This. OP claims the family visit is the reason but then casually drops the bomb about her sleeping until noon everyday. The mention of PCOS also makes me wonder if they have any intimacy as well.
I'd honestly talk to her and ask her to stop for integrity issues. I would be open that you like her and your are confused by her actions but if she does like you she needs to end her current relationship if things can go farther. If she doesn't then it sucks to be you and move on.
Even though it has not gone sexual yet, she's already cheating on you unless she's just very very very very friendly. You don't want to start a relationship this way.
I agree she seems to have no respect for me being her mother in law. It's very disappointing. I'm astounded by all the people who don't feel that grandparents are needed in children's lives and that I'm simply owed nothing. Without me that child would not be here and I don't think she realizes it. I wish my son had handled a lot of this differently. It feels like people believe children can be used as pawns when you don't agree with the grandparents.
Please listen to the people telling you to run. When I was 22 I started a relationship with a controlling, manipulative asshole and 14 years later, I can honestly say the negative impact he had on me is still ongoing. Like the gift that keeps giving but in a bad way….
Please leave. You are worth so much more and the last thing you want to do is wake up at 36 and look back on wasted years of regret and suffering. We split in 2014 but the damage had long since been done and is still ongoing. The harm a bad relationship can cause…. can be endless. Just run.
Date until you see what all is out there. I didn't meet my first real man till I was 31 and the way I describe it is… if you've only ever been indoors all your life, you think the ceiling is pretty high… but once you go outside, you really see how high, high goes. That's what guys are like… so stop looking up to the ceiling and start looking for the sky. ?
for those who are already decades in to a certain way of communicating, it's a big ask that they should change that unless THEY want to.
Would you say the same of men who were raised to be brash, disrespectful and demanding? Or should he change his behavior?
Don’t blame your sister at all.
Your husband raped her.
You mention she was so drunk you had to help her. She was not able to consent. Hell, she probably didn’t even understand what was going on.
Divorce his ass immediately.
This. OP claims the family visit is the reason but then casually drops the bomb about her sleeping until noon everyday. The mention of PCOS also makes me wonder if they have any intimacy as well.
Found the boyfriend
I'd honestly talk to her and ask her to stop for integrity issues. I would be open that you like her and your are confused by her actions but if she does like you she needs to end her current relationship if things can go farther. If she doesn't then it sucks to be you and move on.
Even though it has not gone sexual yet, she's already cheating on you unless she's just very very very very friendly. You don't want to start a relationship this way.
Thank you for your comment.
I agree she seems to have no respect for me being her mother in law. It's very disappointing. I'm astounded by all the people who don't feel that grandparents are needed in children's lives and that I'm simply owed nothing. Without me that child would not be here and I don't think she realizes it. I wish my son had handled a lot of this differently. It feels like people believe children can be used as pawns when you don't agree with the grandparents.
Please listen to the people telling you to run. When I was 22 I started a relationship with a controlling, manipulative asshole and 14 years later, I can honestly say the negative impact he had on me is still ongoing. Like the gift that keeps giving but in a bad way….
Please leave. You are worth so much more and the last thing you want to do is wake up at 36 and look back on wasted years of regret and suffering. We split in 2014 but the damage had long since been done and is still ongoing. The harm a bad relationship can cause…. can be endless. Just run.
Date until you see what all is out there. I didn't meet my first real man till I was 31 and the way I describe it is… if you've only ever been indoors all your life, you think the ceiling is pretty high… but once you go outside, you really see how high, high goes. That's what guys are like… so stop looking up to the ceiling and start looking for the sky. ?