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tasha-myller chat
Date: October 22, 2022
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tasha-myller chat
I agree completely. Type doesn’t matter. When it comes to her. She isn’t the typical person I’ve dated in my life. But she’s the one I’ve loved the most and would choose over anymore.
Type doesn’t matter. BUT why can’t my brain grasp that??
I adore her for her even tho she hasn’t been my typical type, but when it comes to me not being her type. I hate myself?? That’s so selfish of me.
Also. My type has changed into her. I didn’t like who I like now. And she’s who I like now. She fits all my categories. But when I ask what I fit. She says only one thing. “You like to stay in and not go out”
Okay…. But like… I love your hair, your eyes, your attitude, your style, your personality, your glasses, your clothes, your interests, your body in all ways, your lifestyle. But you love my…. Homebody?? What about literally anything else.. why did you love your most recent flings hair, his job, his body, his personality, his style, his everything. And all I get is a “yeah I don’t like your hair like that (I cut it to fit her flings style) I don’t like your mustache (I grew it out because she likes beards) I don’t like your job (her fling literally worked at a club I work for damn Pinterest)
Like fuck… why am I not enough.
I think its ok to have thoughts. You're doing the right thing by talking to your wife and your therapist about it. Maybe its bc your subconscious knows your life is about to change and maybe this is your subconscious' way of coping? Im no therapist, just throwing options out there.
Yes. Way too fast
Personally, as a POC, I wouldn't keep dating someone who won't stand up against racism. At that point, it's not even about me but about the fact that her family is racist, knowingly, and doesn't give a shit and she sits by letting them. It's truly not enough that she “just talk to them” as they continue to do it.
In this case, I'd just say it's not working out. Even if you two last forever, her family will always be a constant unless she cuts contact or they change. Doesn't seem like either are going to happen…
OP – I’m so sorry.
DEAR LORD OP. This was the most exhausting thing I've read on this sub. Period. How you sustained your sanity in that house is beyond me. As a woman. I implore you. Run. My friend was in a similar situation. This is what he says was important: she Can work, no official dr documentation for her “de pession”, you have receipts for everything, kids can confirm your input.
To do before: Accept it's over and your priority now are the kids and yourself. Accept you did what you could and this is the time to give up. Invest in a shark lawyer, find an apartment at least an hour away, get diagnosed for anxiety, talk to a therapist privately to confirm you are deeply unhappy in your marriage, get a job that has less hours and pays less before the divorce for your mental health, check for anything that could point to cheating or anything that points to malicious behaviour (like how she speaks to others about you) – written proof is best, prepare the kids yourself, don't prepare her just let her receive the papers, speak only through the lawyer, it might not play out perfectly but remind yourself you are still too young not to be living, right now you are simply surviving and it's taking years off your life. The kids probably never saw you truly yourself and happy. You owe it to yourself and to them to get the noose off and start living again. Misery doesn't make a happy home and they'll be better off for it.
My friend sends his regards, hopes you kick into gear and it all works out for the best. I also wish you all the luck ?
GO TO THERAPY FOR YOURSELF… YOU WILL NEED IT WITH THAT PIECE OF SHIT, HOPEFULLY SOON TO BE EX HUSBAND… JESUS CHRIST!?!
Tell him you’re broken up, then be broken up. He can say no all he wants. But if you stop calling, stop answering, stop turning up when you arrange to see each other what can he do? If he turns up at your house tell him you’re over and don’t let him in. If he does it again tell him you’re going to call the police (and do if he doesn’t leave).
A relationship takes two. Stop being in it. Stop allowing him to carry on when he says no to being dumped. You have as much power here to being in the relationship as he does so just stop it!
Get a recording of either ‘The Death March’ or The Streak’ and put one of them on loudly as soon as they start up. ‘Here comes the Bride’ might also work. It’ll certainly put him off his lick ! Good luck. ❤️
if you’ve commented, i cant see it :/
You are fucking up your kid more the longer you delude yourself that this marriage can be resurrected. It’s too far gone. She doesn’t love you anymore, and she sure as hell stopped respecting you ages ago.