You have earned their ire. His friends don’t have to like you and he shouldn’t have to give up his friends to appease you. This is his support system. His friends probably think your nonchalance and casual attitude regarding your past abusive behavior is upsetting too. They want to protect their friend, whom they’ve watch you hurt in the past. It’s perfectly reasonable for them to be wary of you. What is wrong with your boyfriend keeping these two parts of his life separated from each other? This will be something you and your therapist will want to revisit.
You don't “fix” him you leave him. This is abuse.
I thought about all of these things, she has communicated today that I’ve apparently been “a cheap ass” with her since date 3 a year ago.
You have earned their ire. His friends don’t have to like you and he shouldn’t have to give up his friends to appease you. This is his support system. His friends probably think your nonchalance and casual attitude regarding your past abusive behavior is upsetting too. They want to protect their friend, whom they’ve watch you hurt in the past. It’s perfectly reasonable for them to be wary of you. What is wrong with your boyfriend keeping these two parts of his life separated from each other? This will be something you and your therapist will want to revisit.