Then you think she can ever ultimatum her mom when she's the only one that raised her to now only be with you? Plus no children, so that would be her leaving her only blood family.
You did not make a mistake. You complimented someone you care about and they took it to a really weird place that no one should have been able to predict. He isn’t mentally in a place to be in a relationship if you expressing interest in him means he thinks his entire worth to you is now based on that.
He obviously has some real insecurity problems and needs to talk to a therapist. You should find one as well as your willingness to assume total blame is not healthy in the long term either.
little update: we spent a few days away from each other and he apologized for everything and offered to be monogamous again, which i happily agreed to. we‘ll both need time but we want to make it better together
It's wild how often it seems to be age gap relationships with these insane kinds of stories.
Then you think she can ever ultimatum her mom when she's the only one that raised her to now only be with you? Plus no children, so that would be her leaving her only blood family.
She could never keep it up.
No chance
You did not make a mistake. You complimented someone you care about and they took it to a really weird place that no one should have been able to predict. He isn’t mentally in a place to be in a relationship if you expressing interest in him means he thinks his entire worth to you is now based on that.
He obviously has some real insecurity problems and needs to talk to a therapist. You should find one as well as your willingness to assume total blame is not healthy in the long term either.
little update: we spent a few days away from each other and he apologized for everything and offered to be monogamous again, which i happily agreed to. we‘ll both need time but we want to make it better together