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Date: February 24, 2023
Rules for dating are stupid, do what’s best for yourself and your comfort, be honest and upfront, if they don’t like it then you know it’s not the person to keep dating
I disagree. I think it’s valuable to have a secret network where women can share bad experiences and prevent future traumas. Every day I see women posting about men who sexually assaulted them or abused them, with other women in the comments who had the same experience. Legitimate posts can help women dodge predators.
It’s terrifying how risky dating can be for women and groups like this are not equivalent to “rate this girl” groups. I’m not saying there aren’t issues with these groups but I strongly disagree with your false comparison here.
Leave. Right freaking now.
Not in dreams no, but there have been a couple instances where she’s disagreed with my friends or her friends and I can clearly see the other persons argument being valid but I can’t say it because she’s mg gf. She’s not typically very emotional but this whole thing strikes me as bizarre. I’ll tell her just that; that it’s a dream and I’ve done nothing wrong. I don’t want to make her feel like sh*t but this whole situation is honestly really reflective of her age, I’d imagine
She’s using for attention – block her and heal.
So he's just running back to work quickly for something he forgot?
And that's an issue?
Adoption is NOT the solution for an unwanted pregnancy/child.
Adoption is NOT the solution for an unwanted pregnancy/child.
Adoption is NOT the solution for an unwanted pregnancy/child.
Adoption is NOT the solution for an unwanted pregnancy/child.
Adoption is NOT the solution for an unwanted pregnancy/child.
-Signed, an adoptee.
This has to be a troll post. Come on.
You've already discussed this with BF, but nothing's changed? Did you think he has some kind of magic power over his mother?
If you want to continue dating him, develop a thicker skin and don't assume every conversation they have is about you. This kind of friction is present in most cross-cultural relationships.
Be congenial and affectionate toward her, and greet her first even if she doesn't greet you.
Or, breaking up is always an option.
My parents have both told me that I was responsible for their suicidal ideation in the past. Do you think I was?
(If it matters, in my dad's case, he told me I could confide in him and I expressed being sad/frustrated about the state of my realtionship with my sister. I can't begin to understand how my mom saw the world to articulate why I was responsible for her feelings.)
I really struggled with that. It honestly still hurts. But I have no hesitation in saying that you're not responsible for your husband's potential suicidal feelings, because I hold myself to deeply unreasonable standards but I can see your situation clearly.
I mean this in the kindest way possible, but have you considered that your support is enabling your husband to limp through life in a state of constant misery? If you leave, he might be motivated to make changes. My mom drank herself to death, and I can't tell you how many hours I spent wondering where the line between “harm reduction” and “enabling” was. I really, sincerely do get it. But staying doesn't guarantee that he won't kill himself. Leaving doesn't guarantee that he will. What you actually know is 1) he is deeply unhappy and 2) he is not currently taking any steps to improve his situation or outlook. You can't control what he does. But 1) and 2) apply to you, too, and you can control what you do.
I have a lot of issues with the 12-step/AA format, but I also got a lot of useful support from AlAnon. The Serenity prayer, which asks for “the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” springs to mind.
My mom, my dad and I all had depresseion and anxiety to deal with. My mom drank herself into a stupor. My dad lost decades of his life alternately burying his head in the sand and running himself ragged trying to “babyproof” all the emotional sharp corners and outlets in the world to eliminate the “reasons” she drank. I got therapy, I found groups, I got medicated, I got two degrees, and most importantly I got out. I spent years trying to pull him out of the situation before realising I was doing the exact same thing with him that he was doing with her. The cold very hot truth was that neither of us could help someone who didn't want to be helped. I spent most of my life feeling like I was treading water, nearly drowning as I tried to keep the whole family from going under. Then I got out of the pool, because I couldn't force them to do that, but I could be an example. I sincerely thought my dad would have a breakdown, but you know what? He was okay. I think he actually drew some boundaries and took some baby steps back, leaving him happier tban he'd been when I was snabling him.
I know it's a lot easier to give advice than to live this, that's why groups were so helpful for me (it helped drive home the disconnect between what I expected of others vs myself). You should try to look for some kind of regular support – a group, something live!, an individual therapist. I hope your life gets easier. You deserve to be happy.
(Sorry about the novel-length response.)
You gotta ride the wave out. Eventually, your conscious will understand this isn’t a thing and you’ll get over it.
I get where you are coming from. She knew you were romantically interested, and instead of telling you she was seeing someone so that you could stop chasing her, she went ahead and kept it secret and badically led you on. For that, she is definitely an AH. However, instead of calling her out on it and either moving forward or quitting as friends completely, you kept eaking over the same coals that did no favors for either of you. She is either your friend or she isn't. so for that, you are an AH.
Question, could OP file on grounds of infidelity? And if so, would the wife be entitled to OP’s assets?
Is she married to you or him? It seems like you have been replaced.
You need to stand up to your family. Put your foot down. Stop letting them do this. You’re an adult!
Thanks, yeah I appreciate your replies and agree. The point I was trying to make that some others here have overlooked, is not that im OKAY with being his side piece, but more that ultimately, the reason why he is not allowing me to meet them really doesn’t matter. Bottom line is for me, it’s a boundary that if he can not give a good reasoning as to why, then it’s a deal breaker for me ??♀️ I don’t think that’s unreasonable or me “making it all about myself.” I think that’s perfectly healthy and normal to do in a relationship lmao
It wont matter in terms of child support or visitation. There are rapists in jail who have visitation rights to children that came from their rape.
Why?
She knows all of my PINs and passwords. I'm 100% open with her. I'm not aware of when she checks, or even if she does. She accuses me of being sneaky or shady and my response is an instant “here, check my phone.” I don't delete, I'm forthcoming with anything that could be misinterpreted as impropriety. I have found shady things in her phone before, that she lied about when asked.
Thank you for the unfiltered response, I agree with your points. I don't know why I reacted the ways I did when I was/am very in to her but you're correct in that I was garbage. There is a lot I left out in terms of our dynamic so I don't necessarily agree with the general opinion that I treated her like absolute garbage, but in these scenarios I listed I agree 100%. We never had made plans for these events, but having been in long relationships before I know that its assumed the person you're “with” should be making an effort in big life events, and in that I failed miserably.
I do have some troubles from my childhood that I don't necessarily consider trauma per se(alcoholic abusive father figure from age 3-8, narcissistic mother whom I have at best a strained relationship with) but you're probably right. I will look into therapy.
Lay off the 12 inch dildos
Look guys, if you're gonna pull the massage trick then you have to make it enjoyable for her at the very least. Just whipping out his cock and putting it on her back? What did he expect
She’s nuts and he might be too. I’d have dumped her as soon as she started running her mouth about her hoedom to my coworkers.
Nope.
This makes so much sense honestly.
I think people are being super disingenuous throughout this thread. Husband is not “calling her weird for wanting a healthy lifestyle” or whatever bs, he’s pointing out (rightfully so) that it’s an incredibly boring event to attend on your own while your partner runs for 1-4 hours, seeing them at most twice throughout that entire time. I can understand why someone would prefer actual races to casual runs, but I can also recognize that it’s a bit abnormal (at least thinking of all the runners I know).
I used to run cross country and I actively disliked having people at my meets. I realize that I’m far from a representative sample of all runners, but I cannot for the life of me understand why people require attention while simultaneously doing things they supposedly love. Aren’t hobbies things you enjoy for their own merit, rather than things you enjoy because they bring you attention?
I totally get wanting support on your first couple of longer races, BUT you’re running a race basically EVERY MONTH. That’s basically 1 weekend out of every 4 or 5 that he’s got to spend a good chunk of time sitting around at what is—and I’m saying this as a former runner who understands why people love it—the single most boring sport to watch live.
It just strikes me as sort of selfish. I have plenty of hobbies that I love to partake in with people who also share that interest, but can’t imagine pressuring my girlfriend to join me while knowing she’s going to be alone having a bad time the whole time simply because “I want the support”. It would ruin the fun for me knowing that she’s not having a good time and only there because I asked.
You are not crazy you are calling her on her shit. The fact that it gets so overblown is because she is hiding something and KNOWS it’s wrong… so now she turns it on you and it’s your fault. She will only take you seriously if you take it seriously. Start looking into divorcing/ separating and only think about reconciliation if both of you take couples therapy. If she doesn’t take it seriously then you know what your relationship means and where you are at this point. Stay strong don’t give into her manipulations.
I don’t know why women who refer to women as female or who wouldn’t see they are clearly in the wrong. Fake or not, therapy is the only answer