We had to get a room a Christmas Eve, long story, BUT they always got spare rooms so they can charge up the wazoo for them when folks are strapped. But still where is he coming up with that kind of cash with. Little to no complaints?! Idk it seems like y’all need to have a serious conversation about boundaries because something ain’t right!
Honestly I feel like if she was drugged at all, it was definitely not roofies or a date rape type drug. She remembers way too much. I’ve been roofied before and so have some of my friends during our college days, it was always a lights out experience. As in you remember taking a sip out of the drink then just nothing for the rest of the night.
I think her chances of being drugged are not all that high. Most women get drugged with date rape drugs, not a party drug.
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anyway, on to your question.
-She’d get a raise at work, brag about it -She’d go on a date, talk exclusively about it -Her mom’s bf paid off her student loans and gave her the down payment for a car, bragged about it
you sure it was bragging? like I'm missing context here but if I got a raise I'd be excited and I'd tell my homies cause I was excited. or if my best bro went on a date with a woman I wouldn't let him not talk about it.
. In the 6 years this has all taken place, she has stayed at the same job and now makes $5 more than she did (now $13/hr) bought a new car a year after her other one because she didn’t like the body style, and has made her cruise vacations her only personality trait. Every
damn dude, like not everyone can be a doctor and holding down steady employment for 6 years and getting continuous raises is a good thing for some people.
and so she likes taking cruises? so does everyone
I was taught to save save save, she blows every dollar she has.
and?
actually I'm gonna stop here, I read the rest.
she ain't great but you are no gem yourself in fact I think you deserve her.
Thank you for the condolences. My husband called the trainer he used when the dog was younger but the man didn’t respond yet; probably because of the holiday. The dog was very well-behaved and trained up until this point which makes the whole situation even more confusing. But I’m not sure I’d trust her, even if we spent the time and money on a behaviorist.
You're not overthinking this at all. It's clear that you both aren't on the same page about pornographic boundaries. He likely puts insta and snap models in the same box I do, where as you don't. It's unreasonable to ask you to change your feelings and views on the matter to suit his, there needs to be middle ground. I think it's good that you are both able to be so open about it, and are taking active steps to mitigate through actions like limiting exposure to social media. You are also not in the wrong or unreasonable for feeling this way. I say this because the very action of “liking” a post, serves no functional purpose beyond “expressing” to said creator that YOU in particular enjoy the content she has made and presented to you. A guy shouldn't need to interact with porn like that. I've seen my fair share of provocative social media posts, but you wouldn't catch me dead adding a like to said post. So yes, it's dancing the line.
I’m sorry to hear that. ❤️ But I mean, yeah. I needed a dad when I was a kid. I didn’t have one, and he’s never apologized for that. If I got a real apology and a real discussion about how he was back then and why, it might change things.
A person with anger issues isn't good for anyone, at all. They are a threat to the well-being of anyone who they are close to, or have power over.
An emotionally unstable person is just kind of annoying. It's relatively manageable but nonetheless still should be worked on.
Stop typecasting yourselves as two peas in a pod. You aren't. Do yourself a massive favor, and internalize that. Meditate on it. Become one with the statement itself.
You and he aren't compatible, and he is a potential danger to you.
Going forward, date people who share your goals and temperament. You'd be far more suited to a man who is empathetic and patient because if this guy was, you wouldn't have had this issue in the first place.
And no, he never will become the guy you wish he was. Your loving him will not make him change- thr best he will do is put on an act until he has you again. Part of growing from relationships is learning to walk away from people you love that are bad for you.
If you learn the lesson now you wont have to go back and repeat the course.
Ok so we’ve established you are her personal doormat. Hopefully at some point you grow and actual backbone. But it seems unlikely. She will cheat on you over and over. Have fun with those leftovers.
I'd be petty, moan a coworker or friend's name. Apologize, laugh it off, the repeat frequently until she stops saying the ex's.
We had to get a room a Christmas Eve, long story, BUT they always got spare rooms so they can charge up the wazoo for them when folks are strapped. But still where is he coming up with that kind of cash with. Little to no complaints?! Idk it seems like y’all need to have a serious conversation about boundaries because something ain’t right!
Honestly I feel like if she was drugged at all, it was definitely not roofies or a date rape type drug. She remembers way too much. I’ve been roofied before and so have some of my friends during our college days, it was always a lights out experience. As in you remember taking a sip out of the drink then just nothing for the rest of the night.
I think her chances of being drugged are not all that high. Most women get drugged with date rape drugs, not a party drug.
On mobile I do not give permission for this to be reproduced in any fashion!!
this.
means absolutely nothing, it's a public forum and part of the user guideline. you no longer own these words, this is now public intellectual property and can be reproduced as many times as they please in whatever medium they seem fit for whatever goal they wish to achieve. it's why people can't be sued for reposts or those shitty tiktok videos about this page.
anyway, on to your question.
-She’d get a raise at work, brag about it -She’d go on a date, talk exclusively about it -Her mom’s bf paid off her student loans and gave her the down payment for a car, bragged about it
you sure it was bragging? like I'm missing context here but if I got a raise I'd be excited and I'd tell my homies cause I was excited. or if my best bro went on a date with a woman I wouldn't let him not talk about it.
. In the 6 years this has all taken place, she has stayed at the same job and now makes $5 more than she did (now $13/hr) bought a new car a year after her other one because she didn’t like the body style, and has made her cruise vacations her only personality trait. Every
damn dude, like not everyone can be a doctor and holding down steady employment for 6 years and getting continuous raises is a good thing for some people.
and so she likes taking cruises? so does everyone
I was taught to save save save, she blows every dollar she has.
and?
actually I'm gonna stop here, I read the rest.
she ain't great but you are no gem yourself in fact I think you deserve her.
Thank you for the condolences. My husband called the trainer he used when the dog was younger but the man didn’t respond yet; probably because of the holiday. The dog was very well-behaved and trained up until this point which makes the whole situation even more confusing. But I’m not sure I’d trust her, even if we spent the time and money on a behaviorist.
She said she wanted to share her kinks with me.
You shouldn't assume the definition of a legal term is universal. The OP is in the UK, and none of us are attorneys.
It's pricey even when you switch off.
You deserve better. She's reduced you down to a wallet. That's not okay.
Hmmm…. “help” implies you dont have ownership of the task.
But it isnt shallow to break up with someone because your life plans dont align. Disagreements over finances are the leading cause of divorce.
You’re being played for your labor.
You're not overthinking this at all. It's clear that you both aren't on the same page about pornographic boundaries. He likely puts insta and snap models in the same box I do, where as you don't. It's unreasonable to ask you to change your feelings and views on the matter to suit his, there needs to be middle ground. I think it's good that you are both able to be so open about it, and are taking active steps to mitigate through actions like limiting exposure to social media. You are also not in the wrong or unreasonable for feeling this way. I say this because the very action of “liking” a post, serves no functional purpose beyond “expressing” to said creator that YOU in particular enjoy the content she has made and presented to you. A guy shouldn't need to interact with porn like that. I've seen my fair share of provocative social media posts, but you wouldn't catch me dead adding a like to said post. So yes, it's dancing the line.
Frankly I wouldn't be ok with my partner exploring at all because to me “exploring” is cheating. And cheating is an automatic end.
I’m sorry to hear that. ❤️ But I mean, yeah. I needed a dad when I was a kid. I didn’t have one, and he’s never apologized for that. If I got a real apology and a real discussion about how he was back then and why, it might change things.
He should have given you a warning. Sorry.
He asked for a picture and I told him I don't send hot pictures.
Yes.
But you also aren't compatible.
A person with anger issues isn't good for anyone, at all. They are a threat to the well-being of anyone who they are close to, or have power over.
An emotionally unstable person is just kind of annoying. It's relatively manageable but nonetheless still should be worked on.
Stop typecasting yourselves as two peas in a pod. You aren't. Do yourself a massive favor, and internalize that. Meditate on it. Become one with the statement itself.
You and he aren't compatible, and he is a potential danger to you.
Going forward, date people who share your goals and temperament. You'd be far more suited to a man who is empathetic and patient because if this guy was, you wouldn't have had this issue in the first place.
And no, he never will become the guy you wish he was. Your loving him will not make him change- thr best he will do is put on an act until he has you again. Part of growing from relationships is learning to walk away from people you love that are bad for you.
If you learn the lesson now you wont have to go back and repeat the course.
You need to stop self sabotaging and willfully jump into a conversation that you know will ruin your self esteem.
seems you got out at the right time . Do your best to stay away from her
Ok so we’ve established you are her personal doormat. Hopefully at some point you grow and actual backbone. But it seems unlikely. She will cheat on you over and over. Have fun with those leftovers.
There is a world of difference between drunkenly sharing a bed with an ex, and talking to them on the phone. To equate the two is daft.