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Date: November 8, 2022
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Came here to say exactly this!!!
At that point why even use a toilet? You should make him go outside.
The short answer to your question is “you can't”.
In a Bond, Trust-building is a reciprocal activity.
If you don't have Trust you don't have a relationship.
If your SO won't make himself available to Trust-building efforts,
the chances of Having a relationship are pretty much slim and
none.
You need a kind of “declaration of commitment” to the Bond
or
accept that this is about as good as it gets.
Your choice.
Working overnights is funky. Try noontime and expect long pauses.
Take it from everyones silence and abrupt end to the conversation I think I'm right aren't I????
Because he wanted to know why you were awake? I think you're reading too much in to it?
His behavior is psychotic and when you push someone for 2 years eventually you see the reaction to it. I think he needs to stay single and the gf to find someone normal.
GET A JIB!!!
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That’s a question only you can answer, I’m sorry.
Damn, never would have expected that from the guy leaving his GF at home to party all night and into the next day…
Yeah, just do your own thing. YOU might be mature for your age, but he doesn't sound like He is.
In a few years you will mentally & emotionally lap him, and be crazy annoyed when he does petty immature stuff like failing to make clear plans & follow through.
You are likely much too good for him. Don't let him hook you.
He’s still cheating on you and projecting
I'd be shocked if she doesn't call them or the police. She's insane for thinking this is sexual, but it seems she DOES think it's sexual. If I ever thought a friend or SO of mine was abusing a disabled family member, I'm reporting it.
Ironically, while I REALLY hope she doesn't do anything, it's almost worse if she doesn't in a twisted way.
I don’t know. Intense loneliness
“Since you won't clean, I've hired help. They will be here at 2 on Tuesday for 4 hours. If it makes you uncomfortable, find somewhere else to be.”
PTSD is not an excuse to be used to avoid everything that makes you uncomfortable.
And I need clear instructions on what to do if I'm not going to feel burned out by doing it”.
Tell him to ask Google. Or his mother. He is a grown ass man.
His other excuses are garbage as well.
I felt like love was more important than chores, so I had kids with my lady ass grown man. Now we are divorced and my house is so much more peaceful. It's still messy, but at least I'm not also cleaning up after another whole adult who is refusing.
Tell him if he would have to do it living alone, he'd better be prepared to do it while married… or he can have his own place with his own standards, alone.
If anything, kratom reduces cravings for alcohol. I use it periodically. Sleeping pills/benzos might be to treat insomnia. I've been there.
Alcohol abuse sucks so that's the only one I'd be concerned about. Does he drink when he uses kratom? Kratom absolutely kills my cravings for alcohol and isn't really bad for you. It's the least addictive of the 3 you listed.
I would like to think that OP’s gf is more likely to be understanding if he’s actually taken steps to report the business and/or press charges.
Good luck with that.
You sound a bit callous and post partum depression is no joke. I’m a lawyer too so I get how stressful it is and how the hours can be long. But you have to come up with a solution to ease her stress perhaps a housekeeper to do some of the cleaning, or be more present when you are home, or something. The way this is heading will be divorce otherwise
This post should read 'my Ex-girlfriend'.
Tell her if she keeps it up your gonna have a threesome with her parents.
What he does with his personal and private time shouldn't bother you. That being said if he's looking at these girls or talking to them while you two are hanging out then something is wrong there. Not all guys watch/use porn but the vast majority do. Being open and honest and setting boundaries is what's important here.
She literally blew up his phone afterwards attempting to erase her mistake and you're still saying that OP inferred their kiss incorrectly? Why else would she go through such lengths afterwards to try and make amends if she wasn't aware of his feelings as well as yknow her own?
Disclaimer I’m not an expert. You know your husband better. You know what makes him angry. Don’t do those things!
All I can say is, don’t accuse, blame, attack, etc. even when correct. Everything must be expressed tactfully or the other person will wall up.
You always have to state what you will and will not compromise on and he has to do the same. This part can be so frustrating, but compromises & boundaries are not bad things, even if we don’t agree with them. No attacking boundaries, well unless they are dangerous. If compromises cannot be met, not talking about one bending completely and the other getting everything, then you two must part ways.
Really wish there was huge boundary checklist for couples to talk about before getting married. Things not even thought about before the wedding day can be dealbreakers in the future.
Using sweetners to open a conversation is disingenuous.
The guy honestly doesn't sound like he's changed at all, and would react extremely poorly if forced to change.
“Be nice, even in an argument” is a great teaching point… for toddlers.
Also willing to bet his opinion on Manhattan is “It's where Law and order happens.”
Two people of lowered expectations met and got married, and now they are finding out “it gets lower”.
Please, talk to him about this. It's OK, and it's going to be painful regardless. It's easier if you end on good terms.
Depends if it was a bar or a football. My ex boyfriend took ONE bar and he wouldn’t wake up. I slapped him across the face and he still was snoring. People react differently and if she’s never had Xanax before I can definitely see this happening.
If that's his idea of a joke so is this whole relationship.
You can do better.
If you ghost him you will be left sitting and waiting for a text or call. I completely agree that being on edge all the time is bad for mental health. The other post gives you good advice. One last post and then block.