Yeah that disturbs me, I wasn't actually in the car I only got the story of her making it sound like a funny story I'd enjoy. She told me she was far enough away from the kids but did it for the fun.
I don't actually know how close she was and how dangerous it could've been, maybe I'd be a lot more mad if I'd seen it but this is the reason I don't get in cars with her anymore
“2. Doctors would use a HIPAA compliant app, website, or email address that is clearly labeled as a medical app, website, or email address. Not Skype or FaceTime.”
Here, I copy-pasted it for you since your reading comprehension is so poor that you can't understand multiple points unless they're in individual posts.
Are you done pretending you know anything about HIPAA laws yet?
Women don’t understand the fear of being lied to and raising a child that isn’t theirs. This is a very real fear for men that women don’t ever have to worry about.
Jumping to cheating doesn’t make sense in this instance. Especially if there’s nothing else bothering her about the guy. Everyone is quick to shout “he doesn’t trust you!”, but most everyone who gets cheated on trusts their partner. That’s why it’s so devastating. Making him out to be a villain and being offended just because he wants confirmation reeks of gaslighting.
“Trust, but verify.” is a common military saying. A damn good one too.
I feel like I am in the middle trying to appease both sides. I am a very emotional person who doesn't ever want to hurt anyone.
Big screaming warning sign “I will never stand up to my parents”.
Thing is, parents are the people who raised him to be like this. Not the wife. So the parents are the people who made a codependent child, and I can 100% bet they are the source of the problem, because they WANTED this. They wanted to have a son who will not have an independent life but grow up to be a people's pleaser.
He says in the original post how the wife is mad about the parents (painting the wife as the bad / oversentisive person) but is completely mum about parents… and I can't tell you, it's probably because he's afraid to speak badly about them.
Ask her out on a date instead of confessing your feelings. It’s not really romantic to just come out and confess your feelings. If she agrees to the date, then you know she is interested. If she doesn’t agree, then drop it and keep it platonic.
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There’s waaaay too many incompatibilities you’ve listed to make this a long term functionality relationship. You’ve given multiple examples of him not listening to you and considering your needs.
Being on the same page about having kids is make or break. If you don’t agree now it will lead to resentment for one or both of you. Neither of you should approach this with the view to change the other person.
The sex & housework are only going to cause resentment and conflict down the track. Hell, you mention your own dad who likes him told you to bail because of the housework.
The fact he proposed in a way you don’t like (after advice not to from a friend!) and with a ring the opposite of your tastes shows he doesn’t respect your preferences and he will just railroad what you want with what he thinks you should want.
It doesn’t matter if your friends and family love him- they don’t have to be in the relationship with him. When I was your age I dated someone who was awful to me, but who was so charming/great according to my family. They didn’t know what he was like one on one. We split and I was much happier.
You’re only 24, you have plenty of time to meet someone who you’re a better match with.
Love is monotony?! That the most depressing take on the matter i've ever heard! I think every single person who is actually in love would beg to differ! I mean isnt that the whole point of being in love? To escspe the inevitable “monotony” of a loveless life?
It's important to talk with a trustworthy doctor and keep track of your body. It's also important to know you can change forms and find something that works for you.
Many women have few to no side effect, and there are many low dose options, as well as different types of hormones you can use. Just because the first option doesn't work for you don't be afraid to tell your doctor you want to try something else.
Men and women usually get out the back seat of a car because they just finished fucking. Sounds suspicious to me. ??
Yeah that disturbs me, I wasn't actually in the car I only got the story of her making it sound like a funny story I'd enjoy. She told me she was far enough away from the kids but did it for the fun.
I don't actually know how close she was and how dangerous it could've been, maybe I'd be a lot more mad if I'd seen it but this is the reason I don't get in cars with her anymore
“2. Doctors would use a HIPAA compliant app, website, or email address that is clearly labeled as a medical app, website, or email address. Not Skype or FaceTime.”
Here, I copy-pasted it for you since your reading comprehension is so poor that you can't understand multiple points unless they're in individual posts.
Are you done pretending you know anything about HIPAA laws yet?
Read OP’s edit she added more info about the situation
Women don’t understand the fear of being lied to and raising a child that isn’t theirs. This is a very real fear for men that women don’t ever have to worry about.
Jumping to cheating doesn’t make sense in this instance. Especially if there’s nothing else bothering her about the guy. Everyone is quick to shout “he doesn’t trust you!”, but most everyone who gets cheated on trusts their partner. That’s why it’s so devastating. Making him out to be a villain and being offended just because he wants confirmation reeks of gaslighting.
“Trust, but verify.” is a common military saying. A damn good one too.
Sounds like a troll.
OP said so in the post:
I feel like I am in the middle trying to appease both sides. I am a very emotional person who doesn't ever want to hurt anyone.
Big screaming warning sign “I will never stand up to my parents”.
Thing is, parents are the people who raised him to be like this. Not the wife. So the parents are the people who made a codependent child, and I can 100% bet they are the source of the problem, because they WANTED this. They wanted to have a son who will not have an independent life but grow up to be a people's pleaser.
He says in the original post how the wife is mad about the parents (painting the wife as the bad / oversentisive person) but is completely mum about parents… and I can't tell you, it's probably because he's afraid to speak badly about them.
The no.1 cause of mortality for pregnant women isn't birth complications, it's their partners
This shattered my heart in a thousand pieces ?
Ask her out on a date instead of confessing your feelings. It’s not really romantic to just come out and confess your feelings. If she agrees to the date, then you know she is interested. If she doesn’t agree, then drop it and keep it platonic.
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There’s waaaay too many incompatibilities you’ve listed to make this a long term functionality relationship. You’ve given multiple examples of him not listening to you and considering your needs.
Being on the same page about having kids is make or break. If you don’t agree now it will lead to resentment for one or both of you. Neither of you should approach this with the view to change the other person.
The sex & housework are only going to cause resentment and conflict down the track. Hell, you mention your own dad who likes him told you to bail because of the housework.
The fact he proposed in a way you don’t like (after advice not to from a friend!) and with a ring the opposite of your tastes shows he doesn’t respect your preferences and he will just railroad what you want with what he thinks you should want.
It doesn’t matter if your friends and family love him- they don’t have to be in the relationship with him. When I was your age I dated someone who was awful to me, but who was so charming/great according to my family. They didn’t know what he was like one on one. We split and I was much happier.
You’re only 24, you have plenty of time to meet someone who you’re a better match with.
Good luck.
How did she know he was in the hospital or what hospital to call?
I just burst out laughing reading this
Love is monotony?! That the most depressing take on the matter i've ever heard! I think every single person who is actually in love would beg to differ! I mean isnt that the whole point of being in love? To escspe the inevitable “monotony” of a loveless life?
Depending on the person, blackouts can happen, doesn't have to be a crazy amount. Three drinks can change a person.
Then, yeah, what your girlfriend is asking sounds pretty unreasonable.
I don’t get the 10k – is she asking you to pay to marry her?
You don't. She doesn't want one. You need to respect her boundaries, and stop pestering her.
He sounds like one of those inflatable dudes that dance around in front of an auto dealership. You can do better.
Okay, so if you don’t know what to do then he will not either.
It’s unfair to expect him to know something about yourself that you don’t.
At the same time, he doesn’t seem to know how to comfort or this is how he was comforted.
It seems you two have some learning to do together
How many kids do you have as a single parent?
You opened Pandora's Box my friend, sometimes there is no putting the genie back in the bottle.
Dude you’re way too old for this
It's important to talk with a trustworthy doctor and keep track of your body. It's also important to know you can change forms and find something that works for you.
Many women have few to no side effect, and there are many low dose options, as well as different types of hormones you can use. Just because the first option doesn't work for you don't be afraid to tell your doctor you want to try something else.