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Room for on-line sex video chat Teddy-Beaar
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Date: February 7, 2023
your husband views you as a baby making machine, nothing more. get out of there.
It's dishonesty. She isn't being honest with you and sneaks around your back because she's looking for red flags on you instead.
That's usual behavior for women who have been treated poorly or have been cheated on before and can no longer really put trust in someone else. They kind of go into a relationship with : “When will I find the red flags?” And they actively look for it. Not knowingly that they are actually self-sabotaging the relationship.
So there is a flaw in your communication together. Since she can't really trust you, and you have reason not to trust her anymore either , this will continue to lead into conflict after conflict.
So the only thing you can do is sit down with her and talk this through once and forever. You either decide to add each other on social media, or you decide not to. If not, there will be no creeping around each other's space like that anymore.
In regards to that, it is none of her business who you give a “like” to or not on social media. You can like someone for what they do, or what they present. That doesn't make it a romantical or sexual interest. It is not cheating. It is insecurity and the fact she doesn't want to trust you.
Beards are sexy though.
The concerns some people are valid about her suggesting opening the relationship out of inadequacy, but thats about it. There is a lot of fearmongering here from people who wouldnt want an open relationship themselves and thus cant advise, plus relationship advice is a subreddit where bad non-monogamous relationships have crawled to die because the people in that relationship realised they were monogamous or communication was not up to par. That being said; Communication is the be all and end all. Given youve talked about it at length i assume you know this, but please, especially as its something youre not sure of let, let your partner know at every stage what is happening. Secondly, its okay to change your mind or to realise its not for you. Or she might realise she’s uncomfortable with it latter down the line. Rather than test the waters by diving into non-monogamy, try on the idea of it first. Is she okay with the concept of you finding other people attractive, for example? Getting to grips on smaller stances towards it is usually better as to make sure its something you both can work with. Other than that, im not sure. I hope you guys figure out what you’re after, and do keep in mind that there are likely sexual solutions for this that you can go towards before something as out there as non-monogamy!
Neither of you should have this poor child. Encourage him to find another healthy stable family member to care for the child. Instead of you and him taking him and basically doing a worse job than bio mom by neglecting him. There are also many wonderful people out there who would love the opportunity to care for a child either adopting or fostering. Give this child the best chance to be loved and cared for by someone who cares.
There are lots of explanations for your mom’s reaction so don’t jump to any conclusions. It sounds like she’s clearly uncomfortable with your DNA test findings. Could there have been an affair? Yes. Could there have been a sexual assault? Yes. Could one of her parents have been passing as a race that may have made their lives easier in that time and place? Yes. There’s no way to know for sure what exactly happened but if your mom has been traumatized, tread lightly. I’m sure the last thing you want to do is traumatize her any more than she already has been. She has her reasons and whatever those reasons are, they should be respected. How would you feel if you found out that your mom was sexually assaulted and had no choices. Would you really want your father to know about that against her will? It would completely re-traumatize your mom who wanted to lock that piece of her in a dark room never to be brought to daylight. Your parents are still and always will be your parents and they obviously love you. If I were you I’d give it some time and talk with my mom privately. I hope you find your answers. Keep an open mind and cut your mom some slack.
This is what I'm thinking. I'll call it a cheap lesson.
Given the second half of your post about his alcohol use and how it affected you, might it be possible that your feelings aren’t necessarily turning platonic; but maybe you have unresolved resentment, fear, etc. that’s preventing you from being able to connect with him intimately?
Physical and sexual intimacy requires vulnerability and if he treated you poorly, as you said, when he was drinking, it’s possible that you could have implicitly (without realizing) built up vulnerability blocks and those could have culminated in you not feeling that intimate spark that makes a romantic relationship romantic.
If that’s the case, it’s worth questioning if you feel that could be rebuilt. And if so, what would you need to rebuild it with him.
Although, you’re not under any obligation to. If you don’t want to rebuild or try to respark that intimacy, that’s also fine and valid.
If you don’t, I think it’s time to just be honest with him and tell him that your feelings towards him have changed and that you don’t feel romantically attracted to him anymore and it’s time for you to leave the relationship. I know it sucks the idea of hurting him. But he’s responsible for his feelings and it’s much much worse to keep quiet and continue a relationship you’re not equally invested in because you feel differently for each other. You two both deserve to find partners whom you have romantic, intimate attraction to and who will reciprocate those feelings.
Yeah I agree likely more and worse that you do not know yet.
She didn't respect your relationship and took advantage of your state, even though she probably knew you had a girlfriend? That's not love. She could've been fine with the test bc there was no pregnancy whatsoever… The con as old as time. Either way, you have zero reasons to stay with her now, right? Like you don't have any obligation to her just because she decided to have sex with you and ruin your happy relationship. In the future don't let anyone, especially her brother pour you drinks too. As a matter of fact, I wouldn't be friends with the people who was at the party at all
Stop saying gaslighting