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OIL IN TITIS [Multi Goal]
Date: October 10, 2022
AmateurPub
AmateurPub
OIL IN TITIS [Multi Goal]
Not a red flag. The only question is can you live without it.
Sounds like a troll tbh.
I knew I wanted to break up with him but felt like I needed to create a reason for why I had to break up with him.
Red flag behavior. You had sex with someone just because you needed to bolster your internalized reasons for breaking up with him? This is doubtful and I'll get to that later.
there was an incident in the beginning of the relationship where I’m 99% sure he cheated on me but he adamantly denied it and I was dumb.
He denied it, you stayed with him and you think this makes it ok that you cheated on him? What the fuck am I reading here?
and beat myself up over it for months.
If you beat yourself up over it, then you weren't really convinced he cheated on you, you are just using that to justify your shitty behavior the night before you broke up, as far as we know, you cheated and THEN decided to break up.
The only person we know for sure cheated is you.
but I truly am a completely different person now than I was 10 months ago,
No you aren't, unless of course you've had 10 sexual partners and have exhausted all of your “experimenting” and are ready to settle with someone you previously felt had less to offer than random anonymous men out there.
“I've grown” is code for “I fucked up. I did shitty things, take me back” or in women's language “I am ready now”.
That said, why does HE need to be a different person, you haven't mentioned anything he has done that caused you to want to break up with him? Also, if he is a different person and you are a different person how does this equate to you two being good for each other.
If there is more to this story, please share.
Getting back with an ex can be good, can be bad, but if you are going to continue to believe he cheated on you first and that you were justified in some way, even a small way for you cheating on him, this will never work. Mostly because you seem to be a tit for tat kind of person, but also because neither one of you have trust as you're number one priority and you'll both always be thinking about it.
Once you break someone's trust, it NEVER comes back.
If you are a genuine person and not just playing games here to get the comments that justifies and validates you then don't tell him, give it a go if he wants to and see what happens. You tell him and it will be broken from the start and I say this because as you tell him YOU will make it worse by blaming him, even if you do not blame him directly or outright. You will say the same things you are telling us and I promise you he will not see it as you see it.
BTW, 10 months does not make someone go from “dumb” (your words) to not dumb.
My final thought here is that cheaters are morally reprehensible and your “reason” makes it even worse.
Girl, he is trash. Like hot heatwave garbage out a week past pickup day. Ew. Come watch me watch a movie after 5 months is obscene.
The victim blaming on this sub when it's a dude is unreal ?
I’m assuming you had a typo and meant your ex-fiancé. That’s not a fixable issue.
Are you a child?