I mean sure it might feel shitty but that doesn't excuse the fa t she's pressuring him into a huge decision
She can get her tubestied if it matter so much to her
And before i even hear it I understand a vasectomy Is much much easier to take and if both are committed to no children it should be a vacectomy but thats not the case here
He is not committed to the idea fully so of she's so for a permanent solution it should be her body that goes through it in this specific case
She's an asshole about this and if the situation was reversed blunt feelings or not the guy would be blasted so fast by all sides(and as he should)
Think of it this way: let’s see she somehow finds a magical way to “fix” her libido, and y’all end up having sex twice as often. So average maybe once a week, with off-times for the routine life events (getting sick, rough week at work, holidays with family, whatever). Would you be satisfied for the rest of your life with sex an average of once a week? Not even taking into account the fact that if you have kids, sex will decline precipitously again?
Some people just require more physical intimacy than others to feel fulfilled in their relationships. I’m 36m, high libido as well. I could have it 1-3x a day, my fiancée thankfully is also on the higher end of the spectrum (particularly during the follicular phase of her cycle… google it), but still, her preference is like 2-4x a week. In general, it works out that we have sex every other day on average, and sometimes randomly 2-3x in a day. But the times when we have gone a week or two without intimacy for whatever reasons, i really struggle too. At the end of the day, I feel like it’s much harder to connect with my partner without regular sex. A relationship where we frequently went weeks at a time without sex would be a bad fit for me.
So really what you need to decide is, can you live with infrequent intimacy, knowing that you have likely already passed the most sexual part of your relationship (the honeymoon phase a few years ago)? And understanding that it will likely only continue to decline in frequency over time? Would you be able to be happy and fulfilled?
The answer to that question should dictate your next moves.
Are you a long term partner? Are you not that close with the family? If my partners family member was having a wedding I would expect them to invite me instead of simply being a plus one.
Right? This “therapist” is clearly just using some psychology buzzwords (but not actual diagnoses) to justify why OP needs to bend over backwards for him. Ugh
You like someone who is this hypocritically insecure? And who also does not enjoy wings? Come on now, you know you can do better.
I mean sure it might feel shitty but that doesn't excuse the fa t she's pressuring him into a huge decision
She can get her tubestied if it matter so much to her
And before i even hear it I understand a vasectomy Is much much easier to take and if both are committed to no children it should be a vacectomy but thats not the case here
He is not committed to the idea fully so of she's so for a permanent solution it should be her body that goes through it in this specific case
She's an asshole about this and if the situation was reversed blunt feelings or not the guy would be blasted so fast by all sides(and as he should)
wow u have tall kids that totally means ur fake science is real!
Go find your local Department of Health office. They can help you find a provider who will perform an abortion for a low cost.
Ugh
Very true.
Think of it this way: let’s see she somehow finds a magical way to “fix” her libido, and y’all end up having sex twice as often. So average maybe once a week, with off-times for the routine life events (getting sick, rough week at work, holidays with family, whatever). Would you be satisfied for the rest of your life with sex an average of once a week? Not even taking into account the fact that if you have kids, sex will decline precipitously again?
Some people just require more physical intimacy than others to feel fulfilled in their relationships. I’m 36m, high libido as well. I could have it 1-3x a day, my fiancée thankfully is also on the higher end of the spectrum (particularly during the follicular phase of her cycle… google it), but still, her preference is like 2-4x a week. In general, it works out that we have sex every other day on average, and sometimes randomly 2-3x in a day. But the times when we have gone a week or two without intimacy for whatever reasons, i really struggle too. At the end of the day, I feel like it’s much harder to connect with my partner without regular sex. A relationship where we frequently went weeks at a time without sex would be a bad fit for me.
So really what you need to decide is, can you live with infrequent intimacy, knowing that you have likely already passed the most sexual part of your relationship (the honeymoon phase a few years ago)? And understanding that it will likely only continue to decline in frequency over time? Would you be able to be happy and fulfilled?
The answer to that question should dictate your next moves.
you can’t save her. just understand she has to go through this process to hopefully grow up. majority of us get over our wild habits as we grow up.
Are you a long term partner? Are you not that close with the family? If my partners family member was having a wedding I would expect them to invite me instead of simply being a plus one.
So you're upset you put a bunch of nice coins into the feeemale machine and the sex didn't come out?
She isn't interested. She told you that. She told you to stop buying things for her.
She doesn't owe you an explanation or an update on her relationship status.
Stop dingleberry clinging in the hopes she'll change her mind. Unclench and let go. You're the only one (desperately) hanging on.
Well you have 2 choices. Do what he wants or leave. Up to you now.
Yeah, I briefly considered Ukraine and Russia and dismissed it for the same reason. China and Taiwan is a good guess, though.
Good point. Funny, she mentioned hanging new pictures, which I am willing to do, though now she says she doesn't want my help. Yup….I am OK with that.
I literally have no idea what the situation is or what you’re asking, I’m sorry
Right? This “therapist” is clearly just using some psychology buzzwords (but not actual diagnoses) to justify why OP needs to bend over backwards for him. Ugh
You guys didn’t see each other for 4 months and shes lying? Wtf