TLDR: moved to a new city for a job. she couldn't come right away because she's in grad school. we broke our lease and she moved in with my parents. she's extremely miserable and i feel helpless to make things better and guilty that she's suffering because of me
I think this hits at the crux of the issue I’m having. There is a blurred line somewhere between having that “accountability”, versus having deep seated insecurities. Not really sure where that line is.
Admittedly, I have never had a long term relationship and don’t really know what it looks like to be in one from the inside.
I have blocked my ex on everything three months back itself. I don't know her best friend, haven't even met him. I don't follow him on any social and he called me randomly on my phone.
If she was a decent partner she would be happy that you have found a balance that works for you. Frankly her remarks sound a bit… jealous.
Don't compromise your wellbeing for her “goals”.
You're literally her backup plan.
TLDR: moved to a new city for a job. she couldn't come right away because she's in grad school. we broke our lease and she moved in with my parents. she's extremely miserable and i feel helpless to make things better and guilty that she's suffering because of me
I think this hits at the crux of the issue I’m having. There is a blurred line somewhere between having that “accountability”, versus having deep seated insecurities. Not really sure where that line is.
Admittedly, I have never had a long term relationship and don’t really know what it looks like to be in one from the inside.
I have blocked my ex on everything three months back itself. I don't know her best friend, haven't even met him. I don't follow him on any social and he called me randomly on my phone.