Is your boyfriend… what is wrong with him that this is the weird hill he wants to die on? When he’s so wrong? I’d be worried about what happens when it’s about something that matters if he’s got his heels dug in over something this incredibly stupid.
This guy sucks, you’re better off if he never comes back. You’ll eventually find someone who understands you and isn’t a lame ass loser who can’t handle that you’re not a cut-out of a human being, but an actual human with their own quirks just like literally anyone else. What a goober.
Also, it’s not weird or uncommon to keep the fur of lost pets, I worked as a vet tech for years and we would offer for ppl to shave and take home some of their pets fur when they came in for euthanasia pretty much every time. Most accepted that offer. I personally have multiple times myself and have them in ziplock bags too. I’m sorry this guy is an idiot.
I am so very sorry. You need to speak to a lawyer asap, get trusts in place for your daughter before this all goes down. I don’t know what else to say, I feel so sad for you
This is a problem for many people, i personally think most relationships only work, if the people in it can actually be happy alone. A relationship is an enhancement to your life and should not be a pillar you build your happiness on. This puts unnecessary pressure on the relationship and it shows in your behaviour from the start, as you said, you get clingy and stuff cause your happiness is bound to this other person and the relationship working out.
Couldn't agree more. Also being comfortable with being single gives you the psychological armor to know that your life won't fall apart if you feel the need to break up with someone.
Op there’s a lot to unpack here; feelings of rejection, inadequacy, self esteem. The porn addiction itself; which I’d like to mention may or may not even have anything to do with sex, it could be simply a dopamine thing. The communication in your relationship, boundaries, I’m not even sure where to start.
You guys need to talk about all this. If the porn is a sex thing can it be worked into your sex life, like part of the foreplay? He might need that background stimulation to get out of his head and into the moment? Is his sec drive just that high? Why do you feel threatened by it? I’m obviously not asking you these questions, these are the type of questions you should be asking yourself and asking him to think about for himself. And hopefully after you both have had time to think about these things you can come back together and have a real conversation and find common ground to move forward in a way that you both feel satisfied, loved, and fulfilled. After all that’s what being in a relationship is all about.
So how do you proceed? get your thoughts together, ask him when would be a good time for the two of you to sit down and have a vulnerable conversation, tell him the subject so he has time to get his thoughts together too, and then when the time is right, talk it out.
Just a thought… could you use a payi phone or a friend’s phone to call for domestic violence help I’d tie afraid he’ll see it on your phone? Do you have enough money to buy even one of the Little dictating recorder devices – they are inexpensive and could record a call that is on speaker.
Wishing you all the best, prayers for your safety and that of your family.
After overlooking our relationship and asking the questions…my relationship with my girlfriend is great. There's been nothing wrong left unresolved, no red flags that I know of or even feel. I'm not tired of our relationship, there are things that she does that I love, she's very interesting to me and I find her extremely attractive. I love my girlfriend.
It looks like it was in the post because people where referring to it in the comments, something about sleeping with other men before they were even together, I read the post many time, it must have been edited out.
Wait… so you weren’t even close enough to these people that you considered yourself “dating” them, they’re just flings… but your bf is so bothered by that you cut them out of your life without question?? Girl. The red flags. How weird and controlling.
Did you go to his house? Why was he there when you woke up?
that's a fair point.yet i still tend to believe this issue can be fixed, he's very upset about this insecurity he is very well conscious about
Is your boyfriend… what is wrong with him that this is the weird hill he wants to die on? When he’s so wrong? I’d be worried about what happens when it’s about something that matters if he’s got his heels dug in over something this incredibly stupid.
This guy sucks, you’re better off if he never comes back. You’ll eventually find someone who understands you and isn’t a lame ass loser who can’t handle that you’re not a cut-out of a human being, but an actual human with their own quirks just like literally anyone else. What a goober.
Also, it’s not weird or uncommon to keep the fur of lost pets, I worked as a vet tech for years and we would offer for ppl to shave and take home some of their pets fur when they came in for euthanasia pretty much every time. Most accepted that offer. I personally have multiple times myself and have them in ziplock bags too. I’m sorry this guy is an idiot.
I am so very sorry. You need to speak to a lawyer asap, get trusts in place for your daughter before this all goes down. I don’t know what else to say, I feel so sad for you
This is a problem for many people, i personally think most relationships only work, if the people in it can actually be happy alone. A relationship is an enhancement to your life and should not be a pillar you build your happiness on. This puts unnecessary pressure on the relationship and it shows in your behaviour from the start, as you said, you get clingy and stuff cause your happiness is bound to this other person and the relationship working out.
Couldn't agree more. Also being comfortable with being single gives you the psychological armor to know that your life won't fall apart if you feel the need to break up with someone.
I remember my mom pregnant with my sisters but i don’t seem to remember pics of mine
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Op there’s a lot to unpack here; feelings of rejection, inadequacy, self esteem. The porn addiction itself; which I’d like to mention may or may not even have anything to do with sex, it could be simply a dopamine thing. The communication in your relationship, boundaries, I’m not even sure where to start.
You guys need to talk about all this. If the porn is a sex thing can it be worked into your sex life, like part of the foreplay? He might need that background stimulation to get out of his head and into the moment? Is his sec drive just that high? Why do you feel threatened by it? I’m obviously not asking you these questions, these are the type of questions you should be asking yourself and asking him to think about for himself. And hopefully after you both have had time to think about these things you can come back together and have a real conversation and find common ground to move forward in a way that you both feel satisfied, loved, and fulfilled. After all that’s what being in a relationship is all about.
So how do you proceed? get your thoughts together, ask him when would be a good time for the two of you to sit down and have a vulnerable conversation, tell him the subject so he has time to get his thoughts together too, and then when the time is right, talk it out.
Dude, this is why many men refuse to date single Moms. The therapists say the stepdad cannot ever discipline the step kids.
Well I'm out. If that 14 year old passes his Mom and I can't correct him? I'm gone!
It's not just her…
Reach
This time, I told him I was done and that we’re over.
So if you stay, he knows that he can cheat whenever he wants.
If you told him it's over, then it is over. Even if you don't leave him, the relationship is already over.
Just a thought… could you use a payi phone or a friend’s phone to call for domestic violence help I’d tie afraid he’ll see it on your phone? Do you have enough money to buy even one of the Little dictating recorder devices – they are inexpensive and could record a call that is on speaker.
Wishing you all the best, prayers for your safety and that of your family.
“Okay. I understand you want all your children to have your last name. Guess we are getting married so we can all share the same last name.”
So she doesn't want to… wtf, this isn't your right.
He cheated on her with you, and now you are being cheated on with her (or he’s cheating on both of you).
Just do it.
There should be highs! You shouldn't feel indifferent! It sounds like you just don't like his personality
Your mom is full of shit.
Have you told them?
After overlooking our relationship and asking the questions…my relationship with my girlfriend is great. There's been nothing wrong left unresolved, no red flags that I know of or even feel. I'm not tired of our relationship, there are things that she does that I love, she's very interesting to me and I find her extremely attractive. I love my girlfriend.
It looks like it was in the post because people where referring to it in the comments, something about sleeping with other men before they were even together, I read the post many time, it must have been edited out.
Wait… so you weren’t even close enough to these people that you considered yourself “dating” them, they’re just flings… but your bf is so bothered by that you cut them out of your life without question?? Girl. The red flags. How weird and controlling.
Yes …..tell him suck your tits or you can’t be friends anymore
YTA. Male violence against women is no prank.
A) you shouldn’t have pulled her back to ‘hear you out’
B) Her response to this was to try to slap you, not ideal but could be considered self defence in response to your behaviour
C) pretending to punch someone is not a prank.
She is perfectly in her rights not to accept your apology or see you again. A person who is meant to love her made her think they would harm her.