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Date: November 5, 2022
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New here! Let’s have a great start together! my vibetoy is on for more pleasure!
Sounds like he cheated too maybe and came clean about it? And it bothers him that she won’t? Just a guess
So I would try to have a sit down conversation with your husband to get on the same page- from the post it sounds like she kind of just did these things on her own like he (your husband) was just holding a fork out and passing a wine bottle like normal and she made it weird.
And it sounds like your husband also saw the weird behavior and is aware enough that it wasn’t normal.
So y’all should be able to come to the agreement as a couple and as a United front to take space in both of your friendships with this weird girl and y’all can both just forget about her and work on your couple more!
Mind your own business in the future and you won’t have to worry about stuff like this. If you’re going to involve yourself in someone else’s relationship, you need to shit or get off the pot. Hiding yourself to save face or “because you don’t want to get involved” is silly, because you’ve already involved yourself by telling this chick that your friend was cheating on her.
Second, if my friend was doing something I didn’t agree with, I’d do the friend thing and talk to them about it. Sneaking around to tell their girlfriend/boyfriend that they’re a scum bag to me is just as bad as their infidelity in their relationship. Why are you even friends if you can’t have that conversation?
Go date someone who doesn't like tattoos or let it be.
Her entire back story proves she's dishonest and can easily hide things with no problem. You probably realized this and how bad of a quality it is to have. It makes you feel uneasy because it's shady behavior
Speak to trusted adult NOW! Unfortunately going by your mum's age she could have been groomed herself too!
Please speak to someone NOW, you have nothing to feel guilty about, you need to keep yourself safe! You are doing all you can to keep yourself safe it's now time for an adult to take over.
Sounds like you live! rent free in her head. What a weird thing to do.
Oh this poor little child. This is so sad. For the absolute right now I think you might have to call work and explain the situation. I know she isn’t your child but you are all they have right now. If you gf works where does she send child during her work hours?
Do you have access to toddlers clothes? Get a little bag together. Nothing too complicated they are gonna need pants and T-shirts, good shoes and her coat. “Play” clothes essentially.
Food, kids are easy to feed. Sandwiches, chips, juice, fruit cups. Cereal in morning and in evening fries and chicken nuggets. You are on survival mode so don’t worry too much about the full, balanced and varied diet. For snacks, dry Cheerios, cheese crackers, cheese string. Fruit.
Entertainment, stick the tv on. The kids sections on Netflix’s have shows for preschoolers. Literally anything, they might even tell you what they like. If you have access to their home pick up a few toys for them. Again do worry about “tv is bad” you are not raising the child you are in survival mode. Take them to park. Fresh air wears a kid out.
Sleep! They will start acting grumpy after lunch because it’s nap time. Nice quite room, some white noise. At bedtime put in bath for 15 minutes. Load it up with bubbles. Then pjs and bed. If they have a teddy, find that teddy!!!
With toddlers it’s rinse and repeat everyday. So keep doing this until you find permanent solution. Essentially keep child warm, fed, watered. They are like a slightly complicated plants.
As for permanent solution. When is mum due out? You might just have to hold fort until Monday. If it’s longer then child services and explain the issue. Sometimes there are foster families for exactly this sort of event.
However, for now, until you figure something out. Warm, fed, and watered.
Is that better than remind me! 16 hours
Remind me! 16 hours
It's one or the other.
I did talk to her about it and told her it made me uncomfortable
Why?
Why do we need the explanation?
So basically:
You coerced your husband into ENM, which he didn't want. Then you invade his privacy by reading his messages. And now you're trying to control how he dates people?
I hope he finds a good spouse one day. You have some stuff to work out.
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Break up and try to find a guy who doesn’t care that you want to remain friends with men you sent nudes to. I’m sure there’s someone out there. That is unless your relationship with him is more important than with these dudes you sexted.
Oh that's disgusting… you need to leave. He doesn't respect you whatsoever.
I had to check your ages 3 times while reading this.
You're no Henry Cavill.
Henry Cavill would never date your girlfriend.
If either of you are confused about those facts, you need to see a therapist.
Otherwise, grow up.
You’ve been together for seven years, and he has credit card debt from ten years ago that he’s hidden from you? You really need to be open about finances and find out if there’s anything else. How much debt are we talking about?
If you do not want or feel ready for a child, don’t bring a human into this world to make someone’s “dream come true.” This could very well be a deal breaker for your relationship, but this decision could have a plethora of negative consequences in the future.
I feel strongly that partners should divulge their kinks to each other eventually. And the time to do that should be before something difficult to undo, like moving in together. The fact that it is gnawing at you is reason enough to tell him. You're in a good situation if you don't need or want your partner to help satisfy your kink.
What's missing is common shared experiences that people of the same generation would have. Give up on her. Find someone closer to your own age and stage in life.
Are you prepared to stay loyal and tell off new people you meet thst will give butterflies in stomach.
And if she's into the power dynamic she should go along with it, lol.
Habits can be hard to break, but not impossible.
It’s so sad all around, I just can’t imagine feeling like I had to end my relationship with my kid. And I mean, therapy isn’t magic, even with help she still just may have to close this door and it’s not Ops fault whatsoever.
Take it from a 33 year old man. Guys can be very emotionally unintelligent. We can also be very short sighted. Generally speaking, sex is a massive motivator for young men ( or men of any age really). I won’t go as far as saying he’s using you, but I will say, he’s putting all of his needs and wants above yours and he’s doing it unapologetically.
I would run far away from this one.
Deep breaths. You’ll be fine. I wish you luck!
He either trusts YOU or he doesn’t. What specifically makes him uncomfortable about this? I suspect it’s “I just don’t like it” which means … he doesn’t trust you.
So he essentially didn't take ownership of any of what he did. He blamed external events. Well, external stressful events happen, it's called life.
If he had actually changed, the explanation would not be to blame his job for beating up his girlfriend repeatedly. It would involve anger management training, therapy, things that involve self-reflection and admittance that he was a horrible person. And even if he had done all of that, you wouldn't need to stay.
I was a correctional officer once upon a time. We had a guy on death row for being black. The warden, the major, the captains and the lieutenants all stated together that he was obviously innocent. He had been convicted back in the 60s as a young man. I asked why he wasn't released. Apparently being actually innocent when 12 people snicker and say you're guilty makes you stuck. He was so old he wouldn't know how to function on the outside.
I talked to a guy in prison who was there for tearing down his own shed. He was charged with destruction of property and his lawyer convinced him paying a small fine would be cheap and easy. $14,000 became 14 months. His own shed. Not an insurance scam.
Another guy was there for vehicular homicide. He was sober, it was an accident, but a guy died in a sidewalk.
Then there were the 999 crew. That's how many years they were serving. Knew a bunch of them. “I'm a killer, I'll end you.”
My first week, they told us that not all inmates are the same, and some inmates were trying hard to ride out what was the worst portion of their lives.
So, you were 21 and she was 17.
Gross.
Yea, I’m not a fan of people living in stench. I would just be straight up and screw your sensitivity when it comes to hygiene.