“I trust you but one time, someone else raised a happy and healthy child into adulthood, then found out it was the result of a singular indiscretion decades before so now I believe every single woman is guilty of infidelity and lying until proven innocent. All men should adopt my mistrust of women.” LOL, is he on weird forums that talk about how orgasms turn women into prostitutes and hobbies always turn into affairs? He is either not telling the whole story or he needs therapy cause his logic is flawed.
Read your edit and it’s nice that you’ve got an optimistic mindset and want to give things a chance, I only suggest that you give a time frame and stick to it. Ideally when someone is contributing so much less to a relationship I feel like it’s better to work on yourselves separately and if it’s real love and worth it you can choose to come back to each other not out of habit or as a crutch, but as two healthy people that want to be together. That way there isn’t the concern of putting an act on until they can slyly backslide. However, knowing yourself and your partner better than we do perhaps your way could work.
Equal partners shouldn’t have to manage each other. His tracking you obsessively like this is alarmingly controlling. Does his life revolve around you? Does he have nothing better to do than sit around and stare at an app when you’re elsewhere?
Yeah op needs to get in with this, before the gf tries some bullshit, “it’s been 3 days and you haven’t even tried talking to me, this is how little you care about our relationship”. Then all of a sudden op’s on the defensive, manipulated into defending something he doesn’t even want
“I trust you but one time, someone else raised a happy and healthy child into adulthood, then found out it was the result of a singular indiscretion decades before so now I believe every single woman is guilty of infidelity and lying until proven innocent. All men should adopt my mistrust of women.” LOL, is he on weird forums that talk about how orgasms turn women into prostitutes and hobbies always turn into affairs? He is either not telling the whole story or he needs therapy cause his logic is flawed.
Read your edit and it’s nice that you’ve got an optimistic mindset and want to give things a chance, I only suggest that you give a time frame and stick to it. Ideally when someone is contributing so much less to a relationship I feel like it’s better to work on yourselves separately and if it’s real love and worth it you can choose to come back to each other not out of habit or as a crutch, but as two healthy people that want to be together. That way there isn’t the concern of putting an act on until they can slyly backslide. However, knowing yourself and your partner better than we do perhaps your way could work.
This is absolutely insane and controlling behavior.
Equal partners shouldn’t have to manage each other. His tracking you obsessively like this is alarmingly controlling. Does his life revolve around you? Does he have nothing better to do than sit around and stare at an app when you’re elsewhere?
Yeah op needs to get in with this, before the gf tries some bullshit, “it’s been 3 days and you haven’t even tried talking to me, this is how little you care about our relationship”. Then all of a sudden op’s on the defensive, manipulated into defending something he doesn’t even want