Seriously, the moment someone starts poking around at other options they dumped me as far as I'm concerned, and when I find out about it the relationship is already over.
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She needs to start seeing a psychiatrist. You need to communicate that you hope she'll consider it.
For things to get better, she needs to want for them to get better. She needs professional help. If she won't get it, your choice is accept things as they are or decide it isn't an existence you're okay with.
There's always the chance of her projecting on to you and is covering up her own indiscretion, but ultimately you need decide to trust her and repair or that you don't trust her. If there isn't trust, there shouldn't be a relationship.
Ultimately, I think that the best course of action is a divorce, but all I'll suggest is that you take the sunk cost out of it: as she is, is this person someone you want to be in relationship with?
It’s WAY weirder that they are doing this in only one apartment. Like that alone makes it bizarre to me why the OP can’t guess that at the very least someone is uncomfortable with their presence.
It’s rude. It’s inconvenient. And other adult people get sick of paying for you to come to their apartment to get laid.
One of two things is happening here. Either the bf needs some space. Or the friend is willing to leave or kick out the bf.
It’s entirely possible her bf may be sick of hosting and rethinking things because of exactly how self-centered OP is.
Very likely he will be successful.
Seriously, the moment someone starts poking around at other options they dumped me as far as I'm concerned, and when I find out about it the relationship is already over.
Define “seeing”. Does that include fwb, etc?The question was about sexual exclusivity.
This was going to be my recommendation too
Yeah gf is attracted to him , enjoys the attention/validation, she’s the problem not him
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This a one sided relationship! His needs are more important than yours. Maybe he isn’t the one for you.
She needs to start seeing a psychiatrist. You need to communicate that you hope she'll consider it.
For things to get better, she needs to want for them to get better. She needs professional help. If she won't get it, your choice is accept things as they are or decide it isn't an existence you're okay with.
There's always the chance of her projecting on to you and is covering up her own indiscretion, but ultimately you need decide to trust her and repair or that you don't trust her. If there isn't trust, there shouldn't be a relationship.
Ultimately, I think that the best course of action is a divorce, but all I'll suggest is that you take the sunk cost out of it: as she is, is this person someone you want to be in relationship with?
It is definitely a risk. Good luck
It’s WAY weirder that they are doing this in only one apartment. Like that alone makes it bizarre to me why the OP can’t guess that at the very least someone is uncomfortable with their presence.
It’s rude. It’s inconvenient. And other adult people get sick of paying for you to come to their apartment to get laid.
One of two things is happening here. Either the bf needs some space. Or the friend is willing to leave or kick out the bf.
It’s entirely possible her bf may be sick of hosting and rethinking things because of exactly how self-centered OP is.
This is a good thing that he is honestly telling you how he will feel. You should take the blessing, which is that you’re finding out now, and leave.