She definitely shouldn’t tell him. It’s in this guys’ best interests to be clueless. She should just break up with him, lie about why and immediately block him.
It's natural to feel unlovable when you're feeling sad or hurt, but it's important to remember that these feelings are temporary and do not define your worth as a person. It's okay to feel sad and to take time to process your emotions. It's also okay to reach out to others for support and to ask for help when you need it.
One thing you can tell yourself is that your feelings are valid and that it's okay to feel sad or hurt. Remind yourself that it's normal to have ups and downs in life and that it's okay to ask for help when you need it. It's also important to remember that your worth as a person is not dependent on your emotions or the actions of others. You are loved and valued for who you are, regardless of how you feel.
It may also be helpful to practice self-care and engage in activities that bring you joy and help you feel more grounded. This could include spending time with loved ones, practicing relaxation techniques, exercising, or doing something creative. Remember to be kind to yourself and give yourself permission to take care of your own needs.
Don't do this to yourself for four more months. You will be miserable, and knowing it's over and that you resent the hell out of him, you're not going to be the same person in the relationship that you were. You're going to be disgusted at the thought of sex, your skin will crawl when he wants to cuddle or be affectionate, and you're going to either feel like shit having to say “I love you” and lie to him, or you're not going to do it and the confrontation is going to happen anyway. And even if you can avoid it now, the point is coming where you would normally be making financial choices if you were moving into a house, and he's going to realize way earlier than you want him to that something's up. And when it comes to a head, it's going to be emotional and frantic and you're not going to be able to have the planned break-up anyway.
He already doesn't pay anything. Tell him he has three options. 1) He leaves, and you take over the bills and don't ask him for any money, 2) He stays and you leave, which you will only do if he signs an agreement to pay all bills, which you will sue him on and win if he doesn't, or 3) You're going to go break the lease with the leasing office, they're going to evict him formally, and then you're going to sue him for half of the cost of breaking the lease, plus any additional charges related to his eviction. I guarantee as lazy as he is, he's probably going to pick one or three. Three sucks, because it costs you a money when you're home trying to save, but I promise it's so much better than what you're trying to do to both of you for the next four months.
this isnt about the roomba. you need to go to couples therapy to learn how to communicate. neither of you are listening to each other. also, tendency to violence in anger is a red flag imo and i would keep your eyes open and do what you can to ensure your children’s and your own safety.
She definitely shouldn’t tell him. It’s in this guys’ best interests to be clueless. She should just break up with him, lie about why and immediately block him.
It's natural to feel unlovable when you're feeling sad or hurt, but it's important to remember that these feelings are temporary and do not define your worth as a person. It's okay to feel sad and to take time to process your emotions. It's also okay to reach out to others for support and to ask for help when you need it.
One thing you can tell yourself is that your feelings are valid and that it's okay to feel sad or hurt. Remind yourself that it's normal to have ups and downs in life and that it's okay to ask for help when you need it. It's also important to remember that your worth as a person is not dependent on your emotions or the actions of others. You are loved and valued for who you are, regardless of how you feel.
It may also be helpful to practice self-care and engage in activities that bring you joy and help you feel more grounded. This could include spending time with loved ones, practicing relaxation techniques, exercising, or doing something creative. Remember to be kind to yourself and give yourself permission to take care of your own needs.
Don't do this to yourself for four more months. You will be miserable, and knowing it's over and that you resent the hell out of him, you're not going to be the same person in the relationship that you were. You're going to be disgusted at the thought of sex, your skin will crawl when he wants to cuddle or be affectionate, and you're going to either feel like shit having to say “I love you” and lie to him, or you're not going to do it and the confrontation is going to happen anyway. And even if you can avoid it now, the point is coming where you would normally be making financial choices if you were moving into a house, and he's going to realize way earlier than you want him to that something's up. And when it comes to a head, it's going to be emotional and frantic and you're not going to be able to have the planned break-up anyway.
He already doesn't pay anything. Tell him he has three options. 1) He leaves, and you take over the bills and don't ask him for any money, 2) He stays and you leave, which you will only do if he signs an agreement to pay all bills, which you will sue him on and win if he doesn't, or 3) You're going to go break the lease with the leasing office, they're going to evict him formally, and then you're going to sue him for half of the cost of breaking the lease, plus any additional charges related to his eviction. I guarantee as lazy as he is, he's probably going to pick one or three. Three sucks, because it costs you a money when you're home trying to save, but I promise it's so much better than what you're trying to do to both of you for the next four months.
He cooks and cleans and takes care of the children equally. So there's that.
this isnt about the roomba. you need to go to couples therapy to learn how to communicate. neither of you are listening to each other. also, tendency to violence in anger is a red flag imo and i would keep your eyes open and do what you can to ensure your children’s and your own safety.
So on top of all that she's at the very least emotionally cheating on you. She had no respect for other people.
Than tell that girl what you have done.
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