: October 13, 2022
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Be my king||| [265 tokens remaining]
Leave her. Have some self respect. Shouldn't be a question about what to do.
You will never be able to trust her again
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I’d say it’s about regularity/patterns. F.e. if your partner does not listen to you talking about your day one Time = red flag, but if they are not caring about your days in general / almost never listen = deal breaker.
Yeah I suffered through this for years. You don't have to. Please choose yourself.
There's the lying, the lack of discipline/character and the disrespect for her and her boundaries. That's a lot. I'd make it clear that he's going to work his ass off to get my trust and respect back.
Don’t want to be rude, but I don’t tell many people I love them.
To you it's a meaningful phrase. To many others it just a greeting or something you say.
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She's not even trying to get revenge. She just wants to cheat. Andd to use his infidelity to excuse it.
In the end it was an issue of who does it first it seems.
I’ve got anxiety just thinking about my boyfriend contacting my boss behind my back & the two of them arranging an unplanned day off for me. How is this going to affect the perception my boss has of me? It’s a little parent calling in sick for their child. As a woman it can be hot being taken seriously to begin with. Was it paid? Did she have to use PTO? Is money tight? Does she even like the spa, or was this more something you like?
If marriage is important to you you need to make it a priority. What you don’t want to do is wake up at 40 and realise that you went along with some guys wish for his life and now your chance to find that marriage partner is smaller than it would have been at an earlier point of your life. What do YOU want?
I’m sorry, what?
You’re right, no abuser will introduce themselves like that. That sounds scary to me and almost makes me want to leave without giving an explanation. I’m just confused on what to do.
I am completely okay with porn. It’s not the fact that he watched it that’s the issue, it’s the fact that I am obviously trying to initiate everyday with him and he is saying that it’s simply because it hurts when that is obviously not the case. He said it hurts to even touch so that’s why there’s an issue. Of course in every relationship you want your partner to prefer you to porn but it’s not a jealousy thing, it’s an issue with our intimate life
NTA. No good man would demand you get rid of a dog youve bonded with and had over a decade. No man is worth that so you made a good choice. Sorry about the kid but dude shouldn't have pushed one of the deal breaker boundaries
He's 100% being a dick. However, based on the post, this seems to be the chain of events:
BF gets upset at something stupid live and is likely overreacting. He could've not liked you looking over his shoulder for any number of reasons, honestly. (I don't like the physical pushing if he didn't ask you to move first, but overall sounds nonviolent) BF is now in a bad mood but decides to get ready and make plans for the day while you're busy. You didn't like the plans he made and responded by crying. BF, already being on edge, feels bad about making you cry but does not think that crying is an appropriate response, and gets defensive. (I definitely have been in something like this before) Things spiral
From point 5 onwards, I took everything with a grain of salt because emotions were high and you both don't seem to really understand how the other is feeling. Seems fair to just leave it all as it is rn, since getting over this situation is just 1 more thing you'd need to work through with them (other than the assumed BF anger issues and your assumed sensitivity issues). Don't feel bad about it, shit happens, and he doesnt seem like a very stable person.
However, I will say that it sounds like your trauma (whatever that may be) is causing you problems in how you interact with people and that is not promising for future relationships. Your preexisting relationships are obviously fine because those people are aware and can keep you from being triggered. However, you cannot expect the same from strangers. Even people you have told might not fully understand the severity, circumstances, etc. For example, if a stranger were to say something that triggers a breakdown, it's not necessarily their fault. YOU, as a person who presumably wants to return to “normal” (i.e., how life would be if that trauma had not happened), need to take ownership of the fact that you're in command of your actions/reactions regardless of that past trauma. I know it can be tough to reprogram ourselves to respond to things differently, but at the end of the day, you're the only one who can do it for you
I know it’s cliche but have you tried therapy?