You should not be with him. You should concentrate on you getting better, continuing therapy and not be with someone who disrespects you this way and making your recovery slow down. You should not be okay with your boyfriend sleeping with other women because you are not ready. Please break up and concentrate on yourself only.
If you don’t find someone who likes to fuck and is super fun in bed, you’re going to look back on your life when you’re old and wonder why you put up with a dead bedroom when you were young and nude. Life is short and then you’re dead forever. Online your life and leave the dud in your dust. You can be friends with her if she’s that nice of a person.
But, heed this warning: Do not hook up with an asshole just because she’s great in bed. Find someone who is cool and fun in bed.
Cooking for people creates intimate dinner parties which is my preferred mode of socialization. Creating a menu, buying ingredients , cleaning the house before and after, doing all the cooking. This is all TREMENDOUS effort. There is nothing selfish about all of this effort. You want to enjoy time with your friends, and you are willing to do the work to create a nice setting. Ridiculous to say you do this because, “You crave validation”. Your boyfriend is a thoughtless idiot who imagines himself as some kind of armchair psychologist. Do not take his his empty words to heart.
How about since she cheated on you and obviously lied about it and wants a “trial separation” then she can be the one to move out temporarily.. or how about forever. Your wife wants to fuck around with someone else, divorce her.
Only a small percentage of the mortgage payment goes towards paying off the mortgage, especially right now when this is a very new mortgage. The interest is very heavily front-loaded. There's also tons of other expenses, like property taxes (mine are about the same as my mortgage each month), upkeep and repairs, etc etc. Only splitting bills like electric and water isn't fair either, it would be like staying almost for free while your partner shoulders a shitton of expenses on their own. It's not unfair to charge somewhere in between market rate and “just bills.”
That said, OP's partner is insane for thinking they should be 50/50 when he still makes 4x what she does. He was already overcharging her, raising rent now is ridiculous.
what the absolute fuck are you talking about? it’s not her parents choice who she chooses to date..also you’re making all of these assumptions when OP clearly talked with his girlfriend about her parents and their racist attitudes.
He thinks about FRIENDS? Porn actresses, sure, I bet a lot of men in relationships like to fantasise about that kind of stuff (not saying you have to be okay with it though!) That’s not a “jealousy problem” that’s just weird and creepy towards his friends too. It’s crossing your boundaries and that’s not okay.
Forgive me if this comes off the wrong way, but why wouldn’t you wash the dishes if it was only a couple of spoons or cups? It only takes a few moments to wash a few dishes and if you aren’t working, then you certainly have the time to spare. Plus, having an empty clean sink feels nice.
Forgive me if this comes off the wrong way, but why wouldn’t you wash the dishes if it was only a couple of spoons or cups? It only takes a few moments to wash a few dishes and if you aren’t working, then you certainly have the time to spare. Plus, having an empty clean sink feels nice.
You can leave him. Or, if everything else is good, consider charging him for your work. $50/hr to clean up after him. Keep a tally & take it out of your share of the rent & bills. He thinks it’s too expensive? He can clean up after himself. Up to him.
Do you really need to know why? Okay she is blatantly wiling to lie and disrespectful towards you, when you try to have a conversation her first response was to lie then when you didn’t buy her lie instantly blames you for causing issues. Do you really want that as a life partner a women who will blatantly in front of you disrespect you, lie to, then try to gaslight you into thinking this is your problem, do I need to keep going? Look don’t be one of those doormats who is scared to be alone have some self respect their are plenty of women in this world who won’t do that shit and won’t try to gaslight after doing it in your face, but hey it’s up to you to decide the type of person you want to give your heart to, she was willing to break it do you really think you can trust her with it
the whole point is he shouldn't have confronted him lol girl can you be real are you a troll in it for the long con?
You should not be with him. You should concentrate on you getting better, continuing therapy and not be with someone who disrespects you this way and making your recovery slow down. You should not be okay with your boyfriend sleeping with other women because you are not ready. Please break up and concentrate on yourself only.
Don't be so nice…get the money for the rent
If you don’t find someone who likes to fuck and is super fun in bed, you’re going to look back on your life when you’re old and wonder why you put up with a dead bedroom when you were young and nude. Life is short and then you’re dead forever. Online your life and leave the dud in your dust. You can be friends with her if she’s that nice of a person.
But, heed this warning: Do not hook up with an asshole just because she’s great in bed. Find someone who is cool and fun in bed.
Cooking for people creates intimate dinner parties which is my preferred mode of socialization. Creating a menu, buying ingredients , cleaning the house before and after, doing all the cooking. This is all TREMENDOUS effort. There is nothing selfish about all of this effort. You want to enjoy time with your friends, and you are willing to do the work to create a nice setting. Ridiculous to say you do this because, “You crave validation”. Your boyfriend is a thoughtless idiot who imagines himself as some kind of armchair psychologist. Do not take his his empty words to heart.
Right now? Nope. Bring that up in the future argument I’m going to have today? Probability a little hurtful. Deserved? Potentially.
How about since she cheated on you and obviously lied about it and wants a “trial separation” then she can be the one to move out temporarily.. or how about forever. Your wife wants to fuck around with someone else, divorce her.
Only a small percentage of the mortgage payment goes towards paying off the mortgage, especially right now when this is a very new mortgage. The interest is very heavily front-loaded. There's also tons of other expenses, like property taxes (mine are about the same as my mortgage each month), upkeep and repairs, etc etc. Only splitting bills like electric and water isn't fair either, it would be like staying almost for free while your partner shoulders a shitton of expenses on their own. It's not unfair to charge somewhere in between market rate and “just bills.”
That said, OP's partner is insane for thinking they should be 50/50 when he still makes 4x what she does. He was already overcharging her, raising rent now is ridiculous.
what the absolute fuck are you talking about? it’s not her parents choice who she chooses to date..also you’re making all of these assumptions when OP clearly talked with his girlfriend about her parents and their racist attitudes.
He thinks about FRIENDS? Porn actresses, sure, I bet a lot of men in relationships like to fantasise about that kind of stuff (not saying you have to be okay with it though!) That’s not a “jealousy problem” that’s just weird and creepy towards his friends too. It’s crossing your boundaries and that’s not okay.
You two need to communicate clearly what each of you want in the future. Hiding from that talk will not help.
Good on you for being a helpful brother.
Clearly your girlfriend can't think clearly and comes to the worst conclusions. Hope things get better for you!
Forgive me if this comes off the wrong way, but why wouldn’t you wash the dishes if it was only a couple of spoons or cups? It only takes a few moments to wash a few dishes and if you aren’t working, then you certainly have the time to spare. Plus, having an empty clean sink feels nice.
Forgive me if this comes off the wrong way, but why wouldn’t you wash the dishes if it was only a couple of spoons or cups? It only takes a few moments to wash a few dishes and if you aren’t working, then you certainly have the time to spare. Plus, having an empty clean sink feels nice.
That’s facts. I’ve expressed to her id just like some communication if she needs space. Yet she does t tell me if she needs the space
He needs professional help because he’s the not normal one not you.
Do yourself a favour and dump him. Then get as many snacks and drink as you want and enjoy yourself because you won’t get that with him
Lol she isn’t going to stop. People pee in the shower.
Urine carries very little bacteria. Your skin pre shower has more bacteria than urine. It's mostly all water. Not a big deal she pees in the shower.
You can leave him. Or, if everything else is good, consider charging him for your work. $50/hr to clean up after him. Keep a tally & take it out of your share of the rent & bills. He thinks it’s too expensive? He can clean up after himself. Up to him.
Help me understand why neither of you can be away from your cats?
Do you really need to know why? Okay she is blatantly wiling to lie and disrespectful towards you, when you try to have a conversation her first response was to lie then when you didn’t buy her lie instantly blames you for causing issues. Do you really want that as a life partner a women who will blatantly in front of you disrespect you, lie to, then try to gaslight you into thinking this is your problem, do I need to keep going? Look don’t be one of those doormats who is scared to be alone have some self respect their are plenty of women in this world who won’t do that shit and won’t try to gaslight after doing it in your face, but hey it’s up to you to decide the type of person you want to give your heart to, she was willing to break it do you really think you can trust her with it
Wow you made me cry, thanks so much, congratulations for your pregnancy, you bring me hope
This seems much more likely than the story the ex is peddling.
Are you kidding? Your grabbed her arm, preventing her from leaving