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She doesn’t love you. Sorry to be that blunt. She said what she said because it’s how she feels. She doesn’t want to work on it or she’d be willing to go to counseling. Your kids are watching. This is their example of what a relationship should be.
I’d read what everyone here has to say and take it all with a grain of salt. Then I’d sit back and do some soul searching. This is your life. Only you have to online it.
You literally gave yourself the advice that everyone will give you: leave him for good. You think this person is your one and only but it's not. Another will come and love you better… Also, tell him, he might be risking other people's health.
I’ll be honest with you; I’m not sure I’ve ever seen a similar post where I felt a need to call out the OP until this. To be fair though, I fully agree you owe him absolutely nothing. You can obviously feel free to ignore the rest.
But for the sake of providing legitimate advice, in the nicest way possible, you sound like a nightmare. And that word might be an exaggeration so I honestly apologize.
Let’s just start with the “keep in mind.” The statement was completely irrelevant. It adds nothing to the story nor does it support your argument. It in fact hurts it in the sense that you clearly knew you were wasting your time off the bat.
To back up, I’m a guy and I’m happily married. I tell you this for two reasons; first, that I actually agree with you that generally speaking the person who asks should be the one who pays. Second, that I’m not here being negative for the sake of being negative. I certainly don’t hate women and I wish you nothing but the best.
To the date itself, he’s an asshole for not knowing the cost of the restaurant he picked, but also for openly complaining about it. I don’t care who you are. That’s always going be a turn off and it should be.
I feel like information was left out here, but whatever it was, he said he’d pay. I don’t know if the date was mediocre entirely because of that or not, but it’s honestly crazy to me it was discussed early into the date. That again has me in full support of you.
To back up, I’m a New Yorker, so I understand your statement on price. As a blanket statement though, that was just fucking shitty (to anyone else reading this).
He didn’t leave a tip? Yeah, he’s an asshole. I’ll even address this statement to non-Americans; no matter how you feel about tipping culture, that’s the reality, and the guy’s move was shitty in a bigger manner than OP’s feelings (which are reasonable).
I wouldn’t say it was “polite” to let him walk you home as much as both silly in the sense that you could and should have cut it off then and there, but also that it might have suggested a good date. But whatever. That was a non-issue in the big picture.
What’s next is absurd. “Unfortunately” he asked you out again? Yeah, no shit. It’s certainly unfortunate, but his view of the date is different than your’s. That’s not your fault at all until this moment. Why was his lack of planning your breaking point? Should have been a no off the bat.
Either way, his response was completely unacceptable. He obviously further confirmed that you’re dodging a bullet.
Money wise, like I said, you owe him nothing. Also, it wouldn’t be 120; it’d be 60. But again, you don’t owe him anything. If you went out again, would he be asking? Of course not. Block and ignore across the board. If you ever legitimately fear for your safety, report it to the authorities. Good luck.
It's gonna heart for the moment. You're essentially weaning yourself off an addiction (which chemically speaking love is pretty identical to as far as your brain perceives it).
But the most healthy thing to do here is to turn the page on that chapter of your life with the intention of never looking back.
Pining for her and regurgitating thoughts/feelings of the past is only gonna be a more one-sided, unrequited affair the longer you try to maintain in her orbit.
Accept your new reality. Nude as it may be.
BAIL. youre not responsible for this dudes mental health and he NEEDS to get help BEFORE he gets into a serious relationship.
Plenty of possibilities. Maybe he intended to but had a change of heart. Maybe the classmate misunderstood him or he told the classmate yes after being pressed for it, just to shut classmate up about it. Maybe the invitation got lost in the snail mail or incorrect email. Maybe he asked some one to text you the invite and they forgot or did not bother to. Since none of us can get inside his head, it can only be speculated on. Why don't you just ask him (even if it feels awkward)?
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In fairness to him, he didn't touch his post history. I used the camas unddit tool and input his username. Those posts were all deleted before I commented.
If you're both acting in good faith with each other then I don't think it's necessarily wrong to enjoy the time you have left.
Do you see yourself as the type to get married to someone else who does not want kids?
You don't want to wait so long that you are both gonna miss out on great people who are right for them for the long term but in my opinion you're both young enough even if you stay together for 4 more years you're not at risk of that, Except the whole getting hurt thing.
The other option if you can both bear it is keep staying in a relationship but become non exclusive at some point then you can date others and find someone else who is right for you but I think this is not a good option for most.
My eldest is orange haired with light grey/blue eyes and freckles. Looks nothing like me. My youngest is a splitting image, dark skin and features, brown hair, near black eyes.
Can’t really question if he’s mine since he came from my body.
Your husband is a dick and if you wanted to save the marriage I would demand therapy after taking the test. If he won’t then leave.
I’m so sorry.
Nope again not gas lighting. I am not asking her “did he really throw the cat?” or “are you sure he threw the cat angrily?”. I am asking for much needed context of if the cat was thrown how was it thrown? If the cat was harmed what about the cat was hurt or injured?
If she wants to post on an advice subreddit she is open to people giving advice and asking questions. She is not instantly given the benefit of the doubt just because she is the one telling the story, especially with her reaction to instantly start throwing things at him and calling him names. how the cat was thrown is a pretty key detail.
If you ever decide to leave him, he's going to use everything he bought you as a way to keep you with him. He'll probably say something along the lines of “I have done so much for you, and you are so ungrateful, all you want to do is take from me” or some shit like that.
You are right, thank you. No I don’t want to. I do want us to stay friends for the next 20 or even 40 years. As embarrassing as it is to admit (but probably pretty obvious) he has become kind of a father figure for me and I can’t imagine letting him go out of my life completely.
The therapist I certainly will find. I know I need to deal with these issues because I wouldn’t want another relationship where I am so dependent on the other person.
This is an element of covert narcissism. That’s not to say he is one, but maybe had been influenced in his younger life by someone.
My mother was this way. Until I got to therapy and fully understood, it just seemed REALLY dramatic: nobody, and I mean NOBODY, was sicker, more miserable, in more pain, or suffered as much as she did. She was extreme!
I bet anxiety is driven by the same thing for many people and they just haven’t linked the two. Low self esteem. Insightful.
The woman deserves an award for tolerating you. It sounds to me like your relationship won’t last. You are too selfish to be with anyone. The nerve to even come on here and ask is just so bizarre. Have you no shame? I don’t know how much she makes, but gas did get very expensive. This can be a significant expense. Pay the gas money or just face the reality you should let this poor woman go before she wastes the rest of her 30’s on you. I’m positive that if she was important to you, you wouldn’t be on here asking such a petty bizarre question.
So she wants a free pass to act single and fuck other dudes for 6 months while you pay the rent and the bills and look after the kids?
And you want to know what to do?
This.
If you can’t admit to understanding her point of view and actually being sorry for it, you’ve missed the point and deserve to be broken up with.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. It fucking sucks
You deserve better than a guy who treats you this way.
Also, if he is like this at the re-start of your relationship, it is only going to get worse. He is testing your boundaries.
Be honest about your feelings. I know it’s nude but why protect him? After everything he’s done to you you’re still protecting him? He needs to be held accountable.
Be honest about your feelings. I know it’s hard but why protect him? After everything he’s done to you you’re still protecting him? He needs to be held accountable.
I would probably just start having lunch in my car instead. She will eventually get the hint without you telling her directly and getting her ticked off and maybe out to get you.
Ya old happily married dude here.
I'd just be out. The fact that this is OK to her is just a hard no for me. She can go do whatever she wants, but that doesn't mean I'm going to tie myself in knots trying to make myself ok with my girlfriend being hot with other dudes and passing it off like it's nothing.
Just two different places, styles, or values. Either way, I'd be out.
I'll just say this, I could see it if it was a light hold and on the waist. Your waist is used to pants and belts and such hanging on it. You could miss this is drinking. Now if the hand had moved up more to her side/stomach or lower back. I would find this so much more suspect.
The real question is does she fully believe you, was she as upset as you, and does she agree she should cut contact with the guy forever?
You don't have to be polite to people who are being rude to you and disrespectful to your relationship.
Very simply shut them down when they bring it up.
This is none of your business.
I am talking to this about you.
You are being very rude and unprofessional
I don't need nor appreciate your opinion.
If you don't drop this highly inappropriate subject I will be taking this to HR or management whatever you have.
Yes that I definitely know. I think I will try and talk to M and tell him that we need to keep our distance and that this wouldn’t work out well for anybody.
What do you mean “problem”? Did you have an advanced emotional connection prior to your wife's suggestion? Or is this lady friend someone you always secretly had an eye on? I don't understand this “problem”, it's as if you already had it in the chamber, in which case, not sure how well your current marriage will survive.
Dump him. First time should always be the last time.
Thank you. That's a very clear line of thinking and I need a clearer head than I have. I appreciate the reply.
Do not try to make this work you will regret that decision for your entire life if you try to reconcile break up and move on sometimes it’s the loudest “I would never cheat” people that do cheat
Uhhh he might be doing you a favour. If he’s trying to marry you but refuses to talk to you about something so big in his life, that’s kind of a red flag no? You even feel so scared to ask him that you talked to his ex about it…
Plus the immediate threats of “it’s over between us”. You sure you want to marry into that?
I never thought of setting a date for myself based on how long I can deal with this. Thats actually a good idea to help give things time but not get stuck in an unhappy marriage. Thank you
you tried, take comfort in that.
But your point that you are getting married, how much more comfy with a person can you get? That holds up. She has repeatedly shown that as soon as the others are near by you are forgotten, and has broken rules she set.
Think forward to having kids. Are you going to DNA test them all? Because that will creep into your head eventually. If a kid isn't yours how will that be handled? Will the bio parent be in the picture? If so are you willing to share your wife even more than now?
A life of always doing things that she enjoys but leaving your needs unfulfilled just sounds like a slow death by resentment.
Take a deep breath, and go find someone who will return the love you give.
My bf farts a lot, but he has IBS. Some things he eat has a harder time digest then others. But the smell shouldnt be this horrible. Sure farts tend to smell, but it has to have with what we eat. Raw onions is good for the immune system but not everyone can digest them at the pace it should.
OP, your bf should see a doctor and make sure he doesn't have serious issues in there.
Oh and he should back off a little. If you don't want to have sex because of his smells, he shouldn't force you. Ask him to brush his teeth because the stench of raw onion is so not sexy??
It’s hot for me to admit this.
But I am a millennial American who spent his early adult years (Late 00’s/early 2010’s) as a city rat bohemian type in a major American city. A time period where everyone had an opinion about morrisey, Allin Ginsberg, and John Waters movies. The “hipster” years, if you may.
These alternative scenes really suck. I mean, a lot. The vanity, the self centered nature, and desire for social mobility/visibility, create an incredibly toxic dating environment.
Do you want to know the truth of these types? It goes for both men and women. They view relationships as a strategic means to move up the social ladder. I can’t tell you how many women dated me specifically to get into my friend group, the hardcore and punk scene I was apart of, or just to have that “aesthetic” around their arm.
My advice? Be yourself and find a genuine person. When it comes to city people, that can feel like a needle in a haystack, but it’s worth it. Or, move up the social hierarchy that’ll give you the status for men to date you.
Talk to her. Tell her you are not oke with this and if she keeps this up you will asking for a divorce. Imo a sahm should be doing everything at home when the so works. When i was a sahm my husband never did grocery's, cleaned the house or did the wash. Only thing he did was setting the table if he could and put the dishes in the dishwasher that enough. With 0:hours she doesn't have a job so she should do everything simple as that. If you don't react she's gonna find this normal which it isn't
This, basically. And if she tries to say “oh do whatever just dont tell me about it”, that could be a bad sign of her just going along with it to keep you happy but not feeling so great about it herself, and therefore just trying to not think about it. Discuss the different options and try to find what she actually thinks
It sounds like you have made yourself dependent on this gross human and now you’re stuck in a situation you hate. It almost sounds like you signed up for the first man that agreed to take you in, why would you accept this? Don’t accept this. You are too young. Apply for disability or access services and get away from this man.
Then sorry but you’re GF is an idiot if she doesn’t run this past her psychologist.
A few days, in country, hiking or camping or even in a cabin in the middle of the woods, fine, but more than that, nope.
And read your second sentence again – strict routine. Traveling is not sticking to her strict routine. So she probably should not be traveling alone.
Going non contact for an extended period of time, or going overseas where she doesn’t have access to the help she may require is idiotic, and if she doesn’t want to realise that, then you should leave before you have to deal with the consequences of her actions.
Correct me if I'm wrong but isn't touching your private areas without your consent a form of sexual assault?
Anyway you are being manipulated by your wife and her new toy. That is abuse.
Well message away, just don't hold out much hope of success
It sounds like you're doing a lot for her and your siblings, and that's commendable. But, dang, if she used to beat you and now she's hiding money from you, that's not cool. It's totally understandable that you're feeling some hate towards her right now.
But, hey, it's also understandable that she's been through some stuff and that might be affecting her behavior. That doesn't mean it's okay for her to treat you like that, though. It's tough to figure out what to do in situations like this, but maybe you could try talking to her about how you're feeling and see if you can work things out. Or maybe you could try talking to a therapist or a trusted friend or family member to get some perspective.
>I literally had to pester my high school best friend into being friends.
That sounds very immature, and that's not going to cut it as adults.
>Yet, I can’t easily and readily fix who I am as a person.
You need therapy
I would not be happy. Maybe not even be married after that. She’s got no boundaries.
On the one hand, her replying to you sarcastically when you told her you had a shit day is pretty compassionless.
On the other hand, she handled your mental breakdown while curled on the floor in the fetal position surprisingly well.
I think she cares about you but you gotta understand a lot of girls can barely handle their own emotions, let alone the mental breakdowns of their man. If you're having a really rough time share that with your homies. That's what nights out with the boys are for
Well, can he make a fool out of himself? Does he take himself and life too seriously?
You don’t look for competence among friends, and being a decent person is just a minimum. What you want is someone who is entertaining and can make you laugh. Maybe his colleagues just things he’s plain boring.
I don’t know. It’s difficult to assess without ever have met him. Regardless, it’s good that he have gotten friends through you. Maybe arrange a joined party for your friends and his colleagues. Let them know your bf can let loose a little?
Slip out the back Jack. Make a new plan Stan. No need to be coy Roy, just get yourself free. Hop on the bus Gus. You don’t need to discuss much. Just drop off the key, Lee. And get yourself free.
I don't think you know what the word means.
You’re not married. Whatever cards you opened in your name, you’re responsible for…it’s pretty simple.
18 years..
I'll make it short: I had (and have) sympathy until that part. I literally don't care about someone being traumatized by something they intentionally escalated, especially when part of that trauma is allegedly thinking he mightve actually gone through with it. Alcohol isn't a defense for anything. Don't write a check with your mouth that your ass can't cash.
Hopefully that helps!