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Won't he get into trouble for that? I don't think it's up to him. Or up to you. As far as I know, conversion is compulsory. But I'm no expert.
I suggest you look into conversion requirements before you go any further.
Personally asking for passwords to my personal data is a huge red flag for me. Although you should still definitely break up with this dude. Clearly a scumbag
Not that fast. She simply kept this information from the man for 2 whole years
Oh I’ve met them a bunch! They’re all really lovely. But not worth going into debt for. I can catch them at New Years!
He’s also brushing over the fact that 3 months ago he was “looking for a girl to sext” on here as well as having cheated on your gf and not telling her. Not sure what you want from us dude, karma’s a bitch
I hope you read this: he is using self harm as a manipulation tool.
It's calculative control tactic to guilt-trip you and trap you into a relationship where he is behaving in unsafe and toxic ways.
He is being abusive. He is using verbal abuse, threats of violence, and threats of self harm to upset you.
There are anonymous chats live that are specifically hotlines for these kind of domestic abuse situations. Please reach out to a professional and discuss this with them. You won't get in trouble, your boyfriend won't find out and nothing will happen unless you make it happen.
You don't deserve this type of mistreatment.
You need to tell her how you feel about it all. Stop seeing each other now or see how it goes after she moves.
Let me know how you get on buddy J ??
When she was 18 and you were 28.
She has BPD and is splitting…that’s what’s going on. Go to the BODLovedones subreddit and read their horror stories.
You’re right you should block her and be thankful you got out when you did. It’s lifelong and doesn’t get easier being together, do yourself a solid and block/move on…
Dude, you need to make it a priority for her. Sit her down, when she’s not rushing around organising other things, and say to her “baby, I really need you to read this letter now. I’ve poured my heart and soul into this letter and it would mean a lot to me if you read it, right here right now”. Sounds to me like she’s in holidays prep mode and has a million and 1 things going on in her head. She wants to find a time when she can be in the right headspace and emotional state to read a seemingly innocent love letter, but obviously doesn’t get the importance of it.
I hope you find a way for her to read it this side of Christmas dude, so you guys can celebrate with family over the holidays. Make sure you come and update us please! ?
Just test. It’s really not that expensive anymore. Test urself and ur husband and shut ur family up. Either it’s double match or double no. The solution really is simple here.
Same with single dad
You told her the first time and she chose to stay.
I would forget about it, him, and her. Just move along and let them deal with each other.
Maybe it’s a gift for a bro that helped him out with something?
What if he prefers to not go out and drink at bars with you and instead prefers to be at home or do things with her.
Big same. (I'm 5'4'' and have weighed everywhere from 180 down to 120 in healthy and unhealthy ways)
I have big hips though, if OP has a lean build under 120 might be okay but tbh I haven't seen anyone our height that looks healthy under 120..
I currently weigh 160 bc I got jacked. I have a bit of a power belly but I don't mind bc I got a dumpy and can lift heavy things. ?
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I'm starting to figure out why the kids wanted to stay with their mom.
So he needs to grow a spine and not make you the escape goat
That’s an awful lot of words for “I don’t know how to respect someone’s wishes.” It’s not your place to judge if she’s sitting home alone or feel entitled to her time. If you don’t like what she’s offering, find someone else. And maybe work on yourself in the meantime to stop being so needy.
I always say…staying for children is never a good reason…..
You are only as happy as your saddest child Your child is only as happy as their saddest parent Never met a child thar said I wish my parents stayed together unhappy. She clearly wants to find something better. You seem reasonable…you admitted you guys were growing a part and it took her kissing a guy, or more, to try for something better. She doesn't appreciate what she has so go find someone who appreciates you.
Everyone watches porn, unless it's excessive, illegal, or negatively affecting sex life there shouldn't be a problem.
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I gained weight. One day my husband traced his finger down the side of my body, following the new curve. He told me how much he loved that specific shape, that specific part. It gave me so much confidence.
He's since done it with other parts.
Don't tell her you find her sexier or more attractive. That will just make her feel like you didn't find the old her sexy. Just drop in compliments about how incredible certain soft bits feel. Tell her you love how soft and smooth her hips feel. Run your fingers over her stomach and breathe in that way that she knows means you like it.
If one of her family says anything about her gaining weight, butt in and say “doesn't she look amazing?!” As if you had no idea they meant it in a negative way.
I don’t think that you need any advice. I am so sorry that this happened to you. Make sure you get tested for stds
Some of my teeth are too close together for floss, so I use interdental/soft pics and they work great!!!
I’m black and Kate is being dramaticcccc. Unless someone is smothering their face with melted chocolate there’s no problem. I do cosplays as well and I have yet to cosplay any dark skinned characters, i’ve gotten no shit from ANYONE
That literally doesn’t matter at all. It doesn’t need to be about him for him to find it harmful.
Again not everyone is like you.
Nor is everyone like you. But that is how you presented why back when this kicked off…
Go back and read your original comment. You basically was calling out the gf, with your wild assumptions.
I don't give 1 shit about your boundaries, lol. You live in that bubble if it worlds for ya. So, been all girls? Totally cool?
You are the one who is being a child who failing to respect my opinion.
It difficult to respect someone who wants to make assumptions and treat their SO like property…
So, in the early 20s?
You both desperately need to work on your communication.
I never claimed it was a smart move or one that would be successful.
I'm an attorney but not YOUR attorney. I strongly suggest that you speak with a divorce attorney today and follow their advice to the letter. You are emotionally compromised, and it's in your best interest to speak with a professional to help you navigate this. Your future and finances are at serious risk at this moment.
And no her therapist OFC didn’t tell her to keep it a secret, how gullible are you? She lied.
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I only met this man a month ago. We have spent a lot of time together and have admitted to having feelings for one another. We haven't done anything beyond kiss literally twice. My mom is quite concerned but I don't believe her fears are justified.
He did not groom me, he has been very respectful, he hasn't pushed me to do anything inappropriate and has been totally accepting at keeping things at my pace. He has helped me with my studies, he's responsible, he works, I haven't seen any red flags. My mom doesn't trust him and its entirely because of our age gap. She genuinely believes he is targeting me because of my age and doesn't even want to consider that we may have genuine feelings for one another. I fully acknowledge im young and I accept that I could be misreading this but he hasn't behaved in any suspicious ways. He was even surprised to find out I was under 25.
Hey thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts.
I try my best to stay neutral because I've believe that most divorces aren't one person's fault, but a sort of snowball effect after open wounds don't heal. I also know that both her and his family didn't have many examples of healthy reconciliation, so I doubt they had the tools they needed and the maturity/long term planning to realize they're worth it.
Strangely, I think based on how she's been framing the relationship in the last few years, I imagine anyone else would be shocked to hear he is leaving her. She makes a great case for why she's been let down and, quantitatively, she contributes more to the household. I really don't think anyone in our family would judge her for it, and ideally would be supportive of her finding the best path forward for her own mental health and happiness.
I suppose it is possible she is seeking sympathy/attention.
The way you described it, though, him incrementally “leaving”, I think that's what at the core of this mindset for her. It almost seems like she wants sympathy from herself but can't find it. She mentions often how she's tired of being “strong” and “brave”.
You must really not mind the abuse that much.
All she has to do is cry the next day and blame her actions on some external thing to smooth it all over.
Waking you up to berate you and kick you out is some proper psychopath shit.
You are never ever the shitty person for asking for a DNA test when someone tells you they’re pregnant after a breakup. Anyone who tells you that is a petty immature asshole.
I’m a mom, and I think they should be standard across the board for everyone. Make it standard and get rid of the stigma around it. Men deserve to know for sure if that’s their kid.
I see in the comments that you’re confused why everyone is calling it abuse. Abuse doesn’t have to be physical. Yes, he slaps you, but you said it’s playful and light and all that and you don’t consider it abuse. But he’s continuing to do something that you have made VERY clear you don’t like and makes you uncomfortable. Why would someone choose to repeatedly do something to the person they love that they KNOW they hate? There’s no excuse for it. I have an extreme aversion to loud, sudden noises due to things in my past. When my bf & I had just met, he jokingly did something that was very sudden and loud & and I started crying. After that, he has gone lengths to make sure nothing is slammed down, doors are closed quietly, any jokes he plays have nothing to do with startling me etc. If he had continuously made loud, sudden noises around me after I told him how I felt, it would be abusive. Abuse is literally just treating someone cruelly, especially repeatedly. What he is doing is cruel.
My comment kinda got away from me…the point wasn’t to convince you that you’re being abused. The words used to describe what he’s doing really don’t matter. He did something you didn’t like, you told him how strongly against it you are and to stop and he is repeatedly doing it to you. You don’t have to tolerate or put up with this behavior. If he’s unwillingly to stop completely and apologize, I would strongly suggest leaving him.
First red flag for you, dude, is: “she wants MY house house which is in MY name to be up to HER standards”
What im hearing is; she needs you to pull weight around the house that YOU own that SHE is sick of being your maid for. Pick up after yourself.
You're framing yourself too nicely. I'd like to hear your wife's side. I have a feeling you're a lot less “chill” about pressuring her for sex, I bet you're messier than you think you are. Definitely try therapy. You need to hear your wife's side because I have the feeling it's definitely both of you and not just her.
Apart from all the ‘holy shit’ comments, let’s break it down. After having a baby it’s common for a woman not to have sex. Her body is hugely different, she’s exhausted, her hormones are screwed, and she’s leaking from everywhere. She’s ‘mummy’, not ‘sexy girlfriend’. Seeing a doctor to rule out depression, making sure she’s getting rest, some time away from the baby to be an adult, and doing things like date nights to bring the romance back in are all good starting points. Nobody feels sexy when they are exhausted and covered in vomit and haven’t washed their hair. This is when you have to be gentle and supportive. ‘What can I do?’ Is the way you should be addressing this. Your house comment is bullshit. It doesn’t matter who owns it, it’s the family home. Stop being a pig and clean up. Your baby is going to be crawling about the floors, putting things in her mouth, why is the house dirty? People will be coming by and she doesn’t want to be mortified. Keeping your house clean is basic adulting. Not offending people is basic adulting, and showing your partner affection is normal. What is her crime here? Not wanting her partner to offend her, return her affection and be clean? What has talking about boundaries got to do with you wanting sex? I don’t think you understand what boundaries are. You said that she complains you don’t return her affection, then say she doesn’t show you affection- what is it? Most women require an emotional bond. Sex won’t bring you together, you have to build the intimacy first. You both sound around ten years old. If she wants to make friends she has to join a class, a gym, a mother baby groups, or go volunteer. Potential friends aren’t going to chap the door. I don’t think either of you are remotely suitable to be in this relationship. Nobody can force you to argue, btw, but this is just a disaster. You both chose to bring a child into this dumpster fire, and she’s refusing the one thing that can help because she doesn’t understand it or know anything about it, I feel awful for your daughter.
I’ll give him props for at least being consistent. I think people who believe life starts at conception but think abortion is okay in cases of rape are ridiculous. Either it’s a life or it’s not.
This would be a dealbreaker for me because of the horrible, even possible legal, issues if I were to get pregnant. But, is it a dealbreaker for you? That’s the only thing that matters.
You work that out with the courts. Talk to a local family lawyer, they will fill you in better than I can.
Yea that isn't the reason it was just something my sister or family said to him the last time we talked about it I don't want to get married because of that at all he doesn't either I don't think
Why do you want to marry this guy? What does he actually bring to the table?
Honestly, you’ve reached the point where staying in this relationship is just self destructive… I hope you find the strength to leave, and soon.
Completely unrelated to your situation in many ways (I am not suggesting this as a solution)
But
That is honestly one of the things that led me to becoming polyamorous. I felt like I just had too much love for just one person. I do find it helpful, honestly. When I start feeling too clingy for one fiancé, I snuggle the next.
It’s very much only an option for people that happen to be poly tho.
Being poly by duress, or poly when you’re very much not poly, is really unhealthy (and from what I’ve heard from other poly people with BPD uniquely difficult in many ways mentally)
Dunno if I really have any advice for you, unfortunately. What worked for me won’t work for most people.
But I am happy to talk if you need to talk to someone, as someone who has felt that way before
I appreciate the advice. I think we both have a lot of work to do. I guess I thought I had a better handle of it. I just looked up the definition of verbal abuse.
Verbal abuse involves using words to name call, bully, demean, frighten, intimidate, or control another person. This can include overt verbal abuse such as yelling, screaming, or swearing.
I guess in my head the first sentence was verbal abuse and being in the heat of the moment and raising your voice wasn’t verbal abuse because my intentions weren’t to control or anything harmful but just happen. Felt like verbal abuse was nefarious and not something that could happen without me being aware I was doing it.
Ugh we both have tons of work to do but the main thing is knowing that there is a problem on my end and the ability to fix it. I’m going to give it everything I have to work on it. I do believe she said that just to upset me. I don’t think she would ever do that to our kids as it would absolutely devastate them. But yes just her saying that had me in pretty rough shape. Could barely keep it together today. Thanks again
She isn’t going to quit until the consequences become too much for her to stand. What consequences is she facing now? For all the fighting and other problems, you’re still around. No consequences there.
The three years you’ve invested in the relationship are in the past. You’re not getting them back regardless of whether she gets sober. So take them out of your decision making process. All that matters is whether there’s a realistic chance that she stops drinking. And in that question: See above.
Know what’s worse than giving up on a relationship after 3 years? Giving up after 4 or 5 or 7 or 15 and knowing you should have given up after 4.
I'm just trying to figure out how any of that makes her a hoe?
This is it. And she's asking what she can do to keep him. Wtf?
Um. This is not a you problem. This dude wants a fucking porn star/sex worker not a partner.
I’m sorry but this sounds terribly toxic and emotionally abusive and not a you problem at all.
What does your therapist say if you roll out this kind of situation?
It feels to me like he’s brainwashed you into thinking you have a responsibility to do what he wants, when he wants, how he wants and you’re constantly on eggshells wondering if it’s the right thing. And additionally, he expects to be able to touch/use your body how he wishes.
This sounds horrible! I (44F) would be done with that so fast his head would spin.
Sure, communicating your sexual needs or wants is great! But that doesn’t mean you’re entitled to them or receive them on demand.
This is just gross. And you’re turned inside out and upside down blaming yourself when he is the problem!
Dude you clearly have no empathy, how are you gonna sit here and refer to your youngest kid as “the child.” Clearly shows how little you see any of the other people in this story as human
On this front, I don't think either of you were really thinking about the other person when you reacted. Yes, he should think to stop expressing his anger physically if it scares you, but at the same time you were unable to control yourself when you started crying.
Overall it sounds like you both don't truly understand each other very well and based on this single event, you do not seem very compatible
Of course I do. If I could take the pregnancy, I would. But that's simply not how it is. And I'm more than capable of supporting her, but I'm worried that she has got too comfortable in her independence, even though she's not as happy as she could be
As I said in my post before, the one time we talked about it slightly directly, she said she was undecided. The thing that scares me, it is sounds like somehow she made up her mind in the meantime, but hasn't thought to actually tell me. I could be totally wrong about this, but it's scary when everything else between us is really great
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TLDR; my boyfriend has a friend that is obviously obsessed with him and when she was too messed up to drive home, she slept in bed with us even though I have established a boundary that I don't want them sleeping in bed together. They also napped in the same bed while I was in class and I'm not sure what to do about the situation even though we've already talked about it.
My boyfriend and I are in love with each other and he claims this was a huge mistake and promised me this would never happen again, but it's still eating away at me and I'm not sure what to do about the situation. He has a friend, Lily (fake name), that has an unhealthy obsession with him. For some context, she crushed on him at a job they both worked at and when he left for a different job, she followed him there and made it clear she wanted something more with him. My bf and I did take a break last year for some months because we jumped into a relationship we weren't ready for. We are back together and exclusive. During our break, I know they did some sexual things, but he claims they never had full blown intercourse. He says he regrets what he did with her, does not have any feelings for her, and truly wants to be with me. She still hates that we're dating, I've tried being nice and friendly to her, but she's intimidated by me and still does not like me.
The last time the three of us were together, she wasn't able to drive home, so I offered to buy her an Uber, which she refused. After taking some time to herself, she came back in the room where my boyfriend and I were laying in bed, she got into bed with us, and ended up sleeping there. Not only that, but when I went to class the next day and came back, they were taking a nap in bed together. I was pissed. I know she slept in bed with him on our break so I made it a clear boundary I did not want that to happen, no matter how much he claims it's just friendly. If she gets too messed up to go home, I said one of them needs to sleep on the couch and the other can sleep on the bed. After she left, I confronted him and asked why in the hell he let that happen. He said he just “gave up” on trying with her, and I said I don't care, he knows the boundary, and that it can NEVER happen again. I do believe he's telling the truth and that he really regrets that happened, but I need to hear some other advice. What should I ask him when I bring this up again?
Edit: I know the situation seems skeptical and the automatic solution would be to break up with him. If it comes to that, I will, but I’m asking for advice on how to better establish my boundaries and make sure they are not doing anything, which for now, I DO NOT BELIEVE THEY ARE. I want to know what to say to him when I speak to him, it may seem cut and dry but a lot of details here aren’t there that factor the situation. The goal is to NOT break up with him if I don’t have to.
You’ve already ‘tried’ it. It didn’t work.
Well if she truly cared about me like she said she did, wouldn't she have felt guilty like I did? And not go through with it?
My dad gave my a simple engagement ring and the surprised her with nice diamond trinity ring for their 21st wedding anniversary because now he could afford it.