0 views
IG @Rebecavega0 I need YOU to make me super soak// Give me a squirt for 222tkn // Snap 199 tkn
Date: October 6, 2022
AmateurPub
sounds like bias against queerness/trans etc if that's all it was. that isn't any reason not to let him have access to his kids. i didn't read the orginal, only going off what you said here.
Depending of the bar.
You do know there’s sex clubs right ?
Hello /u/ThrowRAokCup,
Your post was removed for the following reason(s):
Your title did not include at least two ages/genders or was not formatted correctly
Posts must:
include details about the involved parties including ages, genders, and length of relationship, and
request advice in real situations involving two or more people
We are enforcing the two rules listed above by making all titles start with ages/genders in the following format:
[##X][##X], [## X][## X], or [##-X][##-X] where ## is the age and X is the gender (currently M, F, T, A, NB, FTM, MTF but more can be added). You can have more than two ages/genders listed, but you must have at least two at the beginning of your title. Here is an example:
[34NB][88-F] We are two people in an example post
Please resubmit with a corrected title.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
So my question is, did my gf just use a break up to emotionally manipulate me into doing what she says?
Yeah, dude, of course she did. What other explanation is there?
The start of our relationship was amazing
This is meaningless. The start of ALMOST EVERY relationship is amazing, including the horribly abusive ones.
You need to have a conversation and tell her that it is over. It has been for 4 years. She is using you to cover her expenses even though you earn the same. Stop being a people pleaser. There is a book called The subtle art of not giving a f**k by Mark Manson. I think you need to read it.
One thing you could do is tell him that if he doesn't leave you alone, you'll tell everyone about the night you shared together.
You have ammunition here. There's a chance that he'd suddenly figure out exactly what you meant by “why are you doing this”, and fuck off.
At the same time, I genuinely worry that doing this could make an unstable, aggressive, potentially sadistic man either call your bluff – or lash out violently.
Moving out may be the safest option. I'm sorry.
Isn’t it illegal to open someone else’s mail? I assume it was your name on the package. You could report them to the police and make them hand over the pills.
The age gap will always be an issue because he is focused on maintaining you as exactly as you are, looks wise, and molding you into whatever personality he wants by manipulating you (he says you don’t communicate well? Well based on what you’ve written here, I know that’s not true at all), what he means when he says that is that you are communicating to him in a way that makes him have to confront that you are another person with needs, thoughts, desires, etc as opposed to the doll he wants to be his accessory.
Tell him the truth about how you feel. Set the boundaries
Does he shut you out when you have a disagreement/argument/ something other than this is not to his liking?
He's setting a boundary. Saying “I will not be in a relationship with a woman who takes her clothes off for money.” is letting her make an informed decision. She can go dance and be single, or stay in a relationship and keep that a workout.
Honestly, that depends on what the “something big” is that happened between you and your boyfriend.
Because if this was about a fight or something like that, then involving mutual friends is not a good idea. You're basically asking people who like both of you to pick sides. That never, ever ends well – as your boyfriend now learned, since your friends seemingly sided mainly with you. However, it is just as valid for friends to step back in such a situation to avoid blowing up the rest of the group.
But if this was more about something you and your partner went through together (like, you were out together as a couple, got mugged and now don't feel safe anymore) and your friends are then not supportive when there are no sides to pick, essentially, then they are really shitty friends.
That said, some people generally are only “fairweather friends”, meaning they meet up with friends to hang out and have fun. Nothing deeper and if things ever aren't as “sunny”, then, for those people, the friendship has basically run its course. They want fun, not invest work or time into a friendship. If your friends fall into this category, then it literally doesn't matter what that “something big” was – they would have always reacted the same way and only cared about their fun. Deeper friendships aren't possible with such people.
You aren’t compatible. You can’t turn him into the ambitious man you want. He’s not going to change anytime soon if ever. I wouldn’t spend your 20s waiting around for something that isn’t likely to happen. You’ve grown up and he hasn’t.
As he told me,no. And I don’t think that he has
We’ve known each other for about 3 years now, and we spend a significant amount of time on foreplay before getting intimate. The main issue here is that his erection always goes down within seconds.
M53 here. Listen to NintendoJesus. There’s a lot of black and white thinking here. Take a day to calm down. Calmly move forward with an open mind. This night wasn’t the only night of your life. Honestly, it’ll make a good story at your wedding. Life is way too complex to throw everything away every time a 19yo has one too many and f*cks up.
At my university (way back when) you could request an “emergency appointment”. They keep a couple slots open for people who need immediate help. When I finally realized I needed help, the wait list was so long. At first I felt guilt calling myself an “emergency” but I realized things would get so much worth a month down the line. Don’t feel guilty for pushing for an emergency.
The choice is whatever you decide really. Your boyfriend can’t stop you regardless. But your boyfriend’s concern is warranted and has nothing to do with insecurities. How many stories on Reddit have started out like yours , male roommate just friends the boyfriend who doesn’t want to be controlling or looked at insecure just goes along with it and within a year the girlfriend and roommate are hooking up. So yeah I’m sure if you place yourself in your boyfriend’s shoes, you can see where he is coming from. Hope you guys figure it out ✌?
I had an ex like that. He cheated on me.
Likewise.
Just start by doing things you like to do. I suspect that what will happen is one/both of you realizing that you don't spend time together as much, and noticing your differences. Be who you want to be and see if she follows. If she doesn't then just break up.
One big thing I can't stress enough is don't fall for her potential. You need to stop hoping she'll change. You chose to date a teenager exactly as she is right now. Like I said, I know plenty of people in their 40s that never “grew out of it”. She definitely won't change if she can bully you into coming along. Be who you want to be, instead of being who she wants you to be and also resenting who she is.
I agree with you completely. For me this kind of behavior is an absolute deal breaker. The minute you want control of my time and activities I’m out. My partner and I compromise on our hobbies so we can spend time together. We do not forbid each other’s hobbies.
Honestly if you're at the self harm an suicide ideations stage it sounds like it's time for you to check yourself into an intensive program. Maybe you can do it outpatient, but in patient if needed.
It's not on him to manage your feelings nor is he deserving of punishment because of what others did to you.
Why is it you think this therapist is bad, but would be a-ok with another female therapist? What's to keep you from keeping a “bad feeling” about the next therapist he has?
Why are you willing to potentially torpedo your bf's mental health for a “bad feeling”? You can't guarantee that you won't get the “bad feeling” if his next therapist is also a woman. You also can't guarantee him that the next therapist will be as good for him as this one is.
Mental health issues may be the reason you do things, but it's not an EXCUSE and it's not a reason for you to control your partner.
Also if you both truly don't see the meaning of life without each other, you both need some SERIOUS help because that type of enmeshment is toxic and unhealthy and a recipe for disaster.
I tell my friends things like “love you babe” whether they are men or women. I think you’re being silly.
But to your question about wanting to go into his phone? If I found out that one of my friends was letting their partner read messages I thought were private, I would end the friendship. That’s a breach of my privacy. Further, if I gave someone access to my phone, I could be fired as getting on my phone means having access to work stuff that is sensitive.
If you don’t trust him, break up.
The coke would explain the ability to drink more than usual and not blackout.
This is the way!
Yeah…my boyfriend and I are aspiring to make what you currently make—combined.
You’re doing great already and have intentions to move up from there, what’s her damage?
Don’t waste your time. She sounds like someone you could be making 2x more than and she would still find a problem with it. Thank you, next
These are almost all of the reasons I no longer do it. My situations were more of the please the bf/sex partner at the time. I was also usually seriously inebriated all of the times. Yeah I had a few okay, or pleasant experiences, but overall the act isn't my thing. Plus my bf now is way too thick for this activity.
Trying to be nice by continuing is wasting his time. Be direct and tell him you dont see anything romantic at this time.
From the title alone, you should break up. 31 year olds don't date 19 year olds for the conversations, they pursue them because women their own age don't put up with their shit. Most of them are also creepy, a lot of 19 year olds are incredibly naive and predators latch on to that shit.
Source : dated older men all thru my 20s because I was “so mature for my age”.
That's why I said a trans person's gender. And I also meant “respect that they are that gender” not “respect the gender itself”.
Oh shit I guess I, age 45, need to tell my husband I've outlived my usefulness to him and society and will retire to a private island to live out the rest of my (probably limited because OLD) days.
Your boyfriend sucks.
I dunno. Sounds like he’s ok with it. I like rough sex too and my SO isn’t into it – lots of hot “no’s”.
I am.
I understand..
His alcoholic shitfuckery isn't your fault.
You simply told him your truth, that he's a manipulative lying alcoholic asshole, and you friends and family detest him because of his alcoholism and assholery. That's all pretty accurate information. It's not on you for speaking the truth, you're just the messenger.
He can either keep sucking down the liquor like a baby from it's bottle. Or he can do something about it and get sober.
Contact the police. Tell them the situation and tell them hes sending harassing messages, threatening suicide and you'd like tjem to do a well person check.
Haven’t you asked yourself this yet? Why would your best friend not tell you what’s bothering her? Why would she miss your wedding? And not anything else? Have you not asked yourself this?
You have grown as a person and he has stayed stagnant. I am going out on a limb here and saying you really do not have anything in common with him anymore. he seems extremely jealous of your accomplishments but not willing to change for the relationship. You know he is holding you back. It's time for you to move on.
There is literally no reason a 35 year old has to call his girlfriend fat. Not a single one. Besides 70 kg on 160kg is not fat and you have told him to stop. He is doing it on purpose and that's a shitty move.