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oil all over my body [100 tokens remaining]
Date: October 25, 2022
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oil all over my body [100 tokens remaining]
Ah that makes a difference. I do think that goofiness during intimacy is something you can approach in a kind way. Personally I don’t think you should ask him to outright stop, because there’s gotta be a reason he does it. But you can definitely let him know that some more serious intimacy is something you’re craving. If you do this, please phrase it as something you have realized you’d like, reminding him that you love him and think this could be helpful. Support is key, because people always have a tough time hearing that their partner would like something different intimately. 100% within your rights to want that though.
For the hygiene, that’s also a tough conversation. Without knowing many specifics I would also say to just be loving and supportive with it, but firm in that his hygiene should be better. Hopefully it’s not him not cleaning his ass, but if it is I would just tell him that he’s gotta clean it because it’s gross and unsanitary to not. Maybe you could come from the sanitary perspective for whatever it is about his hygiene anyways? I’m sorry, I’ve never had to tell someone their hygiene wasn’t great lol
And okay
Have you ever heard of setting boundaries?
It doesn’t matter if he’s joking or not. If you don’t like anything someone is saying it’s always ok to say: “Friend, you know I like you but please don’t say that to me ever again.” That’s it. You don’t need to give a reason, explain yourself, describe your rationale. Real friends will respect you saying no the first time. Crappy, immature people will question you, bargain with you, push your buttons over and over again and just say “hey, I was just kidding”.
Until you express your discomfort, people won’t guess that something is bothering you. Cutting them out of your life without giving them a chance is a recipe for a very lonely life.
And for the record, if I texted my friend feeling down and they offered to meet up, I wouldn’t immediately take it as sexual advance. Scratch that. I did do that on multiple occasions and all we did was hang out, watch a movie and have a laugh.
Since it was a sexless marriage, would it be okay if he cheated on her?
that might get her kicked out. it’s their house after all.
You have so much to do that you probably don't have time for sex. Oh, you have to do that too? He's got it made in the shade. Why would he change.
First, I find it odd that your friends would cut you off. There has to be a reason you’re leaving out here but you’ll have to let us know.
Either way, you’re not pathetic. It was logically a bad decision to become a FWB and stay in contact as “friends” if you every wanted a realistic chance of moving on, but it is what it is. It’s hard to let go. You’re not crazy even if misguided. But we live and learn.
After that, your argument is sort of all over the place. Realistically, if you need to stay in and study, her “thriving” is irrelevant. But big picture, you can’t look at this as her being malicious. She’s moving on. That was going to happen. It needed to.
So while I do ultimately suggest you get back out there and use all resources at your disposal, right now you’re unfortunately right; you would be using it to fill a void. If you just want to have some fun and hook up, I’d go for it. But if you want something real, I’d pause and give yourself some time to actually move on from her. Good luck.
I don't know what to do. I'm hoping he'll maybe only go once, decide it's not for him and then that'll be the end of it. But his friend is the problem. He's asked my bf many times to go to church with him. And I don't think he'll accept a “not for me” response from my bf. I feel like he'll keep pushing it on him.
Don’t feel bad about finding out you were dating a cheater. Dump her.
You can move on. It just doesn't have to be with him. It's your choice if you want to give it a go, but it will be incredibly hot and an uphill battle. I root for people to work it out, but the reality is that it rarely does because after the trust is broken, it's never the same. If you do reconcile, it's a new marriage and a new reality, as the old one is gone. Is it better to coparent or try to work it out? Only questions you can answer…..
Well it's not your wife's fault. It's just a shitty situation.
What kind of pictures? Also… From your post it doesn't sound like anyone involved had any I'll intentions. He's a professional photographer and she wanted to give you a present for your anniversary
Yeah though it is very likely she will as my job is lite hiring anyone atm
I think that is a fair thing to bring up feeling burnt out with her. Maybe you could talk to her about needing a little time to decompress when you first get home. I know I definitely need a hot minute to drink some water and shake off the day when I first get home after a long commute. Maybe tell her something like you need at least 20-30 minutes to freshen up, change clothes, catch up on some memes, etc. so you both are on the same page about where to set expectations and meeting each other’s needs. If you consistently maintain this then she won’t have it in her head that you should always be on her schedule or meeting her energy level on demand.
Get your wife the push present of all push presents and make sure she doesn’t lift a damn finger during her recovery for starters
You need to show your wife she is a priority in your life if you have any chance of turning that bus around