well, you gave us the answear on the last lines, snooping time man, look at apps you dont reconize and conversations, look though photos. if you have extra money, maybe a PI, she have all the red flags of someone whos cheating, even the past history of cheating she has, now its your time to find it out. and tbh, you dont start a serious relation with someone with history of cheating, if she cheated more than one time before, she will cheat on you too.
and even if you find nothing, theres noway a sexless relationship survive, so you are doomed anyways.
In a very similar way, this is like my older brother! He has also told our younger sister that he recognizes he was shit to me and understands why I don't want to speak to him.
Sister says he seems calmer than ever and changed, but I know it's because he removed himself from his triggers (our idiot parents and me, because I completely dismiss him). Like you, I have the mental trauma of how he treated me and I have a lot of balled-up anger that I didn't release at the time (I never hit him back). To be honest, he can fuck off, I just hate that he acts like he is the victim.
He was asking me for forgiveness and wanted us to be able to move on. In the email, he said that he is asking for my forgiveness to help in his recovery to become a better husband and dad.
Notice how he didn't say “to become a better brother…”! This is just for him, not for your benefit! You don't need to forgive him and have him back in your life! You had to run away from home at 18!!! He doesn't get to choose or force you to accept him back, F no!
He wants to become a better husband and dad? That's not on you, it's on him! It's not your fault that he might not be good at those. He's using they way he treated you as an excuse to his failures, because “ooh I used to beat my sister so bad that she had to run away. My life got so bad and now that I recognize I was bad to her, I can see that the fact she's avoiding me is what's making me stay a bad persooonn oohh boo hooo”!
This is triggering me because it sounds like something my brother would say!
OP, you've lived well without him in your life, keep him out! If you're petty like I am, keep ignoring him, delete any form of communication and block him, even!
You need to fix your codependency before you date again. Anyone can have a random work trip pop up at any time.
I’m not forcing her. I’m just extremely disappointed in her and she knows it.
It is time to make him into an ex husband.
This is a total insecurity control issue.
Where is your husband from?
I want to know so I can avoid that place and other idiots like him
Ridiculous
well, you gave us the answear on the last lines, snooping time man, look at apps you dont reconize and conversations, look though photos. if you have extra money, maybe a PI, she have all the red flags of someone whos cheating, even the past history of cheating she has, now its your time to find it out. and tbh, you dont start a serious relation with someone with history of cheating, if she cheated more than one time before, she will cheat on you too.
and even if you find nothing, theres noway a sexless relationship survive, so you are doomed anyways.
In a very similar way, this is like my older brother! He has also told our younger sister that he recognizes he was shit to me and understands why I don't want to speak to him.
Sister says he seems calmer than ever and changed, but I know it's because he removed himself from his triggers (our idiot parents and me, because I completely dismiss him). Like you, I have the mental trauma of how he treated me and I have a lot of balled-up anger that I didn't release at the time (I never hit him back). To be honest, he can fuck off, I just hate that he acts like he is the victim.
He was asking me for forgiveness and wanted us to be able to move on. In the email, he said that he is asking for my forgiveness to help in his recovery to become a better husband and dad.
Notice how he didn't say “to become a better brother…”! This is just for him, not for your benefit! You don't need to forgive him and have him back in your life! You had to run away from home at 18!!! He doesn't get to choose or force you to accept him back, F no!
He wants to become a better husband and dad? That's not on you, it's on him! It's not your fault that he might not be good at those. He's using they way he treated you as an excuse to his failures, because “ooh I used to beat my sister so bad that she had to run away. My life got so bad and now that I recognize I was bad to her, I can see that the fact she's avoiding me is what's making me stay a bad persooonn oohh boo hooo”!
This is triggering me because it sounds like something my brother would say!
OP, you've lived well without him in your life, keep him out! If you're petty like I am, keep ignoring him, delete any form of communication and block him, even!
Wish you luck
I think it is ridiculous they didn’t move the wedding date for your graduation. Congratulations!
You should tell her what she said and ask if she’s been faking