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Saraa-hills Public Chat Channel
Date: November 20, 2022
AmateurPub
AmateurPub
Saraa-hills Public Chat Channel
None of these women are romantically interested in each other. Stop sexualizing them
I like pork butt though ?
By chance did your husband grow up in Alabama? If so I can understand where he's coming from, otherwise he's being pretty ridiculous
Talk to him one more time (call is preferred) but this time with a twist, here are the key phrases:
“I love you dearly” etc “but…”
-“Having a super communicative partner that I interact with often is very important to me and lately I have not feeling that spark due to the absence of that”
-“I completely understand your situation, if I don't you need to be more open with me so I do. Because I need you to understand my point too. This is why we need to talk more.”
-“I can't keep doing this once a week deal anymore…”
Should be the bridge to a healthy communication where you're both being heard and you get your point clear. If nothing still changes, you might have to abandon ship.
I used to have this problem and my therapist suggested the following….
Sit down together and mutually come up with a list of all the household chores. Then, take turns/go back and forth, and choose which chores each of you would like to do. After, create two separate lists: one list with the chores he chose and one list with the chores you chose. Finally, determine how often those chores need to be done.
My husband and I did this in September (when the school year started/I’m a teacher) and it’s been a complete game changer. I walk the dog before and after work. He walks the dog in the afternoon and at night. I do laundry once a week. He does dishes everyday. I make coffee every morning. He buys groceries when needed. I do deep cleaning. He’s in charge of trash. It’s great because we decided who got which chore together, instead of me “assigning” him chores.
Now we don’t even talk about chores, we just do them. One thing that’s important to keep in mind: define the difference between household chores and individual chores. There are certain things (replacing a toilet paper roll, throwing away trash, putting a dish in the sink, feeding the dog) that individuals just need to do on their own.