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How do you know it's not your kid? Do you and your gf not have sex? Is it possible that your parents think it might actually be yours? If she cheated just dump her, unless you're OK with her cheating for the rest of your relationship. After the kid's born, do a paternity test. If it's your kid, you still don't have to be with the mother.
I was wondering the same – where’s the ‘why’? I would have hoped that maybe even back in the college days that mom or dad would’ve asked the girls why they don’t visit when OP is home. Have the parents been letting this go and get worse for 15yrs? Do they know and just not told OP? Does OP know and isn’t saying?
But if the entire story is portrayed correctly I’d say OP is doing the right thing, it’s not on him anymore to fix
Hairdresser here. Happens more than you think: best friend/ parent/ sibling, etc. Pretty gross. Fired with zero second chances. You should know that they know that and did it anyway…….
You say your relationship with C has always been rocky, and is worse lately. Maybe your crush could be an indication of how unfulfilled you're feeling in your current relationship? (People can get crushes sometimes even when their existing relationship is going well tbh – you'll need to reflect on what it might mean for you.) Perhaps you'd still like H if you had met him while you were single, or maybe you're projecting your longing for the relationship you really want to be having onto this potential partner?
It may be wise to not make any sudden decisions about H until you can separate your feelings for him from your feelings about C and your current relationship a little more. Which might mean you need to have an uncomfortable conversation with yourself about what you really want/need in a relationship, and how your current one is or is not fulfilling that, regardless of who else you may or may not be thinking about.
As for C… you can't make him change, make him care, make him work on the relationship if he doesn't want to. You can ask him to work with you on things, you can tell him that you feel hurt when he's so distant, but you have to decide for yourself if you believe things are going in the right direction, and ultimately decide what you can/can't live with.
I don't want to sound condescending, (and yes that means I'm probably doing it anyway sorry) but tbh you're pretty young and a year isn't really that long – barely enough to get through that exciting “honeymoon” period and start really getting to know each other – values, relationship ideals, flaws, and all. Imo there's no rush to take the classic Reddit advice and drop C immediately, but you also should be aware of whether or not you're using faulty logic (sunk cost, “I can fix him”, codependency, etc) to decide to stay.
If you do break up with C, idk but I think it might be healthy to take a bit of a breather before going all in on a new relationship. That's probably not what you want to hear, but it may be useful to take a step back, at least for a bit, so you can understand yourself and what happened a little more without so much pressure, and thus be able to bring your best self when you do get out there again.
Hello, thank you for your input. I would love to go to therapy at some point but unfortunately at the moment, I am unable to go since I attend school and also work full time (so my days are taken pretty much). At home, I’ve tried playing games alone, exercising at the gym, and things like that and I do find happiness in them, but still struggle with this feeling of wondering what life would be like without my bf and how terrible it would be and things like that. I really don’t want to feel the same way I did with my first boyfriend if my current boyfriend were to ever leave. It was very painful and miserable.
For some more info on me, at my parent’s house, I don’t get much privacy or alone time at the house at all. I’ve lived there my whole life and have always struggled with that issue. The house is very small and my parents as well as my sister still live there. My job doesn’t pay well, so I’m unable to support myself at the moment, so I’m going to school for a better job. My bf has offered to let me move in with him, but my parents help with some of my bills and I would hate to put that on my bf and know I’m not financially ready to help him pay rent, etc. So I’m unsure if this possibly could be attributing to the lack of independence I have. Back when I was a teen, both my parents worked so I had time to do hobbies alone and enjoyed my time alone. But around the time I got my first bf, my parents retired from work and I was unable to do hobbies as much as I did before.
Also for some reason, I’m not seeing anyone else’s comments but yours. Unsure what’s going on with the post.
How do you know it's not your kid? Do you and your gf not have sex? Is it possible that your parents think it might actually be yours? If she cheated just dump her, unless you're OK with her cheating for the rest of your relationship. After the kid's born, do a paternity test. If it's your kid, you still don't have to be with the mother.
Sounds like you 2 are quite different in many ways. Not quite ready to get married
He is manipulative.
Could you people stop calling it a pedophile mustache. That's so dumb.
I was wondering the same – where’s the ‘why’? I would have hoped that maybe even back in the college days that mom or dad would’ve asked the girls why they don’t visit when OP is home. Have the parents been letting this go and get worse for 15yrs? Do they know and just not told OP? Does OP know and isn’t saying?
But if the entire story is portrayed correctly I’d say OP is doing the right thing, it’s not on him anymore to fix
“Hey things arent working out, I think we should see other people”
There is nothing called exclusive FWB. You are either dating (exclusively) or just fucking. She did not do anything wrong.
If you do you have to stick with it.
Hairdresser here. Happens more than you think: best friend/ parent/ sibling, etc. Pretty gross. Fired with zero second chances. You should know that they know that and did it anyway…….
You say your relationship with C has always been rocky, and is worse lately. Maybe your crush could be an indication of how unfulfilled you're feeling in your current relationship? (People can get crushes sometimes even when their existing relationship is going well tbh – you'll need to reflect on what it might mean for you.) Perhaps you'd still like H if you had met him while you were single, or maybe you're projecting your longing for the relationship you really want to be having onto this potential partner?
It may be wise to not make any sudden decisions about H until you can separate your feelings for him from your feelings about C and your current relationship a little more. Which might mean you need to have an uncomfortable conversation with yourself about what you really want/need in a relationship, and how your current one is or is not fulfilling that, regardless of who else you may or may not be thinking about.
As for C… you can't make him change, make him care, make him work on the relationship if he doesn't want to. You can ask him to work with you on things, you can tell him that you feel hurt when he's so distant, but you have to decide for yourself if you believe things are going in the right direction, and ultimately decide what you can/can't live with.
I don't want to sound condescending, (and yes that means I'm probably doing it anyway sorry) but tbh you're pretty young and a year isn't really that long – barely enough to get through that exciting “honeymoon” period and start really getting to know each other – values, relationship ideals, flaws, and all. Imo there's no rush to take the classic Reddit advice and drop C immediately, but you also should be aware of whether or not you're using faulty logic (sunk cost, “I can fix him”, codependency, etc) to decide to stay.
If you do break up with C, idk but I think it might be healthy to take a bit of a breather before going all in on a new relationship. That's probably not what you want to hear, but it may be useful to take a step back, at least for a bit, so you can understand yourself and what happened a little more without so much pressure, and thus be able to bring your best self when you do get out there again.
So? Do weddings instantly make you immune to manipulation?
Hello, thank you for your input. I would love to go to therapy at some point but unfortunately at the moment, I am unable to go since I attend school and also work full time (so my days are taken pretty much). At home, I’ve tried playing games alone, exercising at the gym, and things like that and I do find happiness in them, but still struggle with this feeling of wondering what life would be like without my bf and how terrible it would be and things like that. I really don’t want to feel the same way I did with my first boyfriend if my current boyfriend were to ever leave. It was very painful and miserable.
For some more info on me, at my parent’s house, I don’t get much privacy or alone time at the house at all. I’ve lived there my whole life and have always struggled with that issue. The house is very small and my parents as well as my sister still live there. My job doesn’t pay well, so I’m unable to support myself at the moment, so I’m going to school for a better job. My bf has offered to let me move in with him, but my parents help with some of my bills and I would hate to put that on my bf and know I’m not financially ready to help him pay rent, etc. So I’m unsure if this possibly could be attributing to the lack of independence I have. Back when I was a teen, both my parents worked so I had time to do hobbies alone and enjoyed my time alone. But around the time I got my first bf, my parents retired from work and I was unable to do hobbies as much as I did before.
Also for some reason, I’m not seeing anyone else’s comments but yours. Unsure what’s going on with the post.
What good would come of telling him? If he's already controlling, that's bound to make it 10 times worse.
If you were in a couples therapy setting, maybe, but just telling him? How do you see that playing out?