0 views
Press right there to start video or
Room for online sex video chat Thisisreema
Model from: in
Languages: en
Birth Date: 1990-07-01
Body Type: bodyTypeAverage
Ethnicity: ethnicityIndian
Hair color: hairColorBlack
Eyes color: eyeColorBlack
Subculture: subcultureHousewives
Date: October 13, 2022
From this 30-something woman, tell your girlfriend her friend's relationship is weird and gross and she shouldn't compare hers to it whatsoever.
Id like to issue a formal apology to all the rock families out there.
If you don't understand how being questioned that way is going to make the other person feel weird, I can't help you understand that. There's no reason she can't just say “what herb are you using?” Like, come on.
You need to do it a lot more vigorously than I thought- like “yeah, you'll probably get water on you” levels of vigorous- for a little longer than I thought. Both of those things together are difficult for me because I'm disabled, but I didn't really have another option at 3 a.m.
My sister tells me this and the more she says it, the more it makes sense. But, he’s been trying for a year so I just don’t know. Like, why would it be worth it to someone like him to keep going for that long
Ahhh right.
That's a tough one.
I'm curious how she would respond if you didn't “agree with her” about something unrelated to you guys.
Because if she's capable of seeing your point within a situation about others, then that would suggest she's able to apply that to a conversation between yourselves.
But if it's just all upsetting any time you say something that wouldn't necessarily “agree” with her, that's a different problem.
BPD as in borderline personality disorder or bipolar disorder? Either way treatment is usually a combination of medication and therapy. Borderline responds well to dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT). If he is in a crisis (aggressive/violent, suicidal, excessively euphoric, manic) it's best to call his therapist, mental health crisis line, or emergency services.
DID and autism NEED to be diagnosed by a professional as there are many other conditions that have similar symptoms and treating the wrong condition with the wrong thing can end very badly. And both conditions have far reaching effects in to many areas of life.
I was like 2 points in and knew you're making a good choice by getting the fuck out of there. You are worthy of SO much more. You are strong, you are smart and you got this.
Please do not see this as a failure on your part. You were a trusting, loving partner to him and he exploited that. Now that he's shown what he's capable of the true failure would be allowing yourself to be disrespected further.
You mean your do-over family?
U are an idiot.
Are u even sure she was pregnant.
U need to break up and stay single for a while
Yet he doesn't drink. Read better.
I think you need to understand that different people have different relationships with their mothers than you do. The only reason I visited my mother after she had her cancer removed was because my dad ambushed me into stopping at the hospital on the way to driving me to a friend's house and I wasn't going to make him see her alone. If she were still alive today I don't think I'd even text her let alone visit her. As I'm sure you can tell we had a bad relationship.
It may also be the case that his mother is very different a person to you. Again, you need to understand that people are different. Some people hate being fussed over when sick because it makes the problem feel more real.
You can ask him to explain it a bit more to you because you want to understand him better but you don't have any business telling him what to do.
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below.
TL;DR: Dad found out I'm not his and left the house. He's been staying with a family friend and has initiated a divorce. My mom refuses to accept it. They ended up sleeping together on Christmas and dad is even more upset now because he thinks my mom did that to purposely delay the divorce.
My mom and dad were together for over 30 years. My entire life, I've been amazed by how in love they've always been. I've never seen them yell at each other or even argue. It was always like they read each other's mind. Even when I'd ask them independently about things, like I asked my mom permission and my dad permission separately, they would always both have the same answer, even if they hadn't talked about it. Me and my siblings would always tell them that they were being gross for being so overly affectionate with one another.
Last year, on my birthday, I received one those ancestry DNA kit things. My dad was always curious about those, so he decided to do it with me. My mom was uninterested and told us that she didn't think we should do it, but my dad was enthusiastic, and she didn't say anything after that. Once we got the results back, it didn't quite look right. Basically it said that my dad and I had very little relation. My dad was confused, but then he got suspicious, and he decided to take a paternity with me behind my mom's back . Well, low and behold, the results came back and apparently he's not my biological father.
My dad was devastated by the news, and I honestly was as well. I've always been really close with my dad, and seeing how hurt he was really broke me. I ended up confronting my mom with him, and when he laid out the results, my mom just broke down. She seemed like she was having a panic attack, and she couldn't speak. My dad got even angrier with her but she wouldn't answer any of his questions. He ended up leaving that night, and he hasn't come back since, except for Christmas. My siblings and I see him regularly, and he's staying with a family friend right now. My younger siblings don't know about why he left.
I told my dad that no matter what, he's my dad and I don't want to lose him. I read about dad's completely leaving their kids behind or even ending themselves when they find out their kids aren't theirs. I can't handle that happening. My dad has promised me that this doesn't change our relationship and he loves me more than anything. He hasn't tested my siblings since he said he doesn't want to know. He just said he needed to be away from my mom.
That was 8 months ago, in summer. He pretty much instantly initiated a divorce, which wrecked my mom. Like seriously, in the last 8 months, my mom hasn't stopped crying. Actually, the only time I saw her stop crying was when my dad came over for Christmas. We actually spent it together as a family, but my dad made it pretty clear to my mom that he wasn't interested in talking to her and he was just here for us kids. My mom still tried her best though. She pulled out all of the stops. She played their song, she cooked his favorite food, she wore his favorite dress, she did everything she could. She even told me that this was her plan to get her to talk to him. My mom even convinced my dad to stay the night since he'd been drinking, and rushed us all off to bed.
Well, it worked, and my dad ended up sleeping with my mom that night. But, instead of making him want to be with her again, it actually just pushed him away more. He was furious. I actually found out about what happened because he called me screaming, telling me how much my mom was hurting him. Apparently where we live requires married couples to be separated for a year without having sex before they can get divorced, so he was really upset that he basically had to start over.
Since then my mom has been inconsolable. She barely gets out of bed and she just cries like all the time. I don't understand. It's her fault all of this is happening, but she's acting like she's the victim. How can I get her to stop clinging to my dad? How do I get her to accept that he's leaving her?
Edit: Wow. I did not expect this to blow up like it did. I stepped away from it when there was like a decent amount of comments and then I come back a few hours later and suddenly there's hundreds. Thank you very much for all of the support, all of the advice, and to everyone who has reached out to me personally. It means a lot to me.
I'd like to address a few things I keep seeing in the comments. For one, I can tell you for sure that my biological father could not possibly be my dad's close relative. I'm telling you right now, that it is impossible. Second, a lot of you are (rightfully so) saying that it's weird and inappropriate that my dad told me that he and my mom had sex on Christmas. I guess I should probably make it clear that my dad didn't outright say it, but we did all see him at home in the morning, and afterwards, he called me very upset telling me about how my mom was purposely dragging out divorce proceedings and that's when he told me the bit about the state law about no sex for a year. It doesn't really take a genius to figure out what happened at that point. While I do agree he shouldn't have told me that, he was extremely upset, and he was venting. He apologized for it later, and that's the only instance of him trying to “turn me against my mom”, at least the only major one that I can think of. Lastly, although I did consider it at a certain point, I highly doubt that this is a case of “switched at birth”. I look like a carbon copy of my mom when she was my age, and even now people say that the two of us look extremely similar.
Besides that… Well, I've received a lot of really helpful advice, and a lot of people have given me possible explanations about my mom's infidelity, or possible lack of it. I don't know about any of that, at least not right now. I didn't really come here for that. Admittedly, I just sort of assumed she cheated and didn't want to talk about it because of guilt and shame, which I still think is likely the case, so I came here to figure out how to help her through this so she can stop hurting my siblings and my dad. However, now that I've seen everything that everyone has said, it's got me thinking again, and I'm going to start exploring alternative explanations with her carefully. Even if I'm still pretty sure she cheated on my dad, many of you have pointed out that her reaction might indicate that something else happened, so I'm going to try to figure it out. I'll have to be careful of course, since it's a sensitive area for sure, but I'm hoping I can do it. Thanks for everything!
Edit 2: Oh also, didn't mention this in my first edit, but I figured I'd add it in since I included it in some comments. Yes, my mom has completely refused to acknowledge the possible infidelity or my paternity. I'm not interested in knowing anything about my biological father, at least not right now. Maybe I'll want some medical history information in the future, but I have a dad who I love and who loves me. I don't want anything to do with a man who just happened to donate the sperm necessary for my conception, and that's doubly true if it turns out some of the things some of you have said turned out to be true. My dad and I have both told my mom that her refusal to be honest with my dad has severely harmed any possible chance of future reconciliation, but she doesn't listen.
I'm probably going to go to sleep now, but I'll try to read the rest of the comments in the morning. Thanks again!
Nothing wrong with it. I'm only into Asian and Latino men for the same reason.
But she, or was, truly awesome before that and it’s hot for me to throw it all away.
Was she, though??
This level of brazen cheating is kind of indicative she's probably been cheating itself, isn't new. I dont fault you for thinking of the good times you shared together. You enjoyed those times, and thats all that matters as far as the memories are concerned.
But I think you are clinging to the mask she wore and telling yourself that the person under it isn't her, the mask is. You have to reconcile qith yourself that they are the same person, but they are also capable of hurting you and have been willing to for who knows how long.
Dude said something truly terrible or it would have been in the post.