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Tricky-Pixy Public Chat Channel
Date: November 18, 2022
AmateurPub
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Tricky-Pixy Public Chat Channel
I would suggest taking screenshots and having them as proof and confronting her,if she starts gas lighting and calling you out for checking her mobile just walk away without speaking anything.
If you don't want to confront her just send the screenshots to her and then fucking ghost her,block her on everything.
Some people are just attracted to toxic people.
Don’t be with someone who doesn’t choose you first.
It doesn't matter what her views are.. You're an adult, you don't have to listen to your mother anymore or care what she views you as.
You have self respect if you chose what YOU want to do..
Is he? Why is he reaching out to these women when none of them even have custody?
Destined to die slime is taking it a bit far. You’re the only one holding you back. It’s not like no one would be interested. You have one already so there can be more.
Look, if you can’t get past Michael, you MUST have a conversation about it with him. You’ve been pussy-fitting it too long. I’m not saying be bold and direct. Definitely go with your style, but it has to be clear communication. Write him a hand written letter, send an email, chat over coffee. Don’t talk about how great you think you’ll be together. Just get across that you really value your friendship and you can feel your feelings going deeper than that because he’s such a great guy and ask if he would like to explore that with you. You would like to go on a few no-pressure dates and if it takes off great, if not that’s fine too. It just means you have a great friendship where you can be this open.
BUT, with caution, if you go down that road and you love him but he decides it’s not for him, you need to distance yourself from this frIendship. It’s not that you don’t be friends anymore, but you’ll be the kind that calls at Christmas once a year. Then if you don’t want to be single, be proactive and date. You can’t complain about being single if you just sit around waiting for things to fall in your lap.
i don’t think things are ruined. perhaps when you have both been able to calm down and properly assess how each of you feel , it is good to have a conversation about it. i think everything is dependent on how each of you feel about it.
Yes, this definitely happens. It's not likely to come back.
I'd say at 29 you've enough life experience to make your own decisions regarding age gaps, you're old enough to know what you want out of life and to have put the getting to know yourself phase behind you
You are not a parent and are not qualified to tell someone else how to parent. Grow up, or just leave the man alone so he can parent the way he sees fit.
I personally think paternity tests should be mandatory. I’ve seen first hand what it does to someone growing up believing person A is parent, only to find out years later that person B was the parent-the fall out, the anger, the grief and the loss that paternity fraud can cause, it’s enough to totally destroy a person! I guess if you’ve stopped having kids, this is really a non-issue now and if you do choose to have another-well, you already know what his expectations are. Is he receptive to having an STD check, you know-just to be sure?
The GF is a victim
No she isn't.
She made a choice to stay “second fiddle” for 2 years. To the point where she let her resentment explode at a child merely mentioning her biological mother.
Not only that, but she demanded that this child recognise her self-appointed status as mother and forget her actual mom.
There is only one victim here and that's that innocent child.
People need to stop victimising this woman because she wasn't a victim, and painting her as such minimises the seriousness of what she did, and encourages OP to keep thinking she was a great woman who “just snapped” and deserves a second chance.
This woman shouldn't be anywhere near vulnerable children. She can't control her seething jealousy and temper.
But those things are negative and cruel. What he said wasn't. Is it that you don't want to mention your body at all? It kind of seems like a tall order.
Ok, I’ll set up an appointment and hopefully he’s willing to go again. Thank you.
This is the way
Have you asked her what she means?
No one is this stupid. He’s a troll.
No, I’m asking for advice. Who the fuck cares what I call it? Seriously
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I am so sorry. He just broke up with you. This is going to hurt. It will take a while but as soon as you feel mentally healthy enough, work on small personal goals for yourself. Be kind to yourself. This isn't your fault.
Get some self respect
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Don't say anything to them. Instead reach out to the website and explain the situation and ask them to make your profile invisible to the site but still available to your parents. It's an Indian dating site. I'm SURE they've had to deal with this situation before.
Please post an update when you've ended this. Thanks
This is very true. And I can't help but get the feeling that the whole marriage idea is not what he has planned. I have hinted and, yeah, I don't get those vibes. Sometimes I feel like he's just wsnting to take me because it suits him in that moment. I love him… but his priorities are all over the place.
You are teaching ypur husband that he can abuse you and disrespect you and you will still stay. Is that the relationship you want your kid to witness?
Herpes and HIV are super disappointing too.
Here is what I would do, since
He values communication a lot, as do I, and he is aware that I am on good terms with my ex gf and said he doesn’t mind if I stay in touch with her as long as boundaries aren’t crossed.
I'd just ask him, tell him how it is, ask if this is one of those boundaries that he doesn't want you to cross, and you are just asking, because you don't want to upset him.
What in God’s name does that mean? You were on a break? Ugh.
What is DH? All my brains sees is designated hitter.
So you want a mediocre sex life for years? This during your best time to ensure it’s not a problem?
Your insecurities won’t go anywhere because you haven’t resolved that issue. Forget that you don’t get past feeling made worthless.
You’re so welcome! I wish you and your friend the best. You’re a good egg for looking out for her ❤️
Yes, OP PLEASE stay connected with your family, abd also make a plan to leave. You deserve so much better than someone who says you'll be good for him in ten years. You deserve a person who loves you for who you are right now. He wants to control you. .
obviously
My family went through something very similar when I found out that my dad had been keeping my oldest brother (born before he met my mom) from us, also secretly sending him money.
OP, this is how you can refer to this girl, as your younger sister. A woman who grew up without her father and who had to go find him. Have some empathy for her at minimum.
So he says sorry but sets up no date?
It's your dog or your boyfriend. That doesn't make your boyfriend a bad person, but it's clear he can't live with the dog in a way that is healthy for either him or the dog. Everyone's telling you to choose the dog, because that's Reddit, but it's your decision to make. It's not an easy one, but your boyfriend isn't a villain here. It's just an incompatibility.
New option: find another job that isn't a god awful human cesspool. Don't step room in the breakroom again, don't attend any optional offsite gatherings, leave the office whenever possible and spend your free time outside of that place.
I already see someone for her trauma and we mainly talk about how I can be there for her, as I never experienced this before and at the start of her opening up at the beginning of our relationship I would get angry and only express anger and tell her that makes me feel sick and it would turn her off wanting to talk, now we are able to go in depth and she gets to vent and actually have someone hear her voice
You need to push back to his mental health care team. You need to be his partner, not his therapist.
Is your family home a safe olace? If so, move back there…stay dating but he needs to sort himself out. He needs to see his doctors and make plans and do all the things to get better.
Once he is doing better, then thr 2 of you can worm on if you stay together.
Read what I said.
You’re obviously average and clearly very closed minded.
(To be faire, some parts of the country are more religious, and they don’t love the gays. But for us that would not be an issue)
No, and why the hell should you stay!
Don’t blame your son’s distance on your ex “influencing him against” you. He was 19, not 9, and capable of thinking for himself. You did owe him an apology for cheating. You destroyed HIS family. That was very much his business. You were out of your mind to assume the woman who helped you destroy his family was welcome at his wedding. What on earth were you thinking?
I agree, I am stubborn and hold on to the experience I had. I’m trying to see others point of view as well.
Get to the source of what compelled you to do this.
Cheating isn’t a mistake. It’s a series of choices. It’s not different – apologetic or not
You are over reacting.
More likely she left the watch at work or loaned it to a coworker, or it just didn't register her not being somewhere else for a little while. Google maps had me at Walmart one day for several hours even though I had just stopped to grab milk and spent pretty much the whole day at home.
Yeah but there is more. Faking location is banned (at least in android) you need a workaround to do it. Faking Health app is easy with a legal app. This app simulates activity like you wish.
Tell her what you told us
Leave before you start paying for a child you don’t want and a boyfriend you never wanted
Imagine how humiliated you’re going to be when he gets caught jacking off at work! Depending on how and where he’s masturbating, he could get hit with charges. Then your whole life will be public gossip fodder!
This guy is an addict, and addicts will ruin your life.
End it. Move on. See a therapist and learn how to set appropriate boundaries. Learn to love yourself and have higher standards.
Considering OP is currently chatting up 18 year olds in different subs according to his comment history, I'm gonna make leap and say it's him.
What did they think would happen? Of all the self-entitled, narcissistic people I've met… Actions have consequences. You don't ask to sleep with another person while in a monogamous relationship unless you're prepared to throw all you have away! Just for sex? Damn… I don't blame you for shutting them out. I'd have done a lot worse than that, kids be damned. My partner can sleep with whomever they choose. What they can't do is come back to my bed, endangering my health and shattering my trust.
Had you both discussed and agreed that you were exclusive at this time? If not, that does change things.
What did they think would happen? Of all the self-entitled, narcissistic people I've met… Actions have consequences. You don't ask to sleep with another person while in a monogamous relationship unless you're prepared to throw all you have away! Just for sex? Damn… I don't blame you for shutting them out. I'd have done a lot worse than that, kids be damned. My partner can sleep with whomever they choose. What they can't do is come back to my bed, endangering my health and shattering my trust.
Really? Out of all friends he had to pick her?
Really? Out of all friends he had to pick her?
Really? Out of all friends he had to pick her?
Whoa whoa hold up everyone. It may be your team lead that spilt more beans somewhere else and then they said something. Had it happen here. Ask him and see if he tells you the truth.
These are red flags. Controlling people often have a “treats me well” side to them. He dis-regards your thoughts and he uses manipulation and physicality to try and control you, this is a sign he's not a good person to date.
That’s all I want! Come to the finish line for the big races, leave me be for the smaller ones and don’t shit on my hobby calling it weird
Yeah man send her a text
Tell her you left something behind when you dropped her off and you really need to come back and pick it up
When she asks you what it is let her know
That's movie quality set up , your girl will lead the convo from there.
Explaining myself isn’t trying to justify what I did/said… I’m just trying to explain why I’m so lost and confused. I’m trying to understand. Me saying he overreacted is more in response to the way he taken one incident to end us. I do accept what I did was wrong. I talk about his condition because I wonder if it’s related to some of his response to this matter.