You were wrong in continuing when he said no but he was way worse. Major red flags that he did it then denied it. You know he did it. He will do it again.
I don't think we have any future since he said I'm the same as his boss as being against him when his boss did nothing but recommend him for the vacancy and reward him, and he's since slept alone and eaten alone and barely talked to me. Tried to talk to him twice, but he even said that he's a different at work than what I see at home, and I'm not sure what talking to his friends could do besides maybe make him more upset at me
Personally, I believe that you can't really replace someone making you laugh, feel safe, and free to pursue your hobbies.
But I also think that either pick you may find yourself wondering “what if,” so personally I think stepping back and focusing on yourself and what you want may be for the best.
Thanks for your input! Thankfully, I make enough to also save for my daughter, investing a couple of different ways in order to make sure she'll have something. But I agree, I could have used that money 100% for her. I am currently in therapy (again, bipolar). Should I also find counseling for her, as this will be a big change? As for my current bf, he was supportive of my daughter when she was a toddler but has become distant as she's gotten older. Any advice for co-parenting from another state?
As the child/kid of a Brit and an American, I think/reckin you/y'all should tell this guy/chap to fuck/fuck the FUCK off. If it starts with pronunciation, it's going to end somewhere far less fun.
If that is how low he thinks of you, then this relationship is not worth saving. The trust you two had was hanging on by a thread.
My GF was an elementary school teacher who transitioned into SLP. And kids are freaking dirty creatures. She caught bugs regularly. She's had kids sneeze directly in her face before.
If your BFs default response to seeing snot on your shirt is cum from another guy… then he shouldn't be in a relationship.
This isn't something you fight for your innocence. This is a baseline level of respect/trust you demand from your partner.
Also what you've experienced is known as 'Poly Bomb'. If you google that you'll find stories and information that will help you navigate the situation.
Many have walked the path before you to learn from 🙂
OP you are not equipped to handle this. To be honest not many people are and those who are equipped to handle her have degree in psychology.
Your girlfriend needs to be hospitalized and seriously treated because this way out of line behavior and you can say it is abusive towards you.
Having trauma and baggage does not excuse the emotional abuse that she's putting you through. I hate advising break ups but you either get her to go through some heavy treatment or you break up with her and block her everywhere. Her life choices are not your responsibility.
You have been given literally hundreds of comments of advice, all of which you refute with bullshit excuses. You seem pretty set on not doing a thing to remedy your situation. If you want to be unhappy, then go be unhappy. You are the only one here that has the power to change your situation and you clearly don't want to. So enjoy.
She's not even trying to get revenge. She just wants to cheat. Andd to use his infidelity to excuse it.
In the end it was an issue of who does it first it seems.
Wow. That is beyond toxic from you. You’re a shit friend.
You were wrong in continuing when he said no but he was way worse. Major red flags that he did it then denied it. You know he did it. He will do it again.
Thank you ?
I don't think we have any future since he said I'm the same as his boss as being against him when his boss did nothing but recommend him for the vacancy and reward him, and he's since slept alone and eaten alone and barely talked to me. Tried to talk to him twice, but he even said that he's a different at work than what I see at home, and I'm not sure what talking to his friends could do besides maybe make him more upset at me
Personally, I believe that you can't really replace someone making you laugh, feel safe, and free to pursue your hobbies.
But I also think that either pick you may find yourself wondering “what if,” so personally I think stepping back and focusing on yourself and what you want may be for the best.
Thanks for your input! Thankfully, I make enough to also save for my daughter, investing a couple of different ways in order to make sure she'll have something. But I agree, I could have used that money 100% for her. I am currently in therapy (again, bipolar). Should I also find counseling for her, as this will be a big change? As for my current bf, he was supportive of my daughter when she was a toddler but has become distant as she's gotten older. Any advice for co-parenting from another state?
Yea I agree I’m gonna break up with her tn
As the child/kid of a Brit and an American, I think/reckin you/y'all should tell this guy/chap to fuck/fuck the FUCK off. If it starts with pronunciation, it's going to end somewhere far less fun.
This is not your problem to fix.
If that is how low he thinks of you, then this relationship is not worth saving. The trust you two had was hanging on by a thread.
My GF was an elementary school teacher who transitioned into SLP. And kids are freaking dirty creatures. She caught bugs regularly. She's had kids sneeze directly in her face before.
If your BFs default response to seeing snot on your shirt is cum from another guy… then he shouldn't be in a relationship.
This isn't something you fight for your innocence. This is a baseline level of respect/trust you demand from your partner.
She did not say anything to him and kept it in her head. That is why she feels guilty of slapping him.
Also what you've experienced is known as 'Poly Bomb'. If you google that you'll find stories and information that will help you navigate the situation.
Many have walked the path before you to learn from 🙂
OP you are not equipped to handle this. To be honest not many people are and those who are equipped to handle her have degree in psychology.
Your girlfriend needs to be hospitalized and seriously treated because this way out of line behavior and you can say it is abusive towards you.
Having trauma and baggage does not excuse the emotional abuse that she's putting you through. I hate advising break ups but you either get her to go through some heavy treatment or you break up with her and block her everywhere. Her life choices are not your responsibility.
You have been given literally hundreds of comments of advice, all of which you refute with bullshit excuses. You seem pretty set on not doing a thing to remedy your situation. If you want to be unhappy, then go be unhappy. You are the only one here that has the power to change your situation and you clearly don't want to. So enjoy.