I mean, she's in her 20's still right? She's still young, and been in a long term relationship most of her adult life. It's not uncommon for people to think about “what they might be missing”. Some people act on it, some people just think about it for a while, move on and never act on it. It's a normal human thing, and doesn't always mean they will be a cheater.
I'd be more concerned with the lack of empathy for how this whole thing would hurt him, rather than blowing up her reasons for doing so out of proportion and thinking she's some cheater with no evidence for it. It seems more like she took him for granted and is used to him caring about her emotional wellbeing without really reciprocating and caring for his. To me it seems like that would be a heathier thing to focus on to see if she's grown into a mature partner for the future.
Her friends tell HER things in confidence – a confidence she respects – not YOU. That is a big difference. If she didn’t tell you things about herself and her life, I’d be worried, but her friend’s most private matters are none of your business. I’m with your gf. She will share if she wants to or wants your opinion, but other than that, her respecting her friend’s privacy is admirable. Means, she is likely also respecting yours, which would be a big bonus to me too.
He doesn’t brush his teeth regularly lmao I bet he’s smelling his own breath.
I mean, she's in her 20's still right? She's still young, and been in a long term relationship most of her adult life. It's not uncommon for people to think about “what they might be missing”. Some people act on it, some people just think about it for a while, move on and never act on it. It's a normal human thing, and doesn't always mean they will be a cheater.
I'd be more concerned with the lack of empathy for how this whole thing would hurt him, rather than blowing up her reasons for doing so out of proportion and thinking she's some cheater with no evidence for it. It seems more like she took him for granted and is used to him caring about her emotional wellbeing without really reciprocating and caring for his. To me it seems like that would be a heathier thing to focus on to see if she's grown into a mature partner for the future.
extreme take, but not extreme from the truth. i do feel like i could be achieving so much more without this weight
Nope.
Her friends tell HER things in confidence – a confidence she respects – not YOU. That is a big difference. If she didn’t tell you things about herself and her life, I’d be worried, but her friend’s most private matters are none of your business. I’m with your gf. She will share if she wants to or wants your opinion, but other than that, her respecting her friend’s privacy is admirable. Means, she is likely also respecting yours, which would be a big bonus to me too.