I think it’s less directed at you and more a confidence or self image issue. Obviously the weight issues are present and causing this. Instead maybe start working out with her or figure out a weight loss plan because it’s clearly affecting her mental health. Your words can only do so much, discuss this with her and get her thoughts on how she wants to solve this issue. Show her that you really care.
It really sounds like she expects you to “take care of her” and doesn't think she should return the effort. See if she comes up with thoughtful gifts in the next two weeks. Don't buy her any birthday gifts before that.
I personally suspect that she's trying to get you to dish out for her birthday and that's why she started weaseling with “there will be more gifts over time”. Hell, she even missed Christmas! I don't think she's looking for an equal partnership and is aiming towards a spoiled princess relationship where nobody spoils you. And you deserve to be a little spoiled as well.
Also, birthday gifts over 500 seem really excessive to me, especially if they're not a shared experience like a vacation (at least at this point where you're not earning that much). Try to establish a reasonable budget with her. I mean, if she gave you a list, it would be reasonable if you got her one expensive thing or two cheaper ones, not the whole damn list.
thank you
Thank you so much
It's a big lump with knobs
There’s no way this is real ?
I think it’s less directed at you and more a confidence or self image issue. Obviously the weight issues are present and causing this. Instead maybe start working out with her or figure out a weight loss plan because it’s clearly affecting her mental health. Your words can only do so much, discuss this with her and get her thoughts on how she wants to solve this issue. Show her that you really care.
Google zwarte Piet. That's blackface and in some parts of Europe acceptable. Having a tan is not blackface.
It’s not whining. It’s a normal and acceptable thing to expect (XMas gift). I would just clarify how you feel and ask him for why he decided not to.
It really sounds like she expects you to “take care of her” and doesn't think she should return the effort. See if she comes up with thoughtful gifts in the next two weeks. Don't buy her any birthday gifts before that.
I personally suspect that she's trying to get you to dish out for her birthday and that's why she started weaseling with “there will be more gifts over time”. Hell, she even missed Christmas! I don't think she's looking for an equal partnership and is aiming towards a spoiled princess relationship where nobody spoils you. And you deserve to be a little spoiled as well.
Also, birthday gifts over 500 seem really excessive to me, especially if they're not a shared experience like a vacation (at least at this point where you're not earning that much). Try to establish a reasonable budget with her. I mean, if she gave you a list, it would be reasonable if you got her one expensive thing or two cheaper ones, not the whole damn list.
You are 30 years old. Please grow up.
No. I have absolutely never seen this work out, and I’ve seen a lot of it.
Exactly
I would leave him, even if it turned out I was perfectly healthy. And I’d tell everyone he knows exactly why I’d left.