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How is it relevant to them?
The woman is in a relationship with his best friend and has been in a relationship with his best friend and roommate despite having had sex with OP during that time.
It’s difficult to imagine a better barometer for the likelihood of recurrence. If OP has a threesome with them again, it’s cheating.
Then it’s relevant.
It’s entirely up to OP to decide what he shares, and he should feel no pressure to do so either way.
I really hate to say it, but if this were a woman in the same situation, people would be saying, “it’s not his right to no ?♀️” and they would be correct.
Thank you for the validation. My mom says the same thing about chronic neglect being a form of abuse. Now that I’m out of the situation, I can completely see it now. All ties have been cut and we’ve officially started no contact 🙂
i know you’ve already gotten some feedback, so instead i’m just going to tell you that the path you’re trying to take to rectify what happened is so mature and well done. the edits to clarify your post really put into perspective your point, & that you were trying to get help, not sympathy. i think speaking with a therapist is a wonderful idea. keep in mind, personality disorders or mood disorders can present later in life, & alcohol does strongly affect these things. i’m keeping my thoughts with you, & hoping you get some answers & understanding. ?
It certainly can never, ever be like It was, and your current situation is a great example. He is asking you to trust him, and you won't. Someday the situation will be reversed and you will need him to trust you, and he knows he can't.
With the traveling example, it's not to do with convenience I just didn't want us to book train tickets for the trains to not go ahead due to strikes which are happening most weeks now so I suggested an alternative
In the examples of her saying what she wishes would happen, she tends to start a conversation with “why cant … happen or why can't they do … etc” and I'll just answer the question pretty much. I'll say why it doesn't happen. I tend to agree with what she wants but I just point out reasons they don't happen. It's not about proving her wrong it's more about explaining things to her.
There are other topics but off the top of my head I am struggling to think of specific examples.
He is a child spending time with his parents? ?♀️ He still has other family.
Of course, he should have friends. I don't think he needed to do go out weekly when his wife was lonely and wanted to spend time with him. That will cause her to resent him. The damage is probably already done, hence her going out now.
There's nothing insulting to what he asked. It's a simple yes I cheated or not I never cheated and the test must be wrong. Your reluctance to answer is enough to tell us that you did in fact not come clean with your husband.
Brother, you said yourself she’s been “going through a rough patch at work” and thought that surprising her by going behind her back to contact her manager to get her out for a day was a good idea? I mean the whole snacks and spa thing was thoughtful and kind, but you don’t get to be shitty with her and blow up at her when she doesn’t react the way you expected or wanted. The moment she started crying you should have stopped and asked her what SHE WANTED to do. You put her in an uncomfortable situation by contacting her manager and arranging the surprise which means she could either 1) go back to work and have to awkwardly explain to her manager that she did not want or approve of your surprise or 2) try to make the best of it despite you having 0 concept of why she may be upset with you or why it may have been a bad idea and thus not being able to empathize with her and probably not able to actually comfort or support her. You could have offered to go take her home. You knew “continuing the surprise was not beneficial” when you ‘read the mood’ but yet you did not offer to actually discontinue the activities you set up. It just showed that you care more about getting validation for being thoughtful when in reality you were neither thoughtful nor considerate of her desires and feelings when it didn’t go your way. Apologize to her for bungling this so badly, completely missing the mark, and potentially negatively impacting her work/career(!) and let go of whatever hurt feelings you have that it wasn’t as ideal as you pictured because truly you overlooked very crucial details planning this.
It's never easy when one person feels like they're being heard and the other doesn't. And it sounds like you've been putting in the work to make sure your boundaries are respected, but she's not meeting you halfway there.
But here's the thing, just because she's blocked you and taken back the key, doesn't mean it's over. It's possible she needs some space to process what's going on, and maybe she'll reach out in the future. But you can't just sit around waiting for her. You gotta start thinking about what you want and what's best for you.
In my opinion, it sounds like you've been trying to make things work for a while, but the communication and boundary issues haven't been resolved. And honestly, those are pretty crucial things for any relationship. So if you're asking me if it's worth trying to salvage, it's hard to say without more information. But it's important to remember that you can't control what she does, but you can control how you respond to it. And you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel heard and respected.
At the end of the day, it's up to you to decide if the effort is worth it, but if it were me, I'd probably move on and focus on finding someone who respects my boundaries and communicates effectively.
Works in an office 8:30-4:30 No health issues He never says he is tired but when we watch a movie he always falls asleep lately. Works one job. He is far from overweight This is the first time he has gone MIA on a date night… I still haven’t heard from him
Yes, that's why I put triggered in my comment, I'm not here to downplay her trauma. I was emphasizing that aspect of it. I hate that she's been through that. It sucks, I know, and I hate everything about it. I'm here to give the guy my comment. Ok?
You’re in the wrong for reacting the way you did. You pulled the “nice guy” shit and now you’re reaping the consequences. Does she suck for using you as an emotional crutch when things weren’t great for her? Absolutely. Do you suck for trying to essentially buy her love? Yeah. Do you suck for giving her ultimatums about staying friends when everyone who reads your post knows it will just be a repeating sick cycle carousel of this behavior from both of you? Definitely. Man up, cut your losses, learn from this, and move on.
How is it relevant to them?
The woman is in a relationship with his best friend and has been in a relationship with his best friend and roommate despite having had sex with OP during that time.
It’s difficult to imagine a better barometer for the likelihood of recurrence. If OP has a threesome with them again, it’s cheating.
Then it’s relevant.
It’s entirely up to OP to decide what he shares, and he should feel no pressure to do so either way.
I really hate to say it, but if this were a woman in the same situation, people would be saying, “it’s not his right to no ?♀️” and they would be correct.
Ohhh geez. Yeah I'd also not want my kids around that, even if its the dad (maybe esp if it's the dad :/)
Thank you for the validation. My mom says the same thing about chronic neglect being a form of abuse. Now that I’m out of the situation, I can completely see it now. All ties have been cut and we’ve officially started no contact 🙂
I’m with the friend. Feel sorry for your wife. She probably needs that friend know her life. You sound awful.
Hey honey I know you’re on the phone right not but it’s imperative that I tell you that you’re fat Ana I’m not longer attracted to you.
Good luck to your wife.
Ah good point. If she shares the footage, can viewers of it be counted as witnesses?
She's vindictive, bitter abd resentful. And bat shit crazy by the sounds of it.. nuclear bomb averted sir!
i know you’ve already gotten some feedback, so instead i’m just going to tell you that the path you’re trying to take to rectify what happened is so mature and well done. the edits to clarify your post really put into perspective your point, & that you were trying to get help, not sympathy. i think speaking with a therapist is a wonderful idea. keep in mind, personality disorders or mood disorders can present later in life, & alcohol does strongly affect these things. i’m keeping my thoughts with you, & hoping you get some answers & understanding. ?
It certainly can never, ever be like It was, and your current situation is a great example. He is asking you to trust him, and you won't. Someday the situation will be reversed and you will need him to trust you, and he knows he can't.
Overthinking things like a pro. Projecting your insecurities onto your boyfriend.
Truth sets you free. You don’t need to shout it from the rooftops but do not lie or sugarcoat it. It’d be better for everyone if they knew he hit you.
With the traveling example, it's not to do with convenience I just didn't want us to book train tickets for the trains to not go ahead due to strikes which are happening most weeks now so I suggested an alternative
In the examples of her saying what she wishes would happen, she tends to start a conversation with “why cant … happen or why can't they do … etc” and I'll just answer the question pretty much. I'll say why it doesn't happen. I tend to agree with what she wants but I just point out reasons they don't happen. It's not about proving her wrong it's more about explaining things to her.
There are other topics but off the top of my head I am struggling to think of specific examples.
Thank you for mentioning neurodiversity. This was screaming at me in the comments.
He is a child spending time with his parents? ?♀️ He still has other family.
Of course, he should have friends. I don't think he needed to do go out weekly when his wife was lonely and wanted to spend time with him. That will cause her to resent him. The damage is probably already done, hence her going out now.
There's nothing insulting to what he asked. It's a simple yes I cheated or not I never cheated and the test must be wrong. Your reluctance to answer is enough to tell us that you did in fact not come clean with your husband.
Brother, you said yourself she’s been “going through a rough patch at work” and thought that surprising her by going behind her back to contact her manager to get her out for a day was a good idea? I mean the whole snacks and spa thing was thoughtful and kind, but you don’t get to be shitty with her and blow up at her when she doesn’t react the way you expected or wanted. The moment she started crying you should have stopped and asked her what SHE WANTED to do. You put her in an uncomfortable situation by contacting her manager and arranging the surprise which means she could either 1) go back to work and have to awkwardly explain to her manager that she did not want or approve of your surprise or 2) try to make the best of it despite you having 0 concept of why she may be upset with you or why it may have been a bad idea and thus not being able to empathize with her and probably not able to actually comfort or support her. You could have offered to go take her home. You knew “continuing the surprise was not beneficial” when you ‘read the mood’ but yet you did not offer to actually discontinue the activities you set up. It just showed that you care more about getting validation for being thoughtful when in reality you were neither thoughtful nor considerate of her desires and feelings when it didn’t go your way. Apologize to her for bungling this so badly, completely missing the mark, and potentially negatively impacting her work/career(!) and let go of whatever hurt feelings you have that it wasn’t as ideal as you pictured because truly you overlooked very crucial details planning this.
It's never easy when one person feels like they're being heard and the other doesn't. And it sounds like you've been putting in the work to make sure your boundaries are respected, but she's not meeting you halfway there.
But here's the thing, just because she's blocked you and taken back the key, doesn't mean it's over. It's possible she needs some space to process what's going on, and maybe she'll reach out in the future. But you can't just sit around waiting for her. You gotta start thinking about what you want and what's best for you.
In my opinion, it sounds like you've been trying to make things work for a while, but the communication and boundary issues haven't been resolved. And honestly, those are pretty crucial things for any relationship. So if you're asking me if it's worth trying to salvage, it's hard to say without more information. But it's important to remember that you can't control what she does, but you can control how you respond to it. And you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel heard and respected.
At the end of the day, it's up to you to decide if the effort is worth it, but if it were me, I'd probably move on and focus on finding someone who respects my boundaries and communicates effectively.
Works in an office 8:30-4:30 No health issues He never says he is tired but when we watch a movie he always falls asleep lately. Works one job. He is far from overweight This is the first time he has gone MIA on a date night… I still haven’t heard from him
You’re spewing bullshit. ???
Totally agree.
Yes, that's why I put triggered in my comment, I'm not here to downplay her trauma. I was emphasizing that aspect of it. I hate that she's been through that. It sucks, I know, and I hate everything about it. I'm here to give the guy my comment. Ok?
He's gonna break your heart.
You're right. He's gross.
Find a safe way to cut him out.
Only date guys your age for a while.
Better advice is just don't date at all for a while but, see above if that's not an option.
Why do you keep making excuses to contact her when she doesn’t want you to?
You’re in the wrong for reacting the way you did. You pulled the “nice guy” shit and now you’re reaping the consequences. Does she suck for using you as an emotional crutch when things weren’t great for her? Absolutely. Do you suck for trying to essentially buy her love? Yeah. Do you suck for giving her ultimatums about staying friends when everyone who reads your post knows it will just be a repeating sick cycle carousel of this behavior from both of you? Definitely. Man up, cut your losses, learn from this, and move on.