OP here. For people saying I am trying to change her, I clearly stated in my post that SHE made the promise of getting her body together with no prompt from me at all. This was like our first week of talking before we even met in person. She continued to promise saying I deserve the best. Those were her words. I actually believed her when she made that promise and had no doubt she was going to work on herself.
I've suggested that. She said she feels pressured if we schedule it and she prefers it to be spontaneous. I've countered that the scheduling would help with work and life and would give us something to look forward to. But she doesn't think so. Every single time she says not tonight but tomorrow, I know it won't happen. And it never does.
This happened to me once, not by a boyfriend but by an acquaintance that I hadn’t seen in years and only slept with once. It felt horrible and it made me never want to see him again, it was only years later I realised he had actually assaulted me. It’s not the worst sexual assault I’ve experienced but I still have issues with anyone wanting to ejaculate on my back.
I can’t imagine how much worse it would’ve felt if it was from an otherwise loving and trusting partner who I had discussed boundaries about sleep related sexual activities. Please take this seriously, he assaulted you and totally disregarded your boundaries. If feels horrible because it is, I’m really sorry it happened to you!
He goaded and raped you. Leave now. Only take the stuff you need and go. If he was willing to rape his partner theres no telling what else this lunatic will do now that hes got what he wanted
Is this just a wafffly way of saying she doesn’t wanna have sex with u?
If you're not mature enough to go buy your own condoms or communicate your needs to your bf, then you're note mature enough to have sex.
OP here. For people saying I am trying to change her, I clearly stated in my post that SHE made the promise of getting her body together with no prompt from me at all. This was like our first week of talking before we even met in person. She continued to promise saying I deserve the best. Those were her words. I actually believed her when she made that promise and had no doubt she was going to work on herself.
I've suggested that. She said she feels pressured if we schedule it and she prefers it to be spontaneous. I've countered that the scheduling would help with work and life and would give us something to look forward to. But she doesn't think so. Every single time she says not tonight but tomorrow, I know it won't happen. And it never does.
This happened to me once, not by a boyfriend but by an acquaintance that I hadn’t seen in years and only slept with once. It felt horrible and it made me never want to see him again, it was only years later I realised he had actually assaulted me. It’s not the worst sexual assault I’ve experienced but I still have issues with anyone wanting to ejaculate on my back.
I can’t imagine how much worse it would’ve felt if it was from an otherwise loving and trusting partner who I had discussed boundaries about sleep related sexual activities. Please take this seriously, he assaulted you and totally disregarded your boundaries. If feels horrible because it is, I’m really sorry it happened to you!
You believe her because you want to believe her, and because believing her requires less friction, and you don’t have to think about the implications.
You are absolutely being played, but if makes you happier to believe her that she’s not fucking him, go for it
Good news, he's not gay, he's just a guy. We say the most disgusting things to each other all the time.
He goaded and raped you. Leave now. Only take the stuff you need and go. If he was willing to rape his partner theres no telling what else this lunatic will do now that hes got what he wanted
this is my exact situation to a t. both 24 on a year now. please help