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Oh yeah, if you tell him how you feel it will make thinfs awkward… , because they are fine now?
Do talk with him. If you are together you can expect to receive attention from your partner, more attention then thry give their “friends”. Do not let this get any worse.
Many people when they find another person attractive, will ask them on dates TO get to know them. So that part of it makes sense. Him asking after your bf to confirm you’re not interested in anything romantic is a bit odd, but maybe he just wanted confirmation before he let go of his hopes. And sure you can see about being friends. But if he tries to ask you out again, or gets weird about your bf, then probably best to keep things strictly professional.
It seems like she gave you a really lengthy well thought out answer and your response was “hahahah, puppy eyes, boobs”.
Are you surrreee it’s only FWB and wasn’t encroaching on something more?
That’s why I’m here lol
What to you is a compliment to him (that you want him all the time ) has to him become something of a burden of expectation . Try starting right from scratch again like you were first dating and rediscover what was so good without any pressure on one another . There sounds a lot of good here that would be a shame to lose .
Family usually comes first for lots of people. They simply had other traditions and plans in place that you were unaware of when you invited them. You could plan to celebrate with them surrounding the holiday. It doesn't have to be the day of to make is special.
Dude you got molested by an older woman i am so sorry that you aren't being supported by people who should have your back. This was a horrifying read and if you have an adult that can validate you like a counselor please go to them. Sexual assault is not okay. Hope you're safe from that pedophile and I hope you know that anyone treating it like it's your fault needs to be distanced from you bc this is NOT OKAY.
Nope, I’d be gone. Disgusting behavior and you have every right to end this relationship right there. You are not coming off overly insecure – I guess he manipulated you into thinking you’re just jealous and insecure. Been there, done that.
To say that it is inappropriate to have male friends over without her boyfriend there to supervise is the stretch. They obviously need to work on their boundaries, but she isn't chattel
Seems like you just go through this subreddit telling people to breakup and pretending that you know the situation better than they do but okay.
As I said, she got transferred to the new team with the unreasonable manager. She didn't go looking for high stress.
It also seems like you don't understand that some people come from generational poverty and take on “high-stress” lifestyles to, I don't know, fund their parents retirement and break the cycle? I didn't add this to the post because it is not relevant to the advice I'm looking for. But since assumptions make an ass out of you and me, I've added the context.
I am looking for advice on coping mechanisms and strategies, not whatever garbage you are putting here.
Sorry you married such a selfish cunt. Don't think for one second YOUR daughter isn't well aware of this. So gross.
For fucks sake, leave her and fuck her friends.
Srsly dude get some self respect and leave
Talk to someone immediately. A teacher, school counselor, the authorities, a trusted family member and keep yourself safe. People are saying your mom has a thing for creeps. . . .more than likely she has some unresolved trauma she is repeating. But she is either unwilling or unable to keep you safe. Don't worry about her anger unless her anger could lead to physical harm for you. If she is physically abusive, report that too. Continue to keep your door locked and stay away from the house as much as possible until you can get out of there.
This is very clearly a cycle of abuse probably started from her mom’s parent situation.
Are you part of a church? Do you trust your youth leader?
Church will protect the creeper.
But…why would you have a conversation or talk with a flirt, they keep coming on to each other and flirting…we're in a serious relationship…or at least that's what I thought.
Spoken like a genuine moron with a massive chip on their shoulder.
People specialize in different things and definitely don't need to justify their career choices or study areas of interest to idiotic cunts like you.
Nope that's not the norm, that's just an awful human. But unless he's told that his behaviour is what is getting him no follow up dates, he'll keep doing it
They can do whatever they want. It's a bit different if your ex treated you badly but if it was 2 years ago and you're over her then you're in the wrong. You dont get to control what they do.
i dont know why its always discussed after marriage and kids.
so they are financial stable? How cruel can someone be?
you not compatible anymore. leave her
There are two different things going on here —
First: issues in your relationship with Bob. You feel invisible and unsatisfied.
Second: the spark with Jim.
The aligned timing of these two problems is making it seem like the solution to first issue might be indulging the second.
Here’s the thing: both these problems are temporary.
The lack of spark with Bob might seem like huge and fundamental, but the truth is that all long-term relationships cycle through periods of varying passion and intensity. It takes continual effort from both parties to maintain excitement. You need to talk to him, tell him that you want more sex and attention and romance, work on investing that into the relationship yourself by creating adventures and fun and sexiness, and you might be surprised by how much fire you can reignite.
Meanwhile, those new-romance fireworks with Jim? They never last. Eventually, those sparks either stabilize into the steady, warm fire that keeps a long love going (like what you have with Bob), or they burn out completely. Initial chemistry doesn’t always (or even usually) mean you’ll have actual compatibility.
You won’t improve your relationship with Bob if you cheat — you will continue to feel invisible and unsatisfied, and your emotional connection to him will worsen, because you’re investing energy and effort outside the relationship instead of in healing those problems. You could in fact destroy your relationship with Bob entirely — even if he stays with you after he finds out, how would he ever trust you again?
In essence, it’s like you’re living in a house that’s great, but a little too cold for you. You could try to fix it up, tinker with the heating system, improve the insulation, install a fireplace, but instead you’re standing there with a can of gasoline and a lit match, contemplating burning it down to feel the heat.
i mainly just feel guilty because I put him through the turmoil of a breakup just to come back and realize nothing changed. I’m not sure how to express it to him
She most assuredly Should leave your controlling ass
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” but I'm afraid to let him go and never find someone I like so much again”
WUT?
he sounds like an uncaring child. You are 24. Stop wasting your time with this abuser and leave him.
He calls you those “pet names” bc he knows they knock your self-confidence down.
My ex-BIL used to do that to my sister. It eventually escalated to physical abuse.
LEAVE HIM!
Call the waste management place on the bill and ask them about their charges. (Look their number up if you don't trust the one on the invoice.) If you can't easily speak with them, it's 'kick rocks' time.
He is if he knows it's important to his partner and caring at all in any way. He shouldn't have to pay half but the conclusion he came to and gaslightinf her into thinking it was a compromise when what he really said is “bottom line idc if it's important, I DONT care so I'll simply show up but you have to do all the effort” …..if he's willing to be married he's gotta be willing to collaborate more than that. And he should be concerned abt what makes his partner happy. As she should but it sounds she's fine with other stipulations he had so she's already bent for him.
Also her family is irrelevant in this convo but they're assholes.
I appreciate you. Thank you
My 8 year old knows to flush the toilet after she uses it, regardless of the situation. You're dating someone with less maturity than a second grader. I'd move on.
Fixed it thanks.
It’s not unfair you work more hours, more hours = more money. He might understand that if he didn’t have such a privilege life. Don’t let him belittle how very hot you work to get paid what you earn. If he wants more money he need to work more
I completely agree that dads must be present and part of their child’s life including financially. You have my complete support in that.
Definitely not enough to make a move. And remember, you gotta take a look at your priorities. If you love the work you're doing and the people you work with, it might not be worth the risk. Because those things could likely be lost.
Maybe you’re right, i know it’s okay for her to go out drinking, she goes drinking all the time without me and i’m totally fine with it. I just didn’t like that she didn’t give me a heads up because it’s just so out of character, since we got into an argument i am just worried about how she’s handling the whole situation.
find some other place (established with an office address) that offers survival courses, and suggest your wife first try it closer to home over a weekend. If she really likes the experience, then she can look into something a bit more adventurous, but going to Bulgaria for an entire week with a fellow on Instagram who may not be who he says he is??? That's so dodgy, I would be concerned for her safety.
He's being totally ridiculous. Gaining weight when pregnant is totally and completely normal. Sure, there are some women who gain less or even those who don't gain enough and worry themselves and their doctors trying to hit goals, but by and large most women are going to gain some amount of weight when pregnant. Women also lose weight less quickly than men when working out due to hormones/how fat is distributed on our bodies, etc…
He needs a wakeup call, and possibly remedial health education.
Agreed, this is setting your kid and future self up For failure. You have options. Don't do this to yourself. He's an alcoholic who's got 15 years on you. Get out of there.
Are you sure you aren't dating Leo?
Be prepared for her to try and flip the blame on you for reading her diary,
I think that's what I'm most afraid of. However, it has to be done. I have to do it in person, I cannot have a conversation like that in texts. That's not who I am.
Thanks for the advice.
If it's his disability that's the primary disappointment, then you can only get better at hiding it, but not at accepting it.
If it's his lethargy towards overcoming his obstacles, then tell him so. You will find out whether you 2 are compatible or not.
If it's because it breaks your image deep down of a manly man, then leave.
If you think it's a mix of these, it's not.
I cry super easily. Like, at the drop of a hat. There is nothing that I can do to control it.
I say “when I am feeling frustrated or vulnerable my body makes tears. A lot do people’s bodies have a different reaction – sweat, getting red. My body makes tears. Hand me a tissue.”
I’ve done this at work, school.
If crying for you is “stop everything and comfort me now” that might be manipulative. If it’s a physical reaction you can’t control, you need to get your BF to understand it’s just outward evidence of a feeling. You wish you didn’t have to have your feelings running down your face, but here we are.
So you are into Wicca aren't you?
thanks. i have one. i also know that i am responsible for my own triggers but you have to understand it is a fresh and ongoing situation that i am in the process of getting out of. this does not excuse my behavior and i know that but i am also allowed to have triggers and be hurt when someone i trust is not conscious of them. of course it does not make it ok or kind, i never tried to imply that. i guess i have a lot more to work on than i thought.
No.
She's an abuser. This is awful. I would take that journal and take it to the police and let them go through it with a fine tooth comb. I would get my money back, cut my losses, and walk off into the sunset.
Can you trust her with your credit cards again? Can you trust what she says to your face? Will stop complaining about your problems in fear that you'll be seen as a “whiny bitch”?
I bet everything you've read and found out will corrode your brain and make you miserable. When she betrays you again, you wouldn't even be able to say you're surprised.
Are you happy being with someone you didn't even know? Did she ever make an effort to fix everything she had done? Pay you back? Give back items she stole? Fix your car? No? Then I think that shows you just how remorseful she is.
You made a choice, not on houses, but on the future of the relationship, it’s not like I’m telling you to choose, you already chose a life where that woman is an accessory, now it’s her turn to decide whether being that person will align with her hopes and dreams for the future, so yeah, no one is at fault here but I would just end it at this point, it’s not a relationship it’s a convenience
Hi. Thank you for your response. Umm, kissing is a far fetched idea. I'd really like it if we at least held hands occasionally. Or if he had hugged me when he saw me. I appreciate the fact that he is a gentleman and he is not as physical as all the men I've dated in the past. But, I just feel a little awkward and that makes me question, is he attracted enough to me? I hope I do make sense?
So your “mistake” was…getting sick and not wanting to be abandoned?
Girl, WTF. This shithead has done a number in you.
End it. It’s not going to get better.
But why are you calling him at work to ask for money to pay bills? Keep that at home.
Hm, I feel like if the gender were reversed, answer would be easier, would it not be?
You should ask him to specify his engagement in those actions, because from this it seems more like sexual assault than anything else.
Is your wife able/willing to pick up a part-time gig instead of you working two jobs?
I had pretty bad PPD/PPA after the birth of my daughter. Meds didn’t help, therapy (at the time) made me angry, and I resented her father for being able to get out of the house to work/see his friends when I was constantly cooped up with our baby. Around the 10 month mark I put my foot down and told my ex that I would be going back to work part-time, and honestly that was what made all the difference. I had kinda lost my sense of self—being mommy felt like all I was allowed to be, and it made me just this empty, anxious, shell of the person I was.
Frequent breaks. That’s what I learned. Between work, finding a sitter (even if it was just for 2-3 hrs once a month) so I could spend time with friends without having baby in tow, and picking up a hobby that was one night a week guaranteed off mommy-duty saved me.
I dont know if your wife is in a similar situation, but maybe she just needs to have time for herself, by herself.
Another married couple decides to sleep with other people and it ends up with someone getting hurt. shocker.
if we do try but i don't like it? Is he just gonna break up with me and stay with her or is he gonna stay with me and break up with her?
What did he say when you asked him these questions?
I did go to therapy a lot as long as our budget allow it. Learned a lot there. I learned it could be Asperger's nearly one year ago, so it wasn't always an excuse. After learning, pieces put on the place and she became more overwhelmed. I know you got triggered but I don't mean logical in that way. Before doing most things on myself or about home expenses, I open up an argument “We might need this because of this” and I expect to hear her opinion. If she rejects, I tell my reasons to why I believe this is necessary. She says OK but later opens up about her problems with the decision. After the deed is done. I used to don't have a clue why she won't argue in the conversation. Now I know she can't handle arguments, says yes to me to shut me up. I didn't know it that way and learned along the way.
Dude…no offense but you did this to yourself by your own admission. If you don’t have feelings for a girl, don’t start inviting her around to hang out with your friends then get pissed when she becomes close to your friends. And she was hanging out with them “behind your back”. They WANTED to hang with her and you have no ownership over her or them. They now have their own separate relationships. You should have been straight forward with her from the start and not strung her along.
I don’t want her to hurt herself
So you'd rather she hurt you?
She is not your responsibility
Leave this abusive relationship OP
Everything that would make my image the worst in front of her
She really isn't good at all. This is not her finest moment. She destroyed OP's relationship with his BF. That's kinda evil. And, she resents the best friend for her pushing herself on him? WTH. She was on the beach with OP. Then, she left OP to have those 15 secs of bump. Then she came back immediately to OP. It IS eeewy.
Wtf did I just read? She cheats. You take her back on the condition she cuts contact with the affair partner. While you two are having a heart to heart, the question of her sexuality comes up so you propose the idea of her allowed to have sexual relations with other women or a threesome with your permission and participation?
You love her and you can't forgive her? But don't punish yourself more than you need to? Learn from it. Grow from it?
If this is your idea of resolving betrayal and believing you're in control…. Boy…. You're in for some more hurt brought on by this immature perspective and resolution.
Even if this story were true and not someone bored with a little too much time on their hands. You're making this awfully easy for her. There wasn't much time to process the hurt and start to heal. Just skipped over those parts and straight back into courting and seducing.
Definitely not going to be any problems in the future….
And this Amanda situation of her having photos of your wife. They had consentual sex. If Amanda was showing/telling your mutual friends about it, doesn't seem like you'd have any legal recourse.
This whole story makes it seem like you want to be believe that you're the one in charge when you've lost control. If Amanda disrespected your marriage and fucked your wife with her actively participating in it. And documenting all of that. I highly doubt you threats mean anything to her. She wasn't scared to flirt and fuck your wife. Why would she care about how you feel now?
I think you are deluding yourself into believing you're okay. You're ready to move on. You're the one in power and control.
All of this screams low self esteem with the inability to be honest with themselves.
This stuck out to me too. It’s a really bizarre response to the question why did you send that.
Both sides of this situation feel squicky. Idk where to go with any of it.