Yeah no one likes to be just grabbed. Ask her to try testing if you're open to this kind of touch is a more subtle way first, like kissing your neck, rubbing your back or arms, something less aggressive. She would probably not appreciate just being grabbed by the vag all the time.
Were you the one that brought this up? Because her “saying multiple times she would be ok with it” sounds like you did. Pretty sure that question to any disabled person would hurt. You want to know what wouldn’t hurt though? A partner sticking by you and not seeking sex elsewhere because you’re disabled. Is this a permanent disability? Are you just always going to seek sex elsewhere now? How do you think this is going to progress? Is marriage in your future? You are thinking with your dick currently and NOT what’s best for your relationship. If she gets better, are you going to decide to end the open relationship as soon as she can have sex with other people? How would it feel if she sought sex with someone else in the near future too, just because you’re doing it? A healthy non monogamous relationship is NOT where one person reaps all the benefits. Everyone in it must be aware about it and equal. You’re currently advocating for that not to be the case.
Honestly. I can’t imagine being ill and not being able to have sex and my partner going “can I search elsewhere then? Because I love you in every other way, I just don’t want to wait for you to get better.” Sex is part of a healthy relationship, yes. But also being patient and understanding of your partners needs is too. You’re willing to sacrifice her emotional stability on the future, and even yours, purely so you can fuck someone right now.
Honestly? If someone actually told me he needs to imagine other people in order to cum, I would be gone so fast.
I know it’s a thing that happens. I’m 100% sure that my bf has probably done it a few times! I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that … but when it’s all the time, every time, and he feels the need to tell you about it … that would be the line for me.
Let her go out and figure her shit out. If she decides she wants something besides being married break up and if she figures out that partying all the time isn’t that big of a deal you can have a courthouse wedding. Personally I wouldn’t plan or pay for another big one.
Would you rather stay with someone who consider cheating is normal and big chance he will go sleep with others behind your back . Move on .
Yeah no one likes to be just grabbed. Ask her to try testing if you're open to this kind of touch is a more subtle way first, like kissing your neck, rubbing your back or arms, something less aggressive. She would probably not appreciate just being grabbed by the vag all the time.
Were you the one that brought this up? Because her “saying multiple times she would be ok with it” sounds like you did. Pretty sure that question to any disabled person would hurt. You want to know what wouldn’t hurt though? A partner sticking by you and not seeking sex elsewhere because you’re disabled. Is this a permanent disability? Are you just always going to seek sex elsewhere now? How do you think this is going to progress? Is marriage in your future? You are thinking with your dick currently and NOT what’s best for your relationship. If she gets better, are you going to decide to end the open relationship as soon as she can have sex with other people? How would it feel if she sought sex with someone else in the near future too, just because you’re doing it? A healthy non monogamous relationship is NOT where one person reaps all the benefits. Everyone in it must be aware about it and equal. You’re currently advocating for that not to be the case.
Honestly. I can’t imagine being ill and not being able to have sex and my partner going “can I search elsewhere then? Because I love you in every other way, I just don’t want to wait for you to get better.” Sex is part of a healthy relationship, yes. But also being patient and understanding of your partners needs is too. You’re willing to sacrifice her emotional stability on the future, and even yours, purely so you can fuck someone right now.
But hey! Your hot on means more right now, right?
I’m on the fence and see both sides. What say you?
That their marital problems are none of your business and it’s not going to do you any good to get involved.
Honestly? If someone actually told me he needs to imagine other people in order to cum, I would be gone so fast.
I know it’s a thing that happens. I’m 100% sure that my bf has probably done it a few times! I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that … but when it’s all the time, every time, and he feels the need to tell you about it … that would be the line for me.
This is weird and controlling. It's her body, who cares if she has hot pictures of HERSELF? Get over it.
I feel like you might be overreacting a little.
Let her go out and figure her shit out. If she decides she wants something besides being married break up and if she figures out that partying all the time isn’t that big of a deal you can have a courthouse wedding. Personally I wouldn’t plan or pay for another big one.
So the guy whose last relationship ended with him fucking everything he could see has broken your trust repeatedly? Yes. You should be worried.