Honestly, it probably happened exactly the way OP said, but she’s omitting the context around it.
I don’t have autism, but my mother could have written something veeeeeeeery similar to this, about me losing my shit over something minor. But it would be leaving out the part where i repeatedly asked her not to do that minor thing and she repeatedly promised she wouldn’t do it, and then did it anyway. She probably even would have used her physical health as an excuse for why i had to tolerate the extremely minor thing i was repeatedly promised i wouldn’t have to tolerate. And if i complained, I’d be the bad guy, because it was such a minor thing.
Excellent q. He has his moments of selfishness and others where he isn’t.
I kinda feel like this is the last straw for me.
A while ago we had an argument and I feel like he is extremely defensive. I was hoping that his feelings for me would outdo his ego but I’ve realized it had nothing to do with me.
Yes you need to talk to her before you go on the vacation. You DO NOT want to go answer with someone you are about to break up with. It will be a long painful trip and you will be both miserable.
You need to have serious conversation with her now and figure out what to do. If that means you breaking up and everyone out money then figure out how to deal with that. If you two can figure out things now and use the vacation as a last opportunity to talk about everything for 2 grueling days then do it but you need to set the expectations now.
Elliot Rogers vibes here…
Honestly, it probably happened exactly the way OP said, but she’s omitting the context around it.
I don’t have autism, but my mother could have written something veeeeeeeery similar to this, about me losing my shit over something minor. But it would be leaving out the part where i repeatedly asked her not to do that minor thing and she repeatedly promised she wouldn’t do it, and then did it anyway. She probably even would have used her physical health as an excuse for why i had to tolerate the extremely minor thing i was repeatedly promised i wouldn’t have to tolerate. And if i complained, I’d be the bad guy, because it was such a minor thing.
Kate’s Real name is Karen !
Excellent q. He has his moments of selfishness and others where he isn’t.
I kinda feel like this is the last straw for me.
A while ago we had an argument and I feel like he is extremely defensive. I was hoping that his feelings for me would outdo his ego but I’ve realized it had nothing to do with me.
What does that have to do with it? Lots of things are illegal that shouldn't be
I GUARANTEE you he feels insecure and he’s masking his insecurity with jokes. But that’s no excuse.
He’s young and he will learn. That doesnt mean you need to be his teacher. Either he stops with the annoying “jokes” or you end it.
Not telling anyone only protects the sexual harasser.
Yes you need to talk to her before you go on the vacation. You DO NOT want to go answer with someone you are about to break up with. It will be a long painful trip and you will be both miserable.
You need to have serious conversation with her now and figure out what to do. If that means you breaking up and everyone out money then figure out how to deal with that. If you two can figure out things now and use the vacation as a last opportunity to talk about everything for 2 grueling days then do it but you need to set the expectations now.