It’s not about humanity it’s about OP’s safety. She warned this woman about him at the very beginning, which is more than most would do after escaping an abuser. OP could be open Inc herself up to more abuse and harassment, even all these years later. She now has a family to think about.
If she personally helps this woman leave, and he finds out, there’s no telling what lengths he will go to. Men like this don’t give up easily, sometimes never. He could find her, threaten her, stalk her, and bring violence to her doorstep.
If you’ve never been in an abusive relationship you just can’t fathom the never ending terror. Even many years later, you can be pulled back into that place of fear and despair with something as simple as a familiar smell. The possibility of having even a tangential contact can be dangerous on many levels. OP is right to feel conflicted.
So he forced you to not only block the other guys but he then snoops through your phone?
That is INSANELY unhealthy and a massive breach of your privacy. I’d say get your stuff back in the most professional way possible, and try to make your way out of this relationship.
It’s not about humanity it’s about OP’s safety. She warned this woman about him at the very beginning, which is more than most would do after escaping an abuser. OP could be open Inc herself up to more abuse and harassment, even all these years later. She now has a family to think about.
If she personally helps this woman leave, and he finds out, there’s no telling what lengths he will go to. Men like this don’t give up easily, sometimes never. He could find her, threaten her, stalk her, and bring violence to her doorstep.
If you’ve never been in an abusive relationship you just can’t fathom the never ending terror. Even many years later, you can be pulled back into that place of fear and despair with something as simple as a familiar smell. The possibility of having even a tangential contact can be dangerous on many levels. OP is right to feel conflicted.
As I said, he loses knowledge very quickly like minutes after watching
I agree with Lundy Bancroft that cheating is abuse.
With that in mind I'm glad your mother was able to make the right decision for her.
Your gynecologist!
You guys have just enetered early adulthood. Things will change fast and frequently.
So he forced you to not only block the other guys but he then snoops through your phone?
That is INSANELY unhealthy and a massive breach of your privacy. I’d say get your stuff back in the most professional way possible, and try to make your way out of this relationship.
Why are you with him?