Try giving him the same energy he is giving you. If he notices you stoped trying to he might do something about it. If he doesn't even realize you stopped trying then it might be time to leave because talking obv didn't work and he doesn't want to change. A lot of military guys I know have been this way. You're low maintenance when they're deployed because you assume they're busy and when you expect more from them when they're home they don't know what to do because you arent the “chill girl” they thought you were. I'm sorry this is happening to you and I hope you find some peace soon
I haven't even read this yet, but of course it's an age gap relationship. He called you a c***. That's not okay, arguably verbal abuse, and given this is public I'm guessing there's been a lot of not okay things in this relationship. My advice is end it (easier said than done I know but reach out to advocates, friends, family, start squirrelling away, do whatever you can because this will not get better).
You’re only getting his side, of course it sounds incredibly unhealthy. She’s never truly apologized for having an affair, meanwhile he’s currently having one, has he truly apologized?
Sorry but i would.. we never have this kind of chances and it is already paid for. His dad car can take weeks tk get fixed and we don't have privacy since i left my mom's place. That was literally a year ago
so why is every guy i've ever been with completely against cheating but only of the opposite sex.
For many men, women aren't seen as “threatening” since they simply are different and can provide you with something they can't (in comparison to another man). Furthermore, there are also some men who sexualise women, and consider two women hot, or who don't think relationships between two women are “the same” as one between a man and a woman.
Lol I wouldn’t do that don’t give your coworker any ammunition to use against either of you. Like other person said HR and just immediately put the conversation to an end. Because to me it’s sounds like he feels he is driving that wedge since you won’t do nothing to put a end to it and I don’t know if that will stop him but protect yourself don’t give him any information that could be used against your or your boyfriend because he does seems the type to because it’s been 5 years and he is still trying to drive that wedge
Try giving him the same energy he is giving you. If he notices you stoped trying to he might do something about it. If he doesn't even realize you stopped trying then it might be time to leave because talking obv didn't work and he doesn't want to change. A lot of military guys I know have been this way. You're low maintenance when they're deployed because you assume they're busy and when you expect more from them when they're home they don't know what to do because you arent the “chill girl” they thought you were. I'm sorry this is happening to you and I hope you find some peace soon
You're allowed to leave.
I'm sure I want to stay, I'm very sure. I love them so much, I'm so sure that I bet my life on it.
To be blunt OP – just run. Almost everything else you should at least consider trying to work things out, but never with abuse.
They're dreams. Subconscious. They don't mean anything. Stop it.
Just wear black and smoke weed. Solved!
Just tell her you don't think of her like that. That you just see her as a friend.
Literally all you can do is make the girl feel bad. Keep it to yourself.
I haven't even read this yet, but of course it's an age gap relationship. He called you a c***. That's not okay, arguably verbal abuse, and given this is public I'm guessing there's been a lot of not okay things in this relationship. My advice is end it (easier said than done I know but reach out to advocates, friends, family, start squirrelling away, do whatever you can because this will not get better).
You’re only getting his side, of course it sounds incredibly unhealthy. She’s never truly apologized for having an affair, meanwhile he’s currently having one, has he truly apologized?
Have you had this conversation with him? You listed all these issues. Discuss them with him.
What does he say?
Sorry but i would.. we never have this kind of chances and it is already paid for. His dad car can take weeks tk get fixed and we don't have privacy since i left my mom's place. That was literally a year ago
so why is every guy i've ever been with completely against cheating but only of the opposite sex.
For many men, women aren't seen as “threatening” since they simply are different and can provide you with something they can't (in comparison to another man). Furthermore, there are also some men who sexualise women, and consider two women hot, or who don't think relationships between two women are “the same” as one between a man and a woman.
I get it, thanks for the advice.
I truly hope so, Peach…and yes we can.
I’m enjoying all the little alterations to your comments
Lol I wouldn’t do that don’t give your coworker any ammunition to use against either of you. Like other person said HR and just immediately put the conversation to an end. Because to me it’s sounds like he feels he is driving that wedge since you won’t do nothing to put a end to it and I don’t know if that will stop him but protect yourself don’t give him any information that could be used against your or your boyfriend because he does seems the type to because it’s been 5 years and he is still trying to drive that wedge
Thank you. I’m currently saving his browser history
Sounds as if he learned something there. Nice.