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tityjob [GOAL MET]
Date: October 29, 2022
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tityjob [GOAL MET]
You remain drama free by not engaging in drama. Not only your behavior but the character and behavior of the people you have in your life. If you have a friend who is constantly gossiping and stirring the pot, they're not a very good friend, and you should probably address it with them, and maybe limit their role in your life.
As someone who was married at 21, we DID talk about this stuff and had mature conversations around children and birth control, etc. But not everyone has those conversations. I tell young people not to rush into marriage, it worked out for me, but that doesn’t mean it’s the right decision for them. ??♀️
No you are not obligated to tell him everything you’ve ever done. That would be silly. Yeah this was a big deal but you have grown and changed and would never do anything like that again. You were clearly having some sort of mental health crisis because there would have been other ways to deal with it and you went the false rape claim route instead. But you were young and ill and when people have mental health issues, they sometimes do things they wouldn’t have otherwise.
If I were him tho, I would be a bit concerned if I found out. Knowing you have made false claims in the past would put me on edge for sure, like would you do it again if you weren’t getting the attention or help you need? Would he be at risk? Would you lie over a domestic issue if it ever came down to it? Those are the things I’d be thinking if I were him.
Thank you for sharing this perspective. This is really helpful.
Imagine you skipped the graduation. Would they be grateful? Would they say things like: We know this was a really hot choice. We'll make sure to have a very special celebration for you on another day. We appreciate you being here. Would they congratulate you and recognize your sacrifice publicly in a little speech? Have the guests cheer for you? Do everything to make your evening special too?
Or would you stand on the sideline as always, with your appearance being taken for granted, so they won't look like a less than perfect family to the other guests? Ask you not to mention anything, so guests won't be distracted from the bride and groom? And afterwards simply forget about your achievement (unless they can use it to bragg about it) and never celebrate you specifically, because your graduation day already passed, so why make a fuss about it?