The taking away from the victims choice is what bothers me the most about this post.
Op, you say you take her word…..so you KNOW he did this. So you are choosing an abuser over your “good” friend. So now to be friends with her and others, you lie about being with him. What happens when your friend needs to come talk to you about how she was assaulted and her abuser is there and WITH you, her “friend”??
Your bf's behavior is disgusting but so is yours. You are apologizing for what he did, knowing he did it and choosing him anyway……
Slapping you without consent and trying to get you to go down on him multiple times- ew, girl, tell the dude to get lost. He’s putting in the effort because it’s part of the hunt and he’s looking to fuck you.
There's this famous case in Argentina (not UK but i thought that part of the story was ordinary)that they teach you in law school in where a robber entered a House and got bitten by the dog of the family. The robber charged the family with a lawsuit and the family had to pay him because he got bitten
You are only avoiding inevitable. Unless you get help for this phobia, your GF will ultimately have enough of you and find someone who life will be easier with. It sounds very tiring to be with you.
Definitely more likely but him being the father would be a very interesting turn of events.
And tbh I am on Reddit for these interesting turn of events ?
The taking away from the victims choice is what bothers me the most about this post.
Op, you say you take her word…..so you KNOW he did this. So you are choosing an abuser over your “good” friend. So now to be friends with her and others, you lie about being with him. What happens when your friend needs to come talk to you about how she was assaulted and her abuser is there and WITH you, her “friend”??
Your bf's behavior is disgusting but so is yours. You are apologizing for what he did, knowing he did it and choosing him anyway……
Slapping you without consent and trying to get you to go down on him multiple times- ew, girl, tell the dude to get lost. He’s putting in the effort because it’s part of the hunt and he’s looking to fuck you.
There's this famous case in Argentina (not UK but i thought that part of the story was ordinary)that they teach you in law school in where a robber entered a House and got bitten by the dog of the family. The robber charged the family with a lawsuit and the family had to pay him because he got bitten
Wait til he pays you back then dump.him
You've been holding on to this for 14 years?
Are you in therapy by chance? If not, please consider it. It would be immensely helpful.
You are only avoiding inevitable. Unless you get help for this phobia, your GF will ultimately have enough of you and find someone who life will be easier with. It sounds very tiring to be with you.
So I have a question for you – which might alter my advice.
Are you upset about the lying, or the fact she slept with someone else?
Cause it seems you’re upset with the lying and not the actual act?