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StickkyJ chat @wrk Lush in vibe 7/my no. 100 , ‘tis
Date: October 3, 2022
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StickkyJ chat @wrk Lush in vibe 7/my no. 100 , ‘tis
Your temper escalated things, it didn't calm them down.
You are never going to find your self confidence if you stay with a man who constantly tells you that you’re not good enough yet. Yet? He is an ass, you deserve better.
There is nuance here.
If they have discussed both wanting children, then yeah he's kinda a dick.
If they discussed that he did not want children or not “now”, I don't think he's a dick for saying he's going to bounce if she wants to keep the baby, obviously he'd need to pay child support. Would you prefer that he pretended he was fine with either option, and then ran off when it was too late/after birth?
Me & my partner are on the same page with no want for kids, and I have in no uncertain terms state that we would split if something like this happened and she changed her mind.
You can't force people to be parents, that's how you get abusive households. However obviously you'd still be on the hook for child support.
I read that part as referring to the relationship. A relationship is a nice thing to have.
You didn’t list “many other things” when the person asked why you failed it. You actually blamed it on your job which makes me feel like you’re not getting it. You said yourself the class was extremely difficult and you needed to dedicate more time to it and listed working as the only factor. Seeing as you didn’t deny that you work to support I’ll take that as a yes. That means you didn’t have as much “free time” as you thought you did. Pretty sure the point your dad is making and definitely the point I’m trying to make is that you could have dedicated more time to your responsibilities without a 20 hour commute.
Well isn't that what all wives do?
Yeah, it really sucks because I have been listening to all of these videos he’s been watching (he sends them to me as a passive way of communicating his new expectations instead of just communicating his feelings in a healthy way)… and I just cringe inside because I can tell he’s falling for it and it’s changing how he treats me. I mean, good on him for expressing his feelings but at the same time, he’s criticizing every single “manly” thing I do now and how this and that is making him feel like less of a man and it’s my fault and blah blah. I just want to be a TEAM and it sucks. We got into a thing today because he said “look at that Tahoe (suv)” and I said “is that a Suburban?” And he’s like “I said it was a Tahoe. Do you think I’m stupid? Why do you always have to question me?” … all he had to do was just say “yeah I saw the name on the back” which lead to us talking about feeling disrespected and when I said “I believe in equal respect” he said “I disagree. Husbands should have more respect.” He wasn’t always like this… but maybe he was internally and I just didn’t realize.
Yeah, I’ve thought about talking to my father in law but I don’t want my husband to feel like I’m airing our dirty laundry and disrespecting him by going to family. IF we were to separate and my father in law asks me anything, then I’d probably say something. I just feel alone and that’s why I’m here on Reddit.
NO!
She's a s**t and ain't worth your time. If you are a glutten for punishment and lacks any self-respect, then pursue her to your own detriment.
“Thankfully we live in a time where if you actually tried to kidnap her as you've just implied you would like, you'd very likely find yourself shot.”
Trust issues could be due to ptsd, but there are also cases where it is projection. Where the person themselves are untrustworthy and doing shady things, so they project that onto others expecting to be the same. What you are describing does sound like a projection. As it sounds like he take take take and doesn't give.