That’s the thing. Up until now we’ve always been open with these things. But this was different, and she has understandable reasons, but it shouldn’t be different or need excuses. Is my security not worth making sacrifices?
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The only advice is to get over it. You knew about this and still decided to date him. I don't see why anyone has to apologize to you about 2 consenting adults attempting to hook up, unless it's for doing it in front of you.
I am sure you have been over to r/deadbedroom and read about similar situations. The thing that strikes me about your situation is that your wife no longer cares about what you want. She sees it as she has what she wants and you are an inconvenience for even asking for some intimacy. You are no longer a team.
I think you have to decide if you want to continue to live! like this and accept your relationship as it is now (you can't force her to change and she has told/shown you her stance on it). Leaving is hot but for me it would be the only option here other than therapy. If she doesn't agree to therapy then you need to accept it as it is or leave.
In my opinion thats how every break up (or at least most) should end. Whats the point of staying friends? Pretend you don't care about her while you watch her go out and be with another man? Does nothing be bring mental strain to your existence
It's also been over a year now.
That’s the thing. Up until now we’ve always been open with these things. But this was different, and she has understandable reasons, but it shouldn’t be different or need excuses. Is my security not worth making sacrifices?
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The only advice is to get over it. You knew about this and still decided to date him. I don't see why anyone has to apologize to you about 2 consenting adults attempting to hook up, unless it's for doing it in front of you.
I am sure you have been over to r/deadbedroom and read about similar situations. The thing that strikes me about your situation is that your wife no longer cares about what you want. She sees it as she has what she wants and you are an inconvenience for even asking for some intimacy. You are no longer a team.
I think you have to decide if you want to continue to live! like this and accept your relationship as it is now (you can't force her to change and she has told/shown you her stance on it). Leaving is hot but for me it would be the only option here other than therapy. If she doesn't agree to therapy then you need to accept it as it is or leave.
In my opinion thats how every break up (or at least most) should end. Whats the point of staying friends? Pretend you don't care about her while you watch her go out and be with another man? Does nothing be bring mental strain to your existence
Go as a guest, have an amazing time, then back burner your friend.