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Sorry long time no broadcast, we have a war here .Will back to CB 26.04.2022.Miss u a lott, 22 y.o.
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On-line Live Sex Chat rooms Sorry long time no broadcast, we have a war here .Will back to CB 26.04.2022.Miss u a lott
Date: November 6, 2022
What man in his 40s gets into fist fights over some young idiot saying “bitch”?
What?
Are you sure he's not 13? He needs to understand this isn't acceptable behavior. Roll your eyes at stupid kids and walk away.
Thank you thats a good Idea
Thank you! I have already talked to him about this and he assured me that he will be doing his best to meet my needs and I did the same for him, that was back on November, before the last time we had intimacy. His need (as he told me) were basically to have his own space and free time, which I try to provide him (he works from home, I go to the office) so I always try to go for an iced coffee or an ice cream before coming home so he can have some extra time to play or watch or do whatever he wants on his free time. That's pretty much why I don't know how to talk to him again since he have already spoken but yeah, not big progress. Maybe I should try again. Thanks a lot for the advice.
I would not see her until she fixes herself. Tell her how you feel and if she can’t change don’t see her, probably for the baby a few months but not every 3 months
What has she accomplished? She's only just getting in to a field that many 21 year olds are already in
Controlling guy – sorry he is not worth it. When you are in a LDR this is crazy.
Break up – sorry
Do all guys do this? Is this something most men do? We have such an incredible relationship besides this huge fkn bomb that’s been dropped.
Do this in order 3, 1 and worst case scenario 2
The pill needs to be taken at the same time every day, otherwise it doesn’t work, and generally fucks up your hormones.
Whatevs, if i had all the answers i wouldn't be on reddit asking strangers for advice. Pretty awesome that all the help i get is “you're not being sensitive to her needs” even tho i've been a complete rock for her over the last 4 years.
A family member is looking out for you and you felt the need to spill the beans verbatim? I do question your logic on that one. Right now you are seeing the best version of your dude, and your cousin was giving a behind the scenes view. Maybe he was overly harsh, but he was looking out for you.
Your wife feeling comfortable and secure should be the last of your worries, since the request she made that will accomplish this is so unreasonable and asinine that it's not even worth consideration.
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How to move on is your question: understand the issues in the relationship and that you'll never get the things you want as long as they exist. If you don't have solutions and he isn't willing to try and love things either then there is no relationship to be had anymore
You’re a contingency.
Continued…
When she gets back I speak to her about her trip and she mentions the night with NF, SF (school friend) and Jim. I ask if NF was there all night. He was. I’m now pissed again, she lied about him not being there over message.
Also the dinner was just P, NF and Jim. SF didn’t arrive till late and the other people never came at all. It was just her and the two guys from class.
At this point I feel pretty disrespected. The next day I tell her we need to go on a break so I can think things through. She cries a lot and it is a sad day, but it went about as well as could ever go.
I explain how this whole saga made me feel, how she didn’t behave in a way that respected my feelings and that she was deceptive. She didn’t agree and refused to see that she had done any wrong. She is adamant it is a platonic friendship and that I am stopping her forming a friendship.
So we take the break. But we still talk. We share custody of a dog so we keep in touch and it’s all pleasant. But I’m still thinking it through. We start to reconnect a bit but still haven’t come to an agreement on how things should’ve been handled.
Now towards the end of the year NF was coming to Sydney. The on-line class was having an alumni event and mostly the whole class would be there. I’d known this for a while.
Then on the day before the event as I ask how her day is I get a response “it’s good, NF just arrived in Sydney so I’m meeting him for coffee now.”
I’m even more pissed this time. After all I’ve said and now it’s a one on one coffee. Bear in mind the break we are on isn’t a single person break, it’s just a literal break and space from each other. This was clear to us both.
The next day she goes to the alumni event and they all end up at some house after partying or drinking etc. no idea what happened here. Just a night out I guess.
Anyway, after all of this we have been arguing for the last few weeks, debating the relationship as we cannot agree on this situation.
I believe that she should not have gone to meet the guy in another state after she knew I was uncomfortable, that she shouldn’t have lied about him being there and that she shouldn’t have met him for coffee.
She believes that she did no wrong. That our core values are not aligned. That I am making something out of nothing.
I was happy to let it slide and move past it if we could agree on how it should be handled in future.
I said that she should have skipped meeting in Melbourne, minimised the amount of messaging, and if she wanted to meet him that she could have done it with me when he came to our state later in the year. She offered no suggestions as she does not think she did any wrong.
My mind is all blurry and I’m not sure if I’ve written everything but it should suffice. To cap it off though there is one thing she said to me that has sat with me.
I asked her “why did you need to go and meet these people so badly when you knew I was uncomfortable with it.”
Her response – “I didn’t need to, I wanted to.”
She thinks that I ruined her trip, made her feel shit about making a friend and am controlling.
I’ve told her I am now considering the future of the relationship. Not sure how to feel on this one.
OP you might not realize that the problem is your boyfriend. People feel different ways all the time and we cannot control their feelings or actions. But if your grown, 32 year old man partner is not shutting this down and telling her immediately that it was inappropriate and cutting her out of his life, he is saying to you 1. he doesn't mind that she feels this way 2. the blatant disrespect that she has shown towards you and his relationship is fine 3. he is not protecting your relationship 4. he doesn't mind what boundaries are crossed. You deserve more and you don't need to tiptoe around it or feel bad for questioning his line of thinking and motives. His reaction and way of going about things is super suspicious. It seems as if he enjoys the attention.
This describes my karate sensei perfectly. No matter who he was practicing kumite with, he fought at a level that was just a little better than his opponent. White belts got hit, but were able to hit him some also. I never realized just how good he was until I saw him absolutely demolish a 5th degree black belt instructor who would bring his class to ours to train with us. This guy was 6’5” tall with long arms and legs, freakishly quick. He was being a little rough on us, not a jerk, but making it painfully clear that he was in another league. (I was a brown belt then, getting close to my black belt test, so I could analyze the fights/techniques decently enough.) When James, my instructor and an 8th level black belt (technically a red/white belt) and Rick, the 5th degree black belt, fought, it was a master lesson. James is 5’8” and Rick should have been able to keep him at length with his longer limbs, but he couldn’t touch him. James was always an inch or closer out of reach and would follow him back inside. I’ve never seen anything like that since. Rick would punch or kick, never touching my sensei, and James looked like he just flowed like water around a rock. Just the sheer skill was mind-blowing. I’m still in awe of what I saw. I mean, I KNEW my instructor was good, but I had never seen him fight anywhere close to his full capacity until that night. The whole time they fought, James was still teaching Rick. After getting inside Rick’s reach several times, James would tell him where to move or how to better recover after a punch or kick that didn’t land. I realized and truly appreciated his teaching method after that because he fought everyone on the level they were, pushing them just a little bit harder and teaching the whole time. Sorry for the long reply, but every time I recall that, I get a new sense of respect for my friend. He’s actually who I try to emulate when I teach (not karate, but high school English). I meet my students where they are and bring them up from there.
Food compatibility in relationships is way underrated and overlooked. Having similar eating habits is super important imo. I don’t have any advice but… do you see yourself with someone like that long-term? Where food becomes a constant source of disagreement? Where you can’t even enjoy yourself while out on a date because your girlfriend can only eat one type of cuisine?
I mean, it depends where your priorities are. Clearly it seems like it’s bothering you a lot. And if she’s not willing to compromise…
I hope you can set some boundaries around your friend OP. Her issues with guys aren’t your problem or responsibility to protect her from, and I sense your resentment is coming from the fact she continues to ask for your emotional labor in these situations, yet they just keep ending up the same every time. That’s a lot to ask of someone.
Your relationship won't last.
He needs therapy and he needs to be willing to change. Frankly it’s an absolute deal breaker for me. The bottom line with a hoarder is that the default is to on-line in chaos, anything you try to change means you’re (from the hoarders perspective) harming them. How about watching hoarders together and seeing if you can get him on board. If you can’t you need to leave and sell the house before it loses all its value.
You shouldn’t be in a relationship right now. You need to work through a lot of stuff in therapy.
I think drop it. Alice has other things to think about. Leave Bob to stew in his own juice.