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Date: October 25, 2022
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I'm not sure if this is a form of gaslighting or something.
it is. in order to dodge your fair criticism, he turns it into your problem. he's not a liar, you're just out of your mind.
if it were me, “this isn't working out, i want you to move out by XX date.” if he won't comply, check with your landlord or a property attorney in your area to see what your rights are. worst case scenario, you may have to move. extreme, i know, but from what little you've described, i wouldn't be surprised if he made this very painful for you. i really hope it won't come to that, but if that's what you have to do, it'll be worth it to get away from this dynamic.
31 and getting piss drunk. Christ.
I doubt anyone here knows, but maybe see a doctor and have your thyroid/endocrine levels (and I don't know what all else) checked.
You're 18, old enough to see a doctor and ask questions.
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Yes, you read it right. She slapped me in front of about 30-40 people and it just happened last night.
We have been dating for a year and I know she likes to drink but I have never seen her like this. We went to a club yesterday and she got buzzed. While coming out I saw a few friends and was talking to them for a few minutes when one of them pointed out that my gf was about to get in the car of some random guy. I was shocked but recovered in time to run and stop her and she started fighting and yelling that I was not her dad and she can do what she wants, and then she slapped me. I am 100% sure that if my friends were not there then I would gotten my ass kicked by onlookers. And it really pissed me off to the point that I thought I should maybe let her go. But I just couldnt let her go with some random guy who will do God knows what with her.
So I finally was able to get her in a cab and dropped her at her place. Now on the ride back home I had decided to breakup with her and sent her a message informing her. I mean who will stay with someone who slapped them? But she has been calling me non stop since morning and has also written a long apology text saying sorry for hitting me and taking full blame for the mess last night. She also told me that she will quit drinking from today. Her roommate is my coworker so I asked her how she is and she told me that my gf has not eaten anything since morning and is just crying. Help me out here reddit, because now I am confused. I was so sure last night but now I dont know.
break up
Some of this sounds like your husband's problem isn't just depression. He could have some form of bipolar or borderline personality disorder. It's common for people to get diagnosed with depression but have more going on, with the depression being just one symptom of a greater issue. In the case of BPD this could mean his brain over and under produces chemicals regulating his emotions to the point where all of them feel extremely intense. Imagine your emotions as a volume knob, and the average person's emotions tend to be at a volume 3 – if he has BPD, his volume knob is at a 15. A lot of people with BPD struggle even with depression treatment on their side because they can't regulate their emotions.
I'm not saying this is for sure what's going on, but it may be worth checking out for him. I still think you should leave him – he has made no indication he will change. But it may be something his parents should later push him to look into.
I think you're in the right, like you said, we know how us men think. From these guy friends it seems reasonable to me that maybe some of them are into her but have gotten friend zoned along the way.
I went through a similar thing in university as well, there was this girl in university that had a lot of male friends but I didn't know it at the time. Went on a date with her a couple of times but nothing progressed on either of these. I do remember going to her birthday one year and it was all men that were there besides her ? guessing other men that had fallen for the same trap of trying to get with her but we're unsuccessful along the way.
Maybe your gf likes the attention of men to the same degree as well, and that's why she is looking to be in males' company. Or, it could be that she finds guys to have better sense of humour and be more fun to be around than girls, so that's why she is primarily out with that group of people?
The former seems more likely to me and you said it right, how would she react if you had a bunch of girls with which you were socialising constantly? She would either take you as trying to get with them or ask you were alright with you sexuality, as in you could be their gay best friend
You are right to be pissed off imo and boundaries need to be set
This would be a dealbreaker for me. To me, kissing on the neck is just as intimate as on the lips, if not more so, especially if it's a sensitive zone during intimacy.
I'm not sure I believe the biting story. Biting could contribute to a hickey, but it's usually sucking that causes it. And the person has to be sucking for a period of time. This was not just a quick little bite, I don't believe that.
I could be wrong and someone can correct me if I am, but this feels off to me. I'd look deeper into this.
thoughts of the vaccine come into the conversation
Don't know if you even want kids, but how do you think this will go if you have one?
to disagree and don't even talk about it. If it gets brought up in a social gathering, we both keep our mouths shut.
Yeah keep ignoring it untill it bursts out one day.
The best advice is usually the advice you do not want to hear. I have led you to water, but it’s your choice if you want to drink or not.
She stopped talking as soon as he pulled the gun. Op said that in another comment. I'd react strongly to someone telling my boyfriend to “control your bitch” too.
You guys are so young and you were kids when you got together. What is the rush to get married?
Okay so if it's about being “old fashioned” it might interest her to know that back in the 1950's women did reciprocate after a few dates, even if it was just inviting the man over for dinner and they did spend time together beyond formal dates and after 2 years they were either ready to get engaged or move on. This indefinite formal dating idea of hers just doesn't make sense unless she is using you or seeing someone else.
I don't blame you, and encourage you seriously thinking about whether or not you need those sort of opinions in your life.
he was really immature, he had irrational expectations and it was very harmful on my mental health as i would feel guilty that i wasn’t matching his expectations so we had to end things
I don’t want her to think I’m rejecting her because she’s trans
You are not rejecting her because she’s trans, you are rejecting her because you have no romantic attraction for same sex, and when you entered this relationship, it was with a male.
There is no easy way to break up with anyone. But be honest and straight forward about it because kiddie gloves and waffling around can feel patronizing.
& im not concerned about those things at all so I’ll be fine & happy not looking deeper into it. There’s no need to ask ! Y’all are right about it
It’s time for him to shit or get off the pot to be honest. He’s steering her into forever girlfriend territory, and if she’s as much of a catch as he’s describing she’ll have no issues finding someone who will wife her up ASAP.
You experience the pain. You did not do anything wrong. Neither did he. It sucks to be rejected, especially when the rejection is a complete surprise.
Self soothe for a while, maybe change up your hair style or watch a few sad movies to cry it out. You do what you find comforting. The only real solution is to give yourself time to grieve. Wait it out and eventually your brain will stop producing the chemicals responsible for what we experience as feelings.
I don’t even see how it occurs to someone to say that if they’ve never had the actual thought before. Just no.
Run…. You are condemning yourself to a life of maid to him, his parents and any potential children you might want. You can do so much better than this.