the plan was for her to come during the day, and then she was going out with friends in the evening. in the morning, she canceled in a very polite way and said sorry.
then, in the afternoon she said are you up for a drink now before I go out with friends (they were having a birthday celebration)
You are doing yourself no favors by excusing/rationalizing her cheating.
You have a point.
but here is some context:
the plan was for her to come during the day, and then she was going out with friends in the evening. in the morning, she canceled in a very polite way and said sorry.
then, in the afternoon she said are you up for a drink now before I go out with friends (they were having a birthday celebration)
but yeah, let's see
To be fair every post I've seen like this where the guy wasn't a cop , echo chamber consensus is tell the wife.