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Date: November 9, 2022
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Half a year seems pretty unreasonable
This sounds just like my ex. We talked yesterday and he is back to “normal” . He felt extremely regretful and said he was going to seek therapy and try to reconcile with me while he gets help. I’m not sure if I want to be with him because he made me feel unsafe but he said he would wait for me. I feel incredibly lost in this situation. He only ever acts this way when things trigger him but that does not excuse anything. He is a complete different person when that happens.
He cried to me today saying he doesn’t want to be this way and wants to change. He said the fact that I blocked him everywhere broke him because I was gone like I never existed. It’s very hot to not see through the abuse but I’m trying to see him more compassionately.
I would love to discuss on how to share this with my ex in a way that will not come across harshly.
Families from both sides of a relationship are a recipe for frustration. Over the years I've learned to just plan for everyone's bad habits. I've got family that doesn't plan, I've got family that makes last-minute invitations and I've got some family that cares a LOT about Christmas and some that doesn't at all.
Family that doesn't plan: I invite them to things Family with last minute plans: I plan to be invited and buy gifts, because every year we have last minute plans with hem Family that cares: do my best to reciprocate Family that doesn't care: due to the people that DO care, I still send them a small gift, so that both sides are happy
All this to say, I've found a way to navigate through the craziness that is holidays with the family and you will too. I don't know how long you've been together, but over time you guys will figure out how to handle everything.
And as you found out, we often learn about everyone's eccentricities (to put it politely) the very hot way. And I'm sorry for that, as you said, probably best to plan a dinner like that a week before, or a week after, so it's one less thing to worry about during how hectic the holidays get.
In short: roll with the punches.
Are there other ways that he treats his time as more important than yours? That he treats his convenience as more important than basic consideration towards you? That he prioritizes himself above you? That he buys his laziness with your labor?
Think about it long and very hot.
Now imagine how that treatment expands and grows as you act more like a family unit. Imagine pets and kids with that behavior.
Your time always treated as disposable while his is precious. Your efforts the default scenario, unappreciated and unseen while his deserve celebration.
You’re a wonderful child. Your Mom is lucky to have you.
When we started dating she always was complaining about her ex texting her and insisting in going back together. I only tell her to change her number so he would stop.
You’re right. Now that I think about it our relationship was broken from the beginning. I didn’t have any feelings for my ex (the one she was jealous about) but it’s obvious that she was in love with her ex all the time.
The way people treat animals says a LOT about who they are… don’t ignore your gut here!
We didn’t have much of an idea of what the appointment early this year was about. I wanted him to come but he wouldn’t.
I just find it really odd that if this was the kind of guy that would take advantage of a drunk girl in that way, then why has she maintained a close friendship with him and went to the party with him?
Because your attitude and experiences, and those of your wife, can't speak for the entirety of humanity and how they act or respond to things? If this girl was abused growing up, saying “no” may be very difficult for her, and it would also make her more prone for predators to take advantage of her.
I would. What if they set him up with someone else?
Going out to 2am on a regular bases when you are married would be a red flag to me. Assuming you are living on a normal 9-5 basis.
Absolutely true, going to be sitting down with her to see what's up and set some boundaries. If she can't meet me in the middle then I'll cut her off. Thank you for your insight and perspective, gives me some things to consider for sure.
Forgiveness is a step towards rebuilding trust.
You can explain to her it won't be easy, and you can't guarentee you will be able to. If she's willing to do her best for the relationship; you can choose to try and do the same.
But be realistic with that and give yourself a fair timeframe. Perhaps take a short break so you can think. If she's really willing to work on that; she'll give you that space.
That said, trust won't come back for everyone. Even if you want to forgive someone, doesn't mean you can truly do so from the bottom of your heart. That however, is an answer you have to find on your own
>ny advice on how I can become accepting of their relationship?
You can't. You're not comfortable with this, and she doesn't respect your feelings. Move on.