You have a lot going on here. There’s a saying, you eat a whale one bite at a time, if that makes sense. So let’s organize here.
The age difference only matters as much as you personally let it affect you. So don’t worry about it.
Are you up to being a stepdad here? Will you be allowed to be an equal parent if you answer yes?
Do you let your family influence your decisions, or do you challenge them? It’s okay for family to disagree with what you do, it’s not okay to not accept the decisions you make.
If those things aren’t an issue for you personally(it’s okay and fine if they are), then there shouldn’t be an issue if you want to proceed here.
Just say “Don't worry about it. I was just shocked because I liked you but its clear we're not on the same page. I think its best if we just let bygones be bygones and just remain friendly. Its not you, its me.”
Clearly, we aren't going to agree. I would think that someone who was clearly taken advantage of by a predator would deserve support from their supposed life partner.
I'm not attacking your religion at all – just commenting that if you can't stick to your moral codes, it seems silly to be preaching to others.
Thanks for the advice I'll try it out
You have a lot going on here. There’s a saying, you eat a whale one bite at a time, if that makes sense. So let’s organize here.
The age difference only matters as much as you personally let it affect you. So don’t worry about it.
Are you up to being a stepdad here? Will you be allowed to be an equal parent if you answer yes?
Do you let your family influence your decisions, or do you challenge them? It’s okay for family to disagree with what you do, it’s not okay to not accept the decisions you make.
If those things aren’t an issue for you personally(it’s okay and fine if they are), then there shouldn’t be an issue if you want to proceed here.
They’re not sharing information with anyone, they’re very much in their own bubble
/r/justnomil will probably be a bigger help than we can
Just say “Don't worry about it. I was just shocked because I liked you but its clear we're not on the same page. I think its best if we just let bygones be bygones and just remain friendly. Its not you, its me.”
Clearly, we aren't going to agree. I would think that someone who was clearly taken advantage of by a predator would deserve support from their supposed life partner.
I'm not attacking your religion at all – just commenting that if you can't stick to your moral codes, it seems silly to be preaching to others.
Yes, you need to respect her decision